My friend's brother asked his family if it was convenient at hand and wanted to transfer 20 thousand yuan to do business. It won't be long before he returns it. We were puzzled at the time. His brother and family are working in other places, leaving only his old mother to look after two children at home, which is equivalent to four adults. The three of them made money together, and nothing happened at home these years. How can they borrow money?
I asked my friend, and he kept shaking his head: "Forget it, how much is Lili a month?" I don't know the password. Her husband has the salary card. By the end of the month, her husband didn't even say hello, and the money left directly. "
"How could he agree? This is my own money. " I asked in confusion.
"It's not very honest. Even my mother-in-law feels that she can't control her husband, can't keep the house and can't keep money, so that her husband can spend money outside. " Friends know the root of the matter and tell us some facts.
Later, we didn't lend him money. After all, it is difficult for everyone to make money, not to mention that they are not rich.
It's just that every time I think of Lili, I still remember her face. How should a simple, relaxed and refreshing post-80s peasant woman arrange her own money?
I think she has worked outside for so many years, but she doesn't know how to grow up and manage herself, which not only protects her dignity, but also protects the interests of her family.
02
I think of my in-laws. The life of their generation should not be as democratic as ours.
My father-in-law is very strong and my mother-in-law always obeys him. My father-in-law always thinks about where he is and does whatever he wants. I've never seen her mother-in-law stand in the way, or say what she thinks. At most, she is whispering behind her back, so low that we can't hear what she is saying at all, except complaining about ourselves.
Maybe she is venting her inner voice, a person's thoughts, a person's soliloquy in this way, and then she works endlessly. What should she do?
Mother-in-law's life is the interpretation of the disadvantaged groups. When she was young, she often lived a hard life because old boys was rejected by her family. Later, with his family and his brother, life finally turned around.
In those years when I met my family, my mother-in-law seldom laughed a few times. Maybe she is too tired to bear all her life, and she has lost her fantasy, not to mention the quiet years.
Fortunately, now that she is old, her father-in-law is very kind to her. She has made a 180 degree reversal, learned to cook three meals a day, changed her diet and took care of my elderly mother-in-law.
Listen to good advice, learn from smart people and reap the fruits. This may be the hard work of my mother-in-law in the first half of her life and the good fruit in the second half.
Although my mother-in-law is not very literate, I see a strong "forbearance" and a "forbearance" in her. All my life's youth has been devoted to hard work and resentment, and I have no experience. I just hold a belief-to keep this family and these children.
Only this, let me understand the glorious side of her old man's house, simple and kind, hardworking and patient, selfless dedication to family and children, and burned out the youthful days of our lives.
03
Sister Zhang Can managed her husband well, but she went too far.
Some time ago, I had a quarrel with my mother-in-law. Only after asking about it did I know that I owed my mother-in-law alimony for several years. No, my mother-in-law came to see me, and the two sides had a terrible argument. Mother-in-law is right, right, ordinary snacks can be used as a topic of quarrel.
In fact, Zhang Jie is very good and true to others. She only treats her elders well, supports the elderly and takes good care of her family. She doesn't know how to set an example for herself and be a mirror. Lead by example, do it yourself, expand sources for yourself and future generations, and broaden the financial path. The so-called harmonious housekeeping will accumulate happiness.
We're not just about one person. Sometimes every word and deed, every move, every action, and a kind word all affect children's daily study more or less.
Being a mother, in particular, has a far-reaching impact on a family. This is really important and not easy.
Sometimes you have to take care of your husband and protect your money. You don't know how to cultivate your body and mind. You are arrogant and competitive and good at infighting. Instead, it is another kind of "loss."
Nowadays, although rural areas have lived a well-off life, some groups are still willing to spend a lot of money for their children. Treating the elderly is not too much, but it is another kind of affection.
04
After spending half my life in the countryside, I have read all the stories of many women around me, and they have also tied me down deeply and shallowly, enriching my farm life.
In fact, whether in rural areas or towns, women should have their own.
Whether it is mental growth or one's own way of life, there is always one thing to keep in mind. Dealing with people, emotional communication, or parent-child interaction, not being squeezed, not being squeezed by meanness.
Tolerance, generosity, softness, humility, simplicity, kindness, like a ray of sunshine.
(1) For example, I can make products and handicrafts. I am making sacrifices for this family, so I deserve to be respected, not how much money you earn.
(2) Secondly, I don't have the ability to make money, so I'm taking care of my family and my baby, and I'm also giving and taking on the role of a mother. I'm afraid some people don't like doing anything, have a lot of business, and some have time to go out and play cards. This kind of daily company will make them angry.
(3) Don't be conceited and look down on yourself. You have your own source, your importance and your pride. A flower and a grass can make a beautiful spring, not to mention the warmth in the family, you and I are indispensable.
05
The implementation of life depends on the practice of you and me alone, and it is difficult to move forward in a long night.
To manage yourself, to put it bluntly, is to learn to have fun in life, not to be persistent or far-fetched. You are the icing on the cake. I am more independent without you.
If you like square dance, you can use it at night. After practicing for a long time, there is always one or two dances that you can master. Occasionally going out with everyone to participate in some public welfare performances is also a kind of beautiful "colorful", which not only enriches one's life, but also has a happy expectation.
Can be said to be interesting, good relationship, found the exit of life.
Kaya can be vulgar, but earth can be luxurious, but the market can be prominent. Since then, life has become more noisy and there have been fewer gossips.
Your own beliefs, your own rhythm, all the way forward, forward!
Cut off the thorns, watch the flowing clouds, and expand a road of prosperity, housekeeping, happiness and growth.
Holding a normal heart, a soft heart, a happy heart and a generous heart is the secret; Always practice the wisdom method, keep an ordinary home and put yourself in a quiet time, and you will definitely get out of the open life.