What do men and women rely on to maintain their feelings
First, learn to praise each other Since you are together, I'm sure the other party must have attracted you, learn to appreciate each other's advantages, praise each other from time to time, do not be shy, do not hide anything in the heart, whether it is boys or girls, are in need of praise, mutual praise, your love will be more sweet. Secondly, learn to tolerate Even with the parents who gave birth to you and raised you will have quarrels, not to mention that you are from strangers to lovers stage, your shortcomings are also in the get along with constantly be found. Love, but also to love his shortcomings, do not force him to change his shortcomings, sometimes, there are shortcomings of him will be more lovely. Third, do not fight in public Whether men or women, are animals wanting face, in public unpleasant, should control their emotions, everything is good to discuss, give each other face, do not get out of hand to the point of no return. Fourth, not only one party to pay Money, for many people is a sensitive word. Each date, if all the costs only one person to bear, to the time of the argument, may be because of money and affect the feelings. Therefore, both *** with the same pay, is to maintain the basis of the relationship. Fifth, learn to create surprises Perhaps inadvertently a kiss, a small gift carefully made, an unexpected encounter can make the lover sweet day. Sixth, generously introduced to friends to meet each other introduced to each other's friends to meet, this is a kind of trust, is to prove that really care, you are sure of each other the feelings. Seventh, looking for *** with the interest of the so-called words do not talk more than half a sentence, for example, he likes basketball, but you like to shoot, over time, you will find that you do not *** with the same topic, then the feelings are easy to dilute. Have *** with the same interests, will make your love warming, you may want to try to plant potted plants, do cake, go climbing together and so on. Eighth, do not ask too many things Everyone will have their own secrets, even the closest people will not say a word, do not try to understand all of him, you have to believe that one day, he will naturally say to you. What do men and women rely on to maintain their feelings 2 maintain a relaxed environment in the marriage mode, in fact, also has a direct impact on the two people on the marriage of the view. When the home environment of two people, full of gunpowder flavor, will make the relationship between two people, become very tense. They don't want to get along with each other and even want to stay away from their other half. Respect for each other is an ancient praise for couples, who get along well with each other. Of course, for us modern people, more pursuit of marriage freedom, in addition to mutual respect, we also need love. But love still needs to return to life, and the essence of life can not be separated from the plain. How to make a relatively easy state for each other's marriage, is the need to take the effort to think about. Encourage each other A lot of people in their hearts, in fact, are not confident in themselves. Especially for the unknown things, we will unconsciously have some fear. But at this time, if you are surrounded by a person who is y in love, willing to encourage you and accompany you to move forward together, it is like an armor on your body. In marriage and life, we encounter all kinds of storms. Even though every day is hard work, you feel in your heart that it's worth it. Because you know that when you feel tired, there is someone else, who will support and encourage you. Your dedication and hard work will be seen and recognized by the other person. It is not that we are afraid to give, but we are afraid that after we have given, the other person will turn a blind eye. Resolve Conflicts It is normal for conflicts to arise in a marriage. In every relationship, there will be a period of time for bonding. How to deal with the problems that arise during the break-in period will directly affect the next time you get along. Two people living together, from habits to three views, all need to grind. If the method of resolving conflicts is wrong, it may make two people drift apart. Some people get victory for a momentary quarrel, but little by little they push their other half farther and farther away. It is a very basic thing not to get cold feet and not to make personal attacks on each other during a fight. When you find the right way to resolve conflicts, you will find that the frequency of your quarrels, will gradually decrease. Proper Communication Quarreling is also one of the ways that couples, communicate with each other. But not all quarrels, are meaningful. The right way to communicate is not just to vent your emotions. Rather, it's about listening to each other while expressing your emotions, feelings and thoughts. You need to know what's going on in each other's minds, not what you're taking for granted. Sometimes the conflict between husband and wife, not really do not agree, but a little misunderstanding between each other. Speak out your heart, can avoid a lot of misunderstanding. Really want to operate a relationship, communication is indispensable. Express their feelings Many people in the middle of the marriage, it is easy to have a misunderstanding. It is that after marriage, there is no need to express their feelings. Think each other are old married, in what love or not, seems too strange. But the more you think this way, the easier it is to make each other feel no love. Marriage does not require you to love each other, but the minimum expression of feelings, or need. If two people in the marriage, can not feel any temperature, the marriage and the future ` life, it is difficult to expect. Men and women rely on what to maintain feelings 3 1, understanding and recognition Understanding each other and mutual recognition, is the basis of two people together. Only when two people understand each other, understand each other, and to each other's words and deeds and position, then two people may be together. If even this basic ****iness is not there, then it is impossible for two people to come together and live their lives or **** things together. Getting to know someone well enough is the process of getting to know someone. In getting to know someone, there are two possibilities of understanding and not understanding the other person. If the other person is on the same page as you, then you will be able to understand what he is doing. If one is not on the same path as the other person, then it will be difficult to understand the other person. There are many factors that determine whether a person is on the same page or not. Often there are many determining factors. It is possible that one's own and the other person's origin and location