The so-called gentleman is a kind of virtuous, learned, capable and courteous man. It is a strong-willed, physically strong, a new man whose body and mind are fully and harmoniously developed.
"Gentleman" in ancient China mainly refers to a social class, in the West, the gentleman that is "gentleman", initially also contains the identity, status, but later gradually developed into the main emphasis on educated, polite, Moral meaning. With our ancient "gentleman" word has a similar meaning.
The basic characteristics of a gentleman are: upbringing, courtesy, respect for women, virtue.
"Among the various characters of a man or a gentleman, virtue is the first and most indispensable." "If there is no virtue, I do not think he will be happy in this life or the next."
The second virtue that Locke considered to be essential in a gentleman was good manners. The purpose of etiquette training is to teach the secret of living in the world, so that people are popular and valued everywhere, thus enhancing happiness in life. Locke pointed out that there are two kinds of bad manners: coyness and shyness; misbehavior and arrogance. To overcome these two shortcomings, one is to have self-confidence and the other is to respect others. Rudeness, contempt, nonchalance and difficulty are most avoided in socializing. An educated person who knows manners is one who speaks and behaves with elegance and generosity, treats others without condescension, and gets along naturally and harmoniously with others. "Whoever knows how to make the other person feel comfortable without being servile and degrading himself, he can be said to have gained the true skill of dealing with the world, and will be welcomed and valued everywhere."
II. The words and deeds of a gentleman:
The so-called words and deeds, the most important is self-control, followed by honesty, courage, and finally kindness, not to say words that hurt others, not to bring pain to others. In the public schools of England, courage, loyalty, and leadership are chiefly cultivated in the juveniles, and in character they practise calmness, prudence, self-control, and restraint of feeling, regularity of language and dress, calmness, and prudence of tone and manner, conservatism, steadiness, reflection, and absence of pride.
. A man who is honest, harboring a strong will, yet artificially controlling the manner of speech, dress and demeanor, and who does everything according to the norms. Whoever has gentlemanly behavior is a gentleman. "The image of the gentleman in the future will surely evolve in the direction of transcending nationality, as it has done in the past, beyond the boundaries of birth, property and power."
Queen Victoria ultimately made Britain known throughout the world as a "nation of manners". Queen Victoria herself was renowned on the European continent for her elegant personal grooming, and she demanded that she be elegant, decent, dignified, and restrained in every way. Her own children in the courtesy of more stringent requirements, set up a series of strict house rules, the slightest indiscretion, they will be mercilessly whipped and caned. The Victorian era was later called "the polite society", that is, the polite society. The behavior of the Queen of England had a great impact on the British society later, and became the highest standard for them to imitate one after another.
III. Can we become gentlemen?
The eighteenth-century English writer of popular moral essays, Samuel? Smythe said, "A true gentleman is a man molded as the highest type. The qualities of ...... a gentleman depend not on his mode of life or his manners, but on his moral worth; not on the amount of his personal property, but on the goodness of his personal qualities."
"A true gentleman does not need to take into account his origin, whether a peasant, or a nobleman, can be a gentleman, and everyone can be gentle, patient, tolerant, and courteous. ...... A man of wealth and nobility may not have the qualities of a gentleman. Instead, a person of low status may become a gentleman both in speech and spirit; he can be very honest and temperate, upright and courageous, self-loving and self-reliant. A poor man who is rich in spirit is undoubtedly much nobler in every respect than a rich man who is poor in spirit." [ix] A man who has lost everything is still rich as long as he retains courage, joy, hope, virtue, and self-respect. For such a man is still trusted by the world, his spirit becomes a capital for making money, he can still walk upright, and he is a true gentleman.
Courtesy, which is the gentleman's behavioral characteristics, courteous, respectful of others, which is the most outwardly a characteristic of the gentleman. This politeness is manifested in his instrumentation manners, his friendliness to people and other aspects. Polite people, which is the most basic characteristics of a gentleman. A real gentleman behavior gentle and elegant, humble and polite, will not be easily angry, not to mention the initiative to provoke. He never maliciously guesses others, as for himself to do evil, that is not even think of things. He endeavors to restrain his own desires, to improve his own taste, to speak cautiously, and to respect others.
