The child's plasticity at a young age is quite strong, and he will learn from the closest people, no matter whether something is good or bad, the child is young and has no ability to identify and judge, so most of the time he will take it all in stride. The different living habits of the contemporary elderly and young parents have given the children different influences in their parenting.
01Who brings the baby is important: grandpa will write, grandma will dance, and mom and dad will play with the phone
Heard of such a paragraph: grandpa will write, grandma will dance, and mom and dad will play with the phone, although there is a funny element, but it does reflect the different life norms of the younger generation and the older generation, and it also reflects the status quo of contemporary parenting. Netizens with humor mood to flirt a bit, but in fact it is also worth our deep thought.
Generally speaking, young parents now have to go to work to earn money, and the vast majority of children are taken care of by the elderly at home. Elderly people with children also need to have their own life, so they will let their children participate in their daily leisure and entertainment programs together. From the videos shared by some netizens, the children brought up by their grandmothers will follow her to go square dancing. In a group of middle-aged and elderly people, the presence of children is very nerdy and interesting. Because of their strong learning ability, the dance movements of the square dance are also very standard, and some children have even become small netizens by dancing square dance.
Grandfather with the child, is to go with him to the street in the writing brush, the child holding a small hand hard to grip the big brush, squatting on the ground to concentrate on writing, handwriting is very beautiful, the surrounding and grandpa like the same age can not help but crowded over, a great appreciation of the intention. The children brought up by their grandparents have learned a specialty or skill that one can't help but admire.
Many young parents' daily leisure after work is to play with their cell phones, so kids brought up by mom and dad are likely to follow them in tinkering with their cell phones and slowly become addicted to playing games, watching live streams and other content. The children brought up by parents who love to play with cell phones not only don't let their children learn a skill, but also develop bad habits, which is extremely detrimental to the physical and mental development.
02What bad habits of parents affect children?
①Addicted to cell phones
Parents are addicted to cell phones all day long, the child will also be very curious about cell phones, and when he can use the phone, he will also spend most of his time on it, and not so much attention and seriousness to learning.
2Don't follow the rules
If parents don't follow the rules in their daily life, such as making a lot of noise and throwing garbage in public places, or breaking the red light on the traffic road, the child will also learn to disregard the rules, which is not only annoying, but also a safety hazard.
3 dishonest
Some parents promised their children or others things, turn their heads and then do not recognize, the child in such a subconscious, it is likely to form two extremes, one is to become so abhorrent behavior, but also began to feel dissatisfied with their parents, and the second is to think that mom and dad are doing this, they can also learn. Either way, it's not conducive to healthy growth.
03What should parents do in front of their children?
①Lead by example
Parents should be as careful as possible in front of their children, even if they can't show their children all the good aspects, they shouldn't put their bad habits in front of their children, after all, it's much easier for people to learn from the bad ones.
②Always reflect
Parents in the process of parenting, should always reflect on their own concepts and behaviors, of course, you can also take the excellent side of the person or the past as a reference, and constantly learn to evolve, and strive to be the best state of mind to bring children.
04 Conclusion
Whoever brings up a child determines the environment in which the child will grow up, so whether it is a grandparent, or a mom or dad, in contact with the child, with a strong sense of responsibility, to their own excellence to him to create a good educational environment.