Old age, sickness and death, the laws of nature, the old age without disease, with a smile nine springs, joy to the world of bliss. It can be said that everyone's ultimate belonging. In some areas of the countryside, there is indeed the phenomenon of mourning.
My three grandmothers, 87 years old, in the morning still playing mahjong in the village senior teahouse, home at noon after dinner, sitting at the dining table, the cigarettes are not yet finished, on the break, before and after less than 10 seconds.
Several of my uncles, uncles, rushed to notify friends and relatives, and so we arrived, three grandma life jacket has been fully dressed, lying in the doorway inside the cooler, I jumped kneeling bed, bawling, thinking of the three grandma life to me all kinds of good, and from now on can no longer see her, it is really especially sad. A few uncles, uncles are pulling me up, and persuade, people can't be resurrected after death resurrection, she is happy to die, worth celebrating only right.
The uncle's family invited the cook to the door, a feast, wide acceptance of family and friends, but also invited the said to be, the county's best band, before and after the three days of singing, there are sketches, magic, songs, opera, of course, funny, and even vulgar songs and dances, such as the song: today is a good day, happy monkey, a thousand years, such as a time, the little apple, the eight quit back daughter-in-law and so on these songs and dances.
I have been busy since the death of my third grandmother, driving and helping to purchase ingredients, memorial supplies. To help contact the crematorium, choose the burial ground, ushered in the work sent to the three days and two nights did not rest, a few days are immersed in grief and busy, listening to these songs and dances, I went to the stage to the band electronic piano, drums to them to lift, and then was pulled.
Not opposed to the custom of stopping mourning for three days, is afraid of the deceased fake death. I don't object to inviting friends and family to come and offer condolences, remembering the martyrs to our simple teachings. What I hate is that the solemn grief of the moment, was spoofed to destroy and desecration, live not filial piety, dead nonsense these rural habits, I hope to be replaced by civilized style.
When I was a child, I was most afraid that someone in the village passed away, because of the funeral that scene is particularly sad, in addition to the deceased's loved ones of a variety of grief cries, the funeral on the gongs and drums blowing na the kind of music is also very sad, so that people listen to the inexplicable sadness, uncomfortable, small, very afraid to hear the sound, once in order not to hear the sound, hide in the quilt to cover the ears.
To say that the rural "funeral happy to do" I have not seen, the end of last month, the village has an old man passed away, I do not know what is the reason for passing away, it is said to be quite simple, their home from our house is not very far, but the relatives of those who cried we can hear this side of the sadness, crying quite a long time, the back of the mourning time, also crying all the way, I did not go out to look at it, I did not go out to see. I didn't go out to see (the custom here is not to go see, but to close the doors and windows and stay at home).
Before I saw the video of some rural "funeral" on the Internet, I felt that some of them are acceptable, but some of them seem to be more vulgar, low-class fun, the scene feels more like entertainment for these living people, I personally think that some of them are too much, do not respect the deceased.
When I was studying, people in the dormitory would talk about some of their rural hometowns, some interesting things, strange things, a roommate talked about their rural hometowns, rural "funerals and happy to do" thing; that roommate said, rural "funerals and happy to do" is not all the deceased, and generally is not a good idea. People can do, generally healthy, high life (more than 80 years old), normal death of the elderly only, because of high life, which itself is a very happy thing, to the back of the normal death of natural death, the elderly did not have the disease, which is a good thing, to do the funeral ceremony to do some festive, not as serious as the traditional funeral of the crying of the dead, so that the elderly feverishly and happily to the other side of the world, which does not mean that their loved ones do not grieve. The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of the night, and I was in the middle of the night.
So this "funeral", I believe everyone can accept it? The countryside is acceptable, but I can not accept is some of the "funeral" on the low-level fun programs, such as inviting people to dance some of the pornographic dance, playing explicit love song music and so on, so that there is a component of entertainment, think of dozens of years of age of the deceased in the world also do not like such a program it, so engaged, do not respect the deceased.
And when it comes to the "funeral happy to do" on the music, in addition to explicit lyrics of the love songs, some also play "today is a good day", "a thousand years, etc.", "happy monkey" and so on the "festive" songs, just listen to the song title, let people! Some people are disgusted by the title of the song, is this a celebration of the death of an old man? If the passers-by do not know is to do the funeral, just hear such music thought it was a wedding, into the new home and so on to do the banquet put the music it, not very appropriate.