Respect for women is also an important aspect of the gentleman's behavior and courtesy, its behavior and courtesy is not only to all people, but also concentrated in its attitude towards women, and because of the Western culture has a tradition of respect for women, so that respect for women as a gentleman's manners of the basic elements.
A true gentleman should be consistent. A jewel is brighter when it has light on it, but it has to be a jewel first and foremost. In the end, behavior is only the appearance of a gentleman, and does not really determine his character. Politeness is also only external; it can never replace a person's inner moral fiber. Morality and politeness are both related and different, therefore, a true gentleman must not only be polite on the outside, but must also be virtuous on the inside.
What are the standards of a gentleman?The modern sense of the gentleman's manners (a) pay attention to grooming and clothing neat and tidy. Men should not be vulgar and unkempt, women can not be frivolous and vulgar. (B) speech and behavior polite, elegant and generous. In communication, when making introductions, the custom in Western countries is to introduce the first male to female, will be introduced to the young to the older, will be introduced to the status of the low status of the high status, can not reverse the order, or else it is considered impolite. (C) civilized language, politeness, do not do anything beyond the bounds of propriety civilized language, is a polite expression of a gentleman's manners. Civilized language is a polite expression of a gentleman's manners. "Please", "you", "thank you", "sorry", "goodbye ", these civilized words show a person's education and manners. Gentleman demeanor code of conduct editorial section Men courteous often can also show the civilized society of men's moral style, but also can be seen a man's degree of education. In fact, men's demeanor should not only be shown in the interaction with his girlfriend, should also be shown in daily life on the attitude of the lady. (1) You should first greet the familiar ladies you meet with a slight nod. If a lady comes towards you, please remember that you can only shake hands with her if she offers her hand. (2) When you happen to meet a familiar lady in a public *** place to greet each other, you may not shake hands, but you must take your hands out of your pockets, take your cigarettes off your lips, and stop chewing if you are eating, and of course, the same goes for ladies. It is undignified for a man to stop a lady in the street, even if she is an acquaintance. Exceptions can of course be made if there is an emergency. (3) If you and your partner meet an acquaintance while walking down the street, you should not leave your partner alone to talk endlessly with the acquaintance. You may introduce the acquaintance to your partner, but if you have to talk to the acquaintance about something that cannot be explained in a few words, you may make an appointment to meet him or her at another time or call him or her on the phone. (4) If a woman is in your car, you must open the door and let her sit in the passenger seat before you sit in your own seat. When a woman gets out of the car, you should get out first and open the door for her. It is not a good idea to open the door from inside the car. Of course, you should not let a woman take out her luggage by herself. (5) When meeting a woman you know well in a café or restaurant, show your welcome by slightly curtseying from your seat. If a lady approaches you, stand up and talk to her. (6) If your girlfriend needs to go to the bathroom to tidy up during the party, you may send her to the lobby, but walk around carefully so as not to disturb the people who are dancing. (7) After the party, if you are in a position to drive your own car or take a taxi to send your girlfriend home, don't forget to thank her for accepting the invitation to the party. This is usually done by watching your girlfriend approach the door of the building or home. It is more polite to get out of the car and walk your girlfriend to her door. Once, U.S. President Washington said to his secretary, "I don't quite understand that men of many classes in England can be called gentlemen, officials can be called gentlemen, lawyers can be called gentlemen, doctors can be called gentlemen, businessmen can be called gentlemen, and even the jobless can be called gentlemen． There are gentlemen in the nobility and gentlemen in the poor. Why is it that so many people, from all walks of life, can be called gentlemen? You go and inquire for me what a gentleman really means． "After more than two hours, the secretary came back to Washington and said "master, for you to find out, gentleman is not to give others trouble people．"
Not a gentleman is to do the work
But to do the work of a gentleman
We pay attention to their appearance and demeanor, elegant posture, can leave a courteous and educated impression of the person called a gentleman
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Gentlemanly
Gentlemen are the public of the Western countries, especially in the British male public revered the basic norms of etiquette. The basic norms of etiquette. The requirements of public interaction in attention to their appearance and demeanor, elegant posture, can leave a courteous and educated impression.
First, the British tradition of gentlemanly demeanor
(a) clothing worn on the appropriate appropriate. One should be in line with their own identity, and the second should be suitable for the occasion.
(b) introverted, humorous social intercourse
(c) the principle of lady first etiquette.