is similar, then the other person then do some things, one will be easier to understand, because people who have the same experience, the formation of the behavior of most of the way have **** commonality. It is precisely for this reason that we will find that people from poor families, for those around them this frugal behavior is very agreeable; part-time workers and part-time workers are generally the same front, while the boss and the boss is mostly in collusion. Sometimes they and the other side of the same circle, then the other side then do something, they are also easier to understand each other. As the saying goes, people are divided into groups, what kind of people will generally get together with what kind of a piece. For example, if you are engaged in music, your friends are mostly art players; square dancers can always get together because of the circle. Understand a person, his behavior, then two people two people in a piece will not have so much sense of incompatibility, which is the basis of two people together in the foundation, but also two people feelings of long-term maintenance of the foundation. In life, we often find that the object of the teacher is more teachers, or educators; showbiz mix of stars, the other half of most of them are also mixed showbiz; arts and culture workers, the object of the handover is also engaged in the arts and culture work of the people. These all stem from the same circle of people have **** sex, many times to communicate with very few barriers, each other on the other's many ideas and positions will be more in favor. Speaking of which, some people must have questions? If so, then why there are so many people break up, they are not **** sex it? There are generally two main reasons for this situation. One reason is because they're in a circle, so it's easier for people to identify with each other. But a lot of times, we see the real external attributes of the label, and in the real get along, *** after the matter, sometimes will realize, and they imagine that identify with the label attributes and not the same, then at this time, it is likely to go their separate ways. For example, Yoshiko is a teacher, and David is also a teacher, so I thought we are teachers, there should be a topic, the results after getting along with the realization that many of David's faults are unacceptable to himself, so this time will most likely go their separate ways. Another reason is because people will change, or the economic situation has changed, or status changes, or because the two people cross a certain cross between the terrain can not be passed. A lot of couples in life, the beginning of the time can get along, but later due to the occurrence of a number of things, one of the people, or two people have changed their hearts, so, it is also difficult to continue to maintain the relationship. Similarly, and their own **** things siblings, relatives, coworkers also have this situation. Through the above I believe we can basically understand, understanding and sense of identity in, then the relationship between the two people in, if this understanding and sense of identity is missing or destroyed, then the relationship will be difficult to continue to maintain for a long time. 2, there is consistency of behavior If the understanding and identity is the cornerstone of two people's feelings for a long time, then two people have a certain necessary consistency of behavior is to maintain the feelings of a long time of activity. Said some abstract, a little more concrete. A couple that is emotionally compatible is the foundation for two people to be together. But if after being together, two people rarely have two people *** with **** in the space, one to do their own things, rarely have intersections. Then such a relationship is difficult to long. Only under the assumption that both sides are able to understand and agree with each other enough basis, the feelings between the two people activities, more intersection, then this way the two people will get along more and more harmonious, of course, the feelings are also more easy to maintain for a long time. Let's say, because of the same occupation, or feel that the concept of similar, two people came together. This is a good foundation. But in the next time, if the two people do things separately, you do not care about me, I do not care about you. Usually seldom do some things together, or their own kind of single when the individualist style and posture, or ignore each other, focus on their own things. Then a long time, such a relationship is not long gone. There are so many examples of breakups in life for this reason. After marriage, long-term in this kind of mindless cold violence state, for the party who cares is undoubtedly a painful destruction. Imagine, why two people together, is not a figure of mutual comfort, mutual help. Two people do some consistency of things, in fact, is also two people further mutual communication and understanding of the process. In this process, each other can further deep understanding of each other's nature, each other's behavior, style of action and so on. This way, if the time is long, there will be a tacit understanding, to do things is also more comfortable. Life we will find that those who are older, the more the two couples, with the more tacit understanding, and sometimes communicate with just a look, or a micro-expression action, the other side will also understand. Why is this? The result of a lifetime together and a lifetime of bonding. Often, the more this kind of see the secret without sparse feelings, the more solid, but also will be more long-lasting. In fact, when you look at it, you will realize that two people in a piece of **** things or life, maintain the relationship is like making a dish. How to make this dish have flavorful, fully combined in one piece, and not seem so scattered, and even made after each is the taste of each? That is constantly stirring, so that each other as far as possible together, the flavor of your full to him, his flavor fully absorbed to you, then when the time comes out of the pot, it is a perfect one of a kind. The life **** thing is actually like this. A lot of couples are quite good at the beginning, but then walk around to the loose, not because of anything else, is because of the mingling of things is too little, do not pay attention to care for each other, and each other and melt, and even think that the marriage is a family, but also will no longer to the previous as affectionate and sticky. Or time is long, tired of not pay attention to maintain the relationship between each other. In this way, over and over, found that the feelings between each other fade, did not start that time so much **** with the topic, did not start that time the love points. When the feelings are too pale, then the love is nothing to do, will only face the destruction.