Wen Li doesn't care. Whether she likes her father or mother doesn't affect her love for her children. As a result, the child's answer made her feel scared and chilling. "I like grandma best, and grandma is best for Yang Yang."
The childish voice of the child made the adults laugh, especially the mother-in-law, who held the child in her arms and kissed her again. No one noticed Li Wen's painful and stiff face.
After going back in the evening, Wen Li felt more and more uncomfortable. Mother-in-law and her "grabbing the child" flashed in her mind like a movie, vying to feed the child and not letting the snacks she bought secretly give it to the child. When the child cried, she took the child away, thinking that she was too young to coax the child ... Wen Li couldn't sleep all night.
1. Children are emotional substitutes for the elderly.
In modern society, children gradually move away from their parents with school, work and marriage. Parents feel powerless and lonely about this irresistible departure, especially those who live a child-centered life.
Therefore, when a pink doll with her own blood and even a little similar to her own child appears, their love with nowhere to put it will be released, and grandchildren will naturally become substitute compensation.
2. Children are chips to show family sovereignty.
We all know the old saying-marry a daughter-in-law and forget your mother. This sentence may be laughed off in Ma Bao's eyes, but in her mother-in-law's eyes, it is a direct expression of her inner feelings. My son, who valued his parents' opinions, now puts his daughter-in-law first. Originally, he was used to his lifestyle, and now his son has to run in for his daughter-in-law.
These performances may be hard for some mother-in-law to accept, thinking that this is a symbol of their declining status, their sense of security will be lacking, and their desire to win or lose and their desire to defend will rise. At this time, their dependence on her has become a bargaining chip to show their status and power.
1. Distract your attention and attack your interest.
In fact, because old people can't adapt to modern society, they usually have nothing to do, so their attention is focused on children. Why not help the elderly adapt to society and find their own spiritual life, such as helping them use smart phones or tablets and expanding their "circle of friends"-square dance, dance clubs, universities for the elderly and so on.
When old people are young, they may sacrifice their hobbies because of their children and life, communicate with children more or be caring children, and help children pick up their hobbies-flowers and plants, painting and calligraphy, music, singing and even photography. Once you have friends and hobbies, life is full of excitement, and naturally you have no time to care about these things.
2. United front, seize the husband
Communicate well with your husband and try to ask your in-laws for advice about some unprincipled things. You don't have to accept their opinions, but you should make a gesture of respecting them. It is also appropriate to listen to the old man's thoughts on some things. A husband does a good job as a lubricant and usually gives his wife more opportunities to show it.
Simply put, it is to let the old people see the daughter-in-law's dedication and kindness to this family, to let them feel that their son's lover is a woman who joins the family, not a woman who breaks up the family, and to let the old people enjoy family happiness with precious mothers.
3. Return to communication and mutual understanding.
Ma Bao has changed from a slim girl to a parent, and her mother's natural devotion and selflessness to her children have made the new parents deeply realize that "the pregnancy is heavy in October, but the reward is light in three years". Ma Bao and Bao Dad should be grateful to their parents and treat their parents' behavior with a kind eye and an understanding attitude, which will reduce the acrimony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and facilitate communication with the elderly.
Once you can communicate with your mother-in-law, you can gradually master the initiative and right to speak in raising children. Ma Bao must understand that the ultimate goal is to achieve a balance of love. Everyone can love and be loved, which is the harmony of family.
In a word, if treasure moms want to solve this problem, they must adopt the idea of peaceful victory. If you want to win the battle without bloodshed and win kindness, you must understand the deep-seated reasons of your mother-in-law's behavior, grasp the key points of "love" and "compensation", break all kinds of barriers with your mother-in-law one by one, and never break the connection between your mother-in-law and your daughter-in-law in a tough and rude way.
Doing so affects children's psychology, hurts the feelings of husband and wife, and easily lays the groundwork for the breakdown of marriage. Only by bringing a harmonious atmosphere to the family can we bring healthy growth to our children and let them bathe in their parents' companionship and in-laws' loving childhood! (The pictures are all from the Internet and have been deleted. )