In the UK, it is a natural etiquette tradition for women to accept men's respect and men's protection. For this reason, the British Home Office has issued a "Ten Commandments Notice" to men.
Second, the modern sense of gentlemanly manners
(a) pay attention to grooming and neat clothing. Men must not be vulgar and unkempt, and women must not be frivolous and vulgar.
(b) Behavior and manners are courteous, elegant and generous.
In the communication, when making introductions, it is customary in Western countries to first introduce the male to the female, the young introduced to the older, the low status introduced to the high status, can not
upside down the order, or else it is considered impolite.
(C) civilized language, politeness, do not do anything more than polite
civilized language, is a gentlemanly manner of a polite performance. "Please", "you", "thank you", "I'm sorry", "goodbye", these civilized language ", these civilized language performance of a person's upbringing and demeanor.
Chivalry
"Chivalry is the cultural spirit of the Western upper class, and its system arose in the upper class in medieval Europe, the knights themselves are some of the middle, small, feudal lords, the acquisition of knighthood is a warrior to enter the upper class sign, but this is generally hereditary. As a noble title, it had to be earned after a long period of service and through certain rituals. If a son born into a noble family wanted to become a knight, he had to be 7 or 8 years old, that is, according to the rank of his birth in order to the higher feudal lord and his wife as a squire, 14 years old for the attendant, that is, trainee knights, to receive specialized samurai knight training, 21 years old, through rigorous examinations and grand, ceremonies, oaths and other religious rites, before formally obtaining the knight's title. From such a system of culture, obviously a closed, aristocratic culture, the spirit of its culture is also an aristocratic cultural spirit. The chivalric system has the rule that knights are not allowed to fight with commoners, which can be seen in its temperament. It values status, pays attention to cultivation, keeps promises, respects regulations, and is a is a socially ordered cultural spirit."
"Chivalry and morality is the aristocratic cultural spirit of the upper class, it is based on the personal status of the superiority of the spirit of morality and personality, but it is also the accumulation of this Western European national ancient martial spirit of certain positive factors. For example, Belynsky pointed out that "the love and respect for the individual's personality; the generous and courageous spirit of the oppressed and forced to sacrifice all their strength and even their lives; the worship of the woman as the earthly representative of love and beauty and the idealization of the woman as a god of harmony, peace and comfort, etc., Western scholars have pointed out that: in terms of the tendency to choose the character of the tradition prevails in Europe. Western scholars point out that tradition prevails in Europe in terms of the tendency to choose virtues. In the Western cultural tradition, medieval chivalry has played an extremely important role in shaping the national character of modern Europe.
It constitutes the so-called "gentleman's spirit" in the Western European nation, and forms the modern European focus on personal status and honor, and on manners. Etiquette and appearance of the manner; for the reverence of spiritual ideals and respect for the romantic qualities of women's aspirations; as well as adherence to the open competition, fair competition, and the spirit of the Fei and Lai quality. In short, it makes the modern European national character contains both elegant aristocratic temperament components, and both promise-keeping, helpful, for the ideals and honor sacrificed to the bold martial character. Knight's eight virtues: humility, integrity, compassion, valor, justice, sacrifice, honor, soul!
One, the Chinese gentleman has a pair of clean and slender hands, neatly trimmed nails. Two, although not smoking, but carry a lighter with you, in order to facilitate in the surrounding ladies smoking for their light. Three, change their shirts every day, keep their collars and cuffs flat and clean, and in some cases use cufflinks. Fourth, do not hang items, such as cell phones, pagers, etc., around your waist. Fifth, in the company of women, do not miss every detail in order to take care of the lady, and almost completely subconscious state operation, a hundred battles. Never make a sound while eating. Seven, more frequent use of polite language than the average person. Preferring solitude, he seeks peace of mind, quiet of body, and *** meditation. Gentlemen, therefore, good thinking, good dance, good literature and art classics, never read the flashy and noisy works, including film and television. Look over a couple of eyes, if you think vulgar, will never pick up, including discussion. Nine, joy and forgiveness do not show color, in the crowd alone in silence. Ten, in the attitude towards love is too much thinking, often seem indecisive.
What is a gentleman, what is the standard of a gentleman?"Gentleman" explanation:
Gentleman, or squire, the old refers to the local powerful landlords or retired bureaucrats. After the Sino-Western interaction, the word was used as one of the translations of English gentleman.