Now the rural "funeral happy to do" more and more lively, feel or do a little more conservative good, some of the more low-level bad taste of the show, music or do not engage in.
In the countryside, this "funeral" is the most common, from my memory has always existed, anyway, as long as there is an old man passed away in our area will be people over to give red packets, and then set up several tables, and make and eat a banquet, and then invited the band to play, will also be invited to the monks to come to the practice of the style, and so on, and some even! Some of them even stayed up all night blowing and playing, making it impossible for us to sleep peacefully. In my memory, funerals and joyous occasions are the most lively.
After the death of the elderly to "funeral ceremony" is also a requirement, the age of the elderly to reach at least 70 years old, and is not because of the death of the disease, and then the death of the elderly children are filial piety, which can be "funeral ceremony". In fact, after the death of the elderly so lively and the Chinese tradition has a relationship, China since ancient times, there is a pilgrimage to the ancestors of the United States, that people pass away does not mean the end of the deceased can be prayed for posterity, blessing of future generations, so the future generations of people will be the funeral is very grand, hope that the elderly can be better for the future generations of prayers.
And now the funerals are tarnished, and those who do not know may still think it is a happy event. Some people do not care about the elderly during their lifetime, to the elderly after the death of the funeral to make a very grand, for fear of gossip, some are even in the comparison, feel that the lively to do is filial piety to the elderly. In the past, the funeral simply invited a suona class to play under the burial, but now they feel that the suona class is not loud enough, but also invited a band, making the whole street know. Even more outrageous is also invited to perform some vulgar things for everyone to enjoy, all kinds of tricks.
Personally, I don't think it's necessary to make such a big fuss after the death of a person, it's the greatest respect to the old man before he died.
The above is a personal answer, I hope it can help you.
Mourning is a social regression or social progress. Now the countryside, there will be a strange phenomenon, after the death of the family, should be immersed in grief, but instead of feeling like a happy event, to invite some people, blowing, singing, acting sketches, on the Internet has also broken out of people in the funeral scene, performing striptease such a thing to let everyone can not figure out, and more so that the older generation can not figure out how this society, how will it become! The first time I saw this, it was a very good thing that I was there.
Some time ago, I went back to my hometown in the countryside, it was a Tang elder brother who was already high in age, died after illness, was ready to go to the condolence, sold incense and paper and wreaths, ready to go to the condolence under the grand, but went back to the village to look at, in the front of the hearth, on a stage, in the front of the hearth, the fire curls, but most of the people have been sitting in the front of the stage, are watching a few young women's The music is playing the song "This is a good day", see this scene, I am really laughing and crying, is it really a good day to have an old man died today?
Asked my parents, my parents told me that this trend does not know when it emerged, in the past there are old people died, is to go to invite people to read the scripture super, playing the Great Compassion Mantra, and now someone died, playing "Today is a good day", even they can not figure out, can not understand.
For this phenomenon of mourning, I think it is a degradation of people's thinking is a manifestation of social retrogression, there are old people died, should be to pay tribute to the Lord, to silence mainly, and more advocate funeral from the thrifty practice, for the mourning of this strange phenomenon of mourning, should be actively guided, and abandon this bad habit, do you think so?
In today's people's concept, the elderly high life and natural death, called "happy mourning", but even happy mourning is by no means the same as the funeral with a "happy" way to organize, said The "funeral" is a strange phenomenon, not too much.
"Funeral happy to do" strange, simple old farmers can not figure out is normal, in our traditional concepts, people die for the big, but people die, whether it is a smile, or sick away, for the deceased's descendants are grieving. It is for this reason that the funeral has its unchangeable solemnity, this solemnity is not a disrespect to the dead, but is a great respect.
Last year, my grandmother passed away in the month of Lunar New Year, when I attended the funeral, all the people were silent and solemn, on the one hand, the memory of the deceased, on the other hand, I was afraid to say more than a few words to touch the sadness of the deceased's descendants, on the one hand, to express their own feelings of grief.
But nowadays, some rural areas have misunderstood the meaning of "happy funeral", and the funeral has become a "farce".
The so-called red and white wedding, people for the normal death and longevity of the elderly died called "happy", but this does not mean that the children and grandchildren of the elderly no longer grieve, the mood is no longer heavy, does not mean that the funeral can be treated as "happy"! "
It's a good thing that I'm living in the city.