The English gentleman refers to the English gentleman, who usually carries a civilized stick in his hand, wears a big hat on his head, wears a straight suit, and kicks his shoes. In medieval England, "gentry" (gentleman class) is a social class, the social status is second only to the nobility, such as Sir and other positions. A male adult of this class was called a "gentleman" at the time. "Gentleman" originated in Western Europe in the middle of the 17th century, and was developed by the "knight" who was full of chivalry and heroism, and then flourished and developed to the extreme in Britain. Gentlemanliness is the externalization of the British national culture, and it is a brand-new style that is fused into a new kind of values based on the spirit of the aristocracy and mixed with certain values of the various classes of the British society in the process of aligning themselves with the upper-class society. Values fused into a new social culture.
The gentleman's code:
The man is often polite and courteous can also show the civilized society of men's moral character, but also can be seen in a man's degree of education. In fact, men's demeanor should not only be shown in the interaction with others, should also be shown in daily life on the attitude of others.
(1) You should first greet the familiar people you meet with a slight nod. If another person approaches you, remember that you can only shake hands with them if they offer their hand.
(2) When you happen to meet a familiar person in a public **** place and greet each other, you may not shake hands, but you must take your hands out of your pockets, take your cigarettes off your lips, and stop chewing if you are eating. It is undignified for a man to stop others in the street, even if they are acquaintances. Exceptions can of course be made if there is an emergency.
(3) If you are walking with your partner and you meet someone you know, you can't just leave your partner alone and keep talking to the person you know. You can introduce the acquaintance to your partner, but if you have to talk to the acquaintance about something that can't be explained in a few words, you can meet them at another time or call them on the phone.
(4) If someone is in your car, you must open the door and let her sit in the passenger seat before you sit in your own seat. When she gets out of the car, you should get out first and open the door for her. It is unsightly to poke around inside the car to open the door. And of course, you can't let her take out her luggage by herself.
(5) When meeting someone you know well in a café or restaurant, bow slightly from your seat to welcome them. If he approaches you, stand up and talk to him.
What are the standards of a gentleman?Gentlemanly manners Being courteous, treating people with modesty, dressing well, talking elegantly, self-cultivation, knowledgeable, knowledgeable, loving, respect for the elderly, respect for the young, respect for women, no bad hobbies, good interpersonal relations. It is a man with a good heart and elegant demeanor. Modern sense of gentlemanly demeanor (a) pay attention to grooming and clothing neat and tidy. Men should not be vulgar and unkempt, and women should not be frivolous and vulgar. (B) speech and behavior is polite and courteous, elegant and generous. In communication, when making introductions, the custom in Western countries is to introduce the first male to female, will be introduced to the young to the older, will be introduced to the status of the low status of the high status, can not reverse the order, or else it is considered impolite. (C) civilized language, politeness, do not do anything beyond the bounds of propriety civilized language, is a polite expression of a gentleman's manners. Civilized language is a polite expression of a gentleman's manners. "Please", "you", "thank you", "sorry", "goodbye ", these civilized language performance of a person's upbringing and demeanor.
Who knows what the standard of a gentleman is?I want to ask that you want to know the standard of a gentleman for what? I'd like to ask what you want to know the standards of a gentleman for, to follow them?