I live in the countryside, from childhood to experience the changes in the funeral arrangements, when people were young, the way of the funeral, nothing more than singing opera, in the deceased before the platform to build a stage, and even sang three days of opera, expressing the memory of the deceased, and the beginning of the opera singing is still sad, and later developed into what the hustle and bustle of singing what the people in the village know that this is a great son of filial piety, to the parents of a great deal. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Later singing opera is not enough "eye-catching", the village funeral even appeared to dance bobble-head dance, beautiful women dressed in cool, follow the dynamic music dance bobble-head dance, many spectators, from time to time a burst of applause.
Then later, the rural bad taste further upgraded, appeared to dance striptease program performance. Funeral affairs to this point, in fact, has been very excessive. However, in recent years, more excessive appear, "big filial son" have invited to special song and dance troupes, performance program more exciting, yellow paragraph, invisible implied, body implied and so on endless, and the small children under the bleachers and even fierce head want to explore the bottom of the skirt of the performer, so people can not help but laugh.
The above is our village experience "funeral happy" change history, this year's Spring Festival, our village has a family to the old man "to do three years", invited a funeral song and dance troupe, the details are not described, the performance content! The content of the show from time to time let people blush, from time to time let people laugh, sometimes you have to be convinced, in the rural areas without limit of bad taste, really can achieve the effect of claptrap.
And the song and dance troupe of "filial piety" need to be exactly this kind of happy happy effect, beautifully called "happy mourning".
In fact, in my opinion, this is the "happy funeral" misunderstanding, before the funeral blowing suona are people feel bad, and now directly break through the lower limit, the more you go the more crooked, if there is no song and dance troupe set up right in front of the funeral hall, I think anyone can not feel that this is in the funeral, but also thought that who is married it. In the end, what is the reason for this strange phenomenon appeared?
I think it is nothing more than a change in people's thinking, and the consequences of the rural big funeral climbing into the wind.
In the countryside for the life of the end of the old man, known as the "happy funeral", people are always looking for ways to create a happy concept, through a big deal, firecrackers, gongs and oboe, singing and dancing to express this mood, which is not normal, for the old man's children's grief should not have been expressed in this way. The first time I've seen this, I've seen a lot of people who have been in the same situation.
On the non-natural death (such as always sick in bed) of the elderly, the funeral ceremony will be held in silence, my grandmother died last lunar month, belonging to the perennial bedridden, after the death of three days of mourning in the home on the silent burial. Although not invited to dance troupes perform, but still held a fireworks show and oboe sound.
Why? In fact, it is the village's psychology of comparison at work, think not to do is unfilial, is to the old man disrespect. And this kind of big funeral ceremony in the village between people to compare the wind, your family sing opera, my family dance, your family lively my home to do more lively, as if this is worthy of "filial piety" of the name. Based on this, some people even borrowed money to "funeral ceremony" of the lively.
This "funeral" of the strange phenomenon want to completely solve is not overnight can be resolved, need a long process.
(Wen/Abing)
When I was a child, I was most afraid that someone in the village had passed away, because the funeral that scene is particularly sad, in addition to the deceased's loved ones of a variety of grief cries, the funeral on the gongs and drums blowing the na the kind of music is also very sad, so that people listen to the inexplicable sadness, uncomfortable, when I was small, I was very afraid to hear the sound, and once in order to not hear the sound, hide in the quilt and cover your ears. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm sure I'll be able to do it.
To say that the rural "funeral happy to do" I have not seen, the end of last month, the village has an old man passed away, I do not know what is the reason for passing away, it is said to be quite simple, their house is not very far from our house, but the relatives of those who cried we can hear this side of the sadness, crying quite a long time, the back of the mourning time, also crying all the way, I did not go out to see I didn't go out to see (the custom here is not to go see, but to close the doors and windows and stay at home).
Before I saw the video of some local rural "funeral" on the Internet, I felt that some of them are acceptable, but some of them seem to be more vulgar, low-class fun, the scene feels more like entertainment for these living people, I personally think that some of them are too much, do not respect the deceased.
When I was studying, people in the dormitory would talk about some of their rural hometowns, some interesting things, strange things, a roommate talked about their rural hometowns, rural "funerals and happy to do" thing; that roommate said, rural "funerals and happy to do" is not all the deceased, and generally is not a good idea. People can do, generally healthy, high life (more than 80 years old), normal death of the elderly only, because of high life, which itself is a very happy thing, to the back of the normal death of natural death, the elderly did not have the disease, which is a good thing, to do the funeral ceremony to do some festive, not as serious as the traditional funeral of the crying of the dead, so that the elderly feverishly and happily to the other side of the world, which does not mean that their loved ones do not grieve. The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of the night, and I was in the middle of the night.
So this "funeral", I believe everyone can accept it? The countryside is acceptable, but I can not accept is some of the "funeral" on the low-level fun programs, such as inviting people to dance some of the pornographic dance, play explicit love song music and so on, so that there is a component of entertainment, think of dozens of years of age of the deceased in the world also do not like such a program it, so engaged, do not respect the deceased.
And when it comes to the "funeral happy to do" on the music, in addition to explicit lyrics of the love songs, some also play "today is a good day", "a thousand years, etc.", "happy monkey" and so on the "festive" songs, just listen to the song title, let people! Some people are disgusted by the title of the song, is this a celebration of the death of an old man? If the passers-by do not know is to do the funeral, just hear such music thought it was a wedding, into the new home and so on to do the banquet put music it, not very appropriate.
Now the rural "funeral happy to do" more and more lively, feel or do a little more conservative good, some of the more low-level bad taste of the show, music or do not engage in.
Our old family even if the old man is 100 years old gone filial son filial daughter also want to cry funeral, most people live when the children will be filial piety, after the death of the funeral depending on the family's situation to do with the scenery or from the simple. As my family sent away 86-year-old father, five years later sent away 90-year-old mom [tears] [tears] [tears] [tears] [tears] [tears] [tears]. Although they are considered high life, but our siblings are crying very sad, even my sister-in-law is really crying, she said that although the parents are older, but really gone or not. As a child, it is even more so that even older parents are still parents, and it is really hard to let go of them. Parents in the place to come, parents are gone we only have the way back? [tears] [tears] [tears] [tears] [tears] [tears] [tears]. We sent our parents up the mountain in a simple but not too simple manner. Although we are in the same place in Fujian, we definitely do not learn the bad habits of rural Fuzhou or Mission Minnan. A friend of mine in Minhou County, Fuzhou, whose 95-year-old grandmother died, spent more than two million dollars on the funeral, with ten teams of dragon and lion dancers, dancers and singers, and the funeral procession was three kilometers long. The funeral procession was three kilometers long. The funeral lasted five hours, and I served as his video cameraman, which caused me a lot of pain, and the hand-held camera almost broke my hand. This is really money to burn, I heard more than once on the way to the funeral [teeth] [teeth] [teeth] [teeth] [teeth] [teeth]
My family in Sichuan, in recent years, also follow the trend. The old man died also invited song and dance team, singing and dancing is not enough, but also to engage in some non-vegetarian paragraph, the whole point of belly dance. To be honest, it is very awkward, should laugh or should cry? I remember when I was a child, the village has an old man died are doing "family rituals". Is to recount the old man's life experienced the pain and joy, such as the experience of the difficult years, parents and relatives left ... good events such as: birth, school, marriage, children ... In short, very touching, coupled with the "master" high-pitched crying and singing, it is simply a heartfelt speech. Now it seems that there is no such ceremony.
For the "happy mourning" said since ancient times, but is not the same as the current "funeral happy", "happy mourning" refers to the age of over 80 old people die without disease, but also just in the statement called "the", "the", "the", "the", "the", "the", "the", "the", "the", "the", "the", "the", "the", "the" and "the". Also only in the statement called "happy funeral", not to subvert the tradition, but now many places in the countryside but this "happy funeral" to make a face completely different, made "funeral happy" form, which makes people can not understand.
Personally, I'm not sure if you're a fan of this kind of thing.
Personally, I feel that the funeral can be happy to do, but also to send the old man a solemn journey, can not be like some rural areas, some places are simply to catch up with the General Assembly, some of the "triple" program endless, so that it looks unorthodox, I remember that in Province A, I have seen a so-called "happy funeral", even with the so-called "happy funeral", there are a lot of people, and I think it's a good thing that we have a lot of people.
In fact, funeral customs I still agree with Henan Xinxiang, we all know that Henan Yu opera is very famous, in Xinxiang have seen this scene, specifically a crying parents link, is a professional actor to cry, singing words are also very educational, are not easy to talk about the content of the parents, this a form to be a lot better than the province of A. Should be advocated for some of the similar things, singing and dancing are also exempted.
In fact, the "happy funeral" can be done more simple, there is no need to get like a wedding, these should be a local custom, we may look strange, the local should feel so good, so there is no way to directly make a judgment, this also has to be related to the guidance of the relevant departments.