In fact, to become a gentleman is not so simple, a gentleman is not just the external behavior, if you just pursue the external then it has fallen into the most vulgar level ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Look at the British literature, preferably not the kind of critical literature, if the kind of romantic literature, and then look at the internal reasons for all their behavior. the inner reasons for all their behavior, why they do what they do! The only way to become a true gentleman is to start cultivating it from within ~~~~~~~~~~
What is a gentleman? What is the standard of a gentleman?Definition: The so-called gentleman is a man of virtue, learning, ability and courtesy. It is strong-willed, physically strong, and a new man with a comprehensive and harmonious development of body and mind. "Gentleman" in ancient China mainly refers to a social class, in the West, the gentleman that is "gentleman", initially also contains the identity, status meaning, but later gradually developed into the main emphasis on the meaning of educated, polite, moral. With our country's ancient "gentleman" word has a similar meaning. The basic characteristics of a gentleman are: upbringing, courtesy, respect for women, virtue. "Among the various characters of a man or a gentleman, virtue is the first and most indispensable." "Without virtue, I think he will not be happy in this life or the next." The second virtue that Locke believed a gentleman had was good manners. The purpose of etiquette training is to teach the secret of dealing with people in the world, so that they will be popular and valued everywhere, thus promoting happiness in life. Locke pointed out that there are two kinds of bad manners: coyness and shyness; misbehavior and arrogance. To overcome these two shortcomings, one is to have self-confidence and the other is to respect others. Rudeness, contempt, nonchalance and difficulty are most avoided in socializing. An educated person who knows manners is one who speaks and behaves with elegance and generosity, treats others without condescension, and gets along with others naturally and harmoniously. "Whoever knows how to make the other person feel comfortable without being servile and degrading himself, he can be said to have gained the true skill of dealing with the world, and will be welcomed and valued everywhere." II. THE WORDS AND DEEDS OF A GENTLEMAN. By words and deeds, the most important thing is self-control, followed by honesty, courage, and lastly, kindness, not to say anything that will hurt or bring pain to others. In the public schools of England, courage, loyalty, and leadership are chiefly cultivated in the juveniles; calmness, prudence, self-control, and restraint of feeling are practiced in character; language and dress are standardized; composure and caution in tone and manner; conservatism, steadiness, introspection, and lack of self-pride are practiced. . The man who is honest, harboring a strong will, yet artificially controlling the manner of speech, dress, and demeanor, and who does everything according to the norm. Whoever has gentlemanly behavior is a gentleman. "The image of the gentleman in the future will surely evolve in the direction of transcending nationality, as it has in the past, beyond the boundaries of birth, property and power." Queen Victoria ultimately made Britain known throughout the world as a "nation of manners". Queen Victoria herself was renowned on the European continent for her refined personal grooming, and she demanded elegance, decency, modesty, and moderation in all she did. Her own children in the courtesy of more stringent requirements, set up a series of strict house rules, the slightest indiscretion will be mercilessly whipped and caned them. The Victorian era was later called "the polite society", that is, the polite society. The behavior of the Queen of England had a great influence on the British society later on, and became the highest standard for them to imitate one after another. III. Can We Be Gentlemen? Samuel Smythe, an eighteenth-century English writer of popular moral essays, said, "The gentleman is a gentleman. Smythe said, "A true gentleman is a man molded as a supreme archetype. ...... The qualities of a gentleman depend not on his mode of life or his manners, but on his moral worth; not on the amount of his personal property, but on the goodness of his personal qualities." "A true gentleman does not need to take into account his origin, whether a peasant, or an aristocrat, can be a gentleman, and everyone can be gentle, patient, tolerant, and courteous. ...... A man of wealth and nobility may not have the qualities of a gentleman. Instead, a person of low status may become a gentleman both in speech and spirit; he can be very honest and temperate, upright and courageous, self-loving and self-reliant. A poor man who is rich in spirit is undoubtedly much nobler in every respect than a rich man who is poor in spirit." [ix] A man who has lost everything is still rich as long as he retains courage, joy, hope, virtue, and self-respect. For such a man is still trusted by the world, his spirit becomes a capital for making money, he still walks upright, and he is a true gentleman. Politeness, which is the gentleman's behavioral characteristics, courteous, respectful of others, which is the gentleman's most outward appearance of a characteristic. This kind of politeness is expressed in his instrument appearance, he is friendly to people and other aspects. Polite people, which is the most basic characteristics of a gentleman. A real gentleman behavior gentle and elegant, humble and polite, will not be easily angry, not to mention the initiative to provoke. He never maliciously guesses at others, and as for doing evil himself, that is something that is not even thought of. He endeavors to restrain his own desires, to improve his taste, to speak cautiously, and to respect others. Respect for women, is also an important aspect of the gentleman's behavior and courtesy, its behavior and courtesy not only to all people, and concentrated in its attitude towards women, and because of the western culture has a tradition of respect for women, so that respect for women as a gentleman's manners of the basic elements. A true gentleman should be consistent. A gemstone may be brighter when it has light on it, but it must be a gemstone first and foremost. In the final analysis, demeanor is only the outward appearance of a gentleman and does not really determine his character. Politeness is also only external; it can never replace a person's inner moral fiber. Morality and politeness are both related and different, therefore, a true gentleman must not only be polite on the outside, but must also be virtuous on the inside.