We Hunan small Tianfu, from the Han Dynasty customs inherited to this day
died aged 80 years on the joyful mourning, but still more than crying.
Tell us about some of the traditional funeral customs here
When you die, the filial family the first time in the production team in each household to report filial piety, kneeling that is, by a person led by the filial son to the door.
Visiting the old man, got the letter last side of everyone to go, commonly known as visiting the old man, people inside the home to see people kneeling.
Men take the initiative to go forward to help, women feel good will also be in the visit to the old cry.
At this time, the filial son to go to his grandmother's home to report the funeral, can not seat chair, with a whip to go.
Inside the home to take a final bath, the ancestors of the water before and after the eight swab down.
Hearth arrangement, divided into spirit, shrine, kill the chicken, light incense, a little later, there will be people to mourning, so be quick.
The woman in the back to receive the hanging guests, crying, the more fierce and louder on behalf of the more sad filial piety.
Make a series, start the musicians, the spirit of the front four worship, peer two worship, to the spirit of the last series, to accompany the East kneeling to thank each other, to the filial son of the series, to help up, lead the guests to each other series of lead to the table of wine, tea set, the filial son of the table to kneel down to thank.
It is not advisable to go straight back.
The night song with the dead, the main family, daughters, nieces, and so on, each invited the singer to sing a night, the old saying, the night song night song light light, a night and a half dinner with the light of the day
Neighbors and friends come to the seat at night to accompany the dead.
The origin of the night song
Confucianism, from the Han Dynasty, ancient in front of the grave singing three nights.
With four words and eight lines, singing questions and answers, allusions, current events, history, humanities, customs, are the subject matter, usually several singers, snatch answer or point answer, singing sad, a white, all in the singer for the deceased to make a name for themselves, for example, classic stories, discussing the topic of
Singing drop good, ask is verse, answer is verse, test the singer's deep cultural heritage and ability to respond, there is a bucket of literature, the benefits and disadvantages
In the middle, someone beat the drum.
At one or two o'clock in the morning, the proprietor of the banquet to entertain guests, who invited the singer who paid for cigarettes and wine.
Now the singer wants 200 red packets, ancient times, shoes, handkerchiefs
Sometimes the singer more than 20, are interested in enthusiasts, to the day of fasting, hanging filial piety (hanging incense) that is finished,
The Buddhist ceremony has, three days and two nights, seven days and eight nights of the dojo, more than two choices, there are Buddhism, Confucianism, Taoism, Confucianism, but you say, the most complicated.
The old shouting rituals, kneeling, rituals (scriptures)
Before the opening of the event: five clothes within the presentation of clothing, on the white clothes, with filial piety,
Late generation vertical wear white mourning, the younger generation to wear horizontal filial piety, filial piety son to wear, filial piety hat, hemp clothes, straw rope, straw shoes, filial piety stick.
A complete set of traditional culture.
Evening Taoist priests, broken hell, crossing the Naiho Bridge, (hemp stone drops) to untie the knot, friends and relatives to play lamps for several hours, divided into different relatives, the first hall of the main family (family), the second hall of the ancestors, the third hall of relatives and friends, etc.
Among them is the Zhanhua Wen, the main accompaniment of the deceased in the garden, and also advise the world to re-filialization from now on.
During the day, there is also a welcome ceremony
process, not far from the door, gong, sign in, lamps to attract guests, respectively, two peers, two of the younger generation, and even the elders, the general clan,
each other a step forward, 90-degree bow backward to lead to the other generation, and finally to the spirit of the front of the kneeling
to welcome the ancestors after the most solemn, half a mile outside the door, filial piety, family, family, daughter, nephews, etc., kneeling in front of the door, the family, the family, the family, and so on. The daughter, nephew, etc., kneeling in the first row outside, is a very good view.
Houzu, generally there are rituals, dragons, bands, gold and silver mountains, rituals, large wreaths, large gongs and drums, is the whole welcome ceremony is the most solemn hot a, to the dragon and dragon festival shouting rituals, complex.
After the ancestors generally come to people, more than three tables, there are drops of seven or eight tables, lies in the size of his family, so some small surnames, climb outsiders to support the face.
The bride's family should have talent grand, the deceased only have a reputation.
This custom in "Hunan Xiaotianfu Guang Emei Shanhua" someone ate Road "pump not"?
Before the white event can not pump drops can only hang red.
Some of you have what kind of customs, may also be in the comments of the place, I talk about.
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