Morning's husband said he wanted to take his 65-year-old mother from his hometown to the old age, morning heard that there is no problem. After all, it's not easy for an old woman in the countryside to raise a college student, and it's good to know how to be grateful. However, immediately after Chenchen's sentence, so that her mother-in-law and her husband flipped on the spot.
"Elderly can, but have to go to the nursing home, I have no time and no obligation to serve her!" In Chenchen's opinion, her husband's support for his own mother that is the obligation, but she did not enjoy her mother-in-law's care for a day, there is no responsibility to solve the problem of her old age. The first time I saw this, I was so happy to see that my wife was so unreasonable that my husband accused her of being inhumane.
But Chenchen asked: "When I gave birth for your old Chen family, did she take care of me for a day? Yes, she came for a day and brought me a meal once, but that meal was still overnight. It was my own mother who took care of me. If you want to call her inhuman, she deserves it. If you don't want to, fine, then serve yourself, and don't hit me over the head with your thoughts!"
In the end, although her mother-in-law was not sent to a nursing home, but Chenchen and her husband's feelings fell to zero point, and did not speak for a long time. In Chenchen's opinion, the monthly revenge can be remembered for a lifetime, not unrewarded time has not yet come. How her mother-in-law treated her in the first place, now how she will return the favor.
When Chenchen posted this story online, quickly attracted the support of many female friends, we have praised and commented that "did not experience the helplessness of the month, do not take the filial piety of the dead."
One, why the monthly hate can remember a lifetime, look at these three women's confession
Women 1: monthly hate not **** Dai Tian, mother-in-law should not be at this time to bully me
Monthly time, my mother-in-law said that her rheumatism is guilty of can not wait for me, so my mother came over on her own. Every day when my mom was cooking, my mother-in-law was downstairs dancing, and when my mom was washing the kids' clothes, my mother-in-law was in the living room watching TV. Later, my mom saw my father-in-law smoking at home, and couldn't stand it any longer, so she quarreled. I don't want my mom to be aggrieved, so I let my husband take care of me, but my husband how can he cook, or rely on himself. At that time I expanded my sickly body, to make soup for myself, so hard to boil. So, women do not give birth to a child out, do not know mother-in-law is a man or a ghost.
Women 2: mother-in-law let me in the month and overnight soup, said very nutritious
I sat in the month mother-in-law did serve me, but that premise is that I want to hire a sister-in-law was too expensive for her to dismiss. As a daughter-in-law, I thanked her for taking the time to take care of me, but I will never forget the overnight soup she gave me. My mother-in-law thought I didn't know that she picked out the freshly simmered chicken and ribs, then poured in yesterday's leftover meat and continued cooking. When my husband came home, she kept the fresh meat for herself and my husband, but served me the leftovers, saying in front of my husband, "This is freshly cooked". I'm not sure if I don't hate her, but after all, the human heart is made of flesh.
Women's 3: mother-in-law's patriarchal appearance, I can remember a lifetime
Mother-in-law is a typical patriarchal, the birth of the oldest is a daughter she was not happy, and immediately let us want the second child. When the second child was born, it was a daughter again, and this time she began to verbally attack. I heard her say to my husband, "Your daughter-in-law is a chicken that can't lay eggs, so get a divorce and find someone who can give birth to a son." Fortunately, my husband loved me and forbade my mother-in-law to say these things in front of me.
But after having two children, she didn't give me a bowl of brown sugar and egg soup during the month, and went back to bed at night every day. At that time, I was skinny to the bone, the whole wrist bone is very obvious, I can not forget to go home that will mom's red eyes.
Second, what are the causes of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict intensified
1, open mouth is to be two
As the old man, we all have more children or the idea of son preference, so the daughter-in-law in the daughter-in-law after the birth of the first child, will not be able to resist in front of the daughter-in-law nagging to get well in preparation for the second child. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing and how you are doing it.
2, refused to take care of the daughter-in-law
Some mothers-in-law think that usually the daughter-in-law does not go with their own will, so in their time to sit in the moon will be excused not to take care of. However, the mother just after the birth of the most weak, if the mother-in-law can not assume the responsibility of caring for them, then they will remember a lifetime, until the mother-in-law will not take the initiative to take care of the later years.
3, only take into account the child does not take into account the daughter-in-law's idea
Elderly people on the grandchildren are more love, so in the issue of child feeding, will always give priority to the child. For example, every day forced daughter-in-law to drink soup milk, wash clothes only wash grandchildren and son's, do not take into account the mood of the pregnant woman. There are also some pregnant women in the month because of the discomfort produced by the blockage of milk, but the mother-in-law not only do not take care of, on the contrary, accusing the pregnant woman of their own things, these chilling behavior more than one, but also became a woman's heart biggest pain.
Three, how to alleviate the moon triggered by the mother-in-law war
1, mutual understanding and mutual concessions
No matter what, the daughter-in-law is willing to husband's family with the life of the child, which the mother-in-law should be more sympathetic to the daughter-in-law's uncomplicated. Usually more care for the daughter-in-law, more tolerance, after all, the mother's body is weak in the month, should avoid more quarrels. Even if there is a big conflict between the two sides, you should leave this problem to your husband to solve, so that you can solve the problem quickly, but also to avoid the intensification of the conflict.
2, pay attention to the two sides of the exchange
Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law itself is halfway between the strangers, to get along with 100% into the biological mother-daughter-like state is obviously impossible. For this reason, when the conflict occurs, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should sit down and take the initiative to communicate, to discuss their own shortcomings and future modifications, so that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will become better and better.
3, stand in each other's point of view to think about the problem
Whether it is the mother-in-law or daughter-in-law, in the month should be more for each other to think about, for example, daughter-in-law want to eat what meals, the mother-in-law with a day of the child is not tired and so on. It is important to realize that hearts are made of flesh, and only if you treat others with sincerity will they treat you in the same way. So, when the problem occurs after the first do not rush to quarrel, try to stand in the position of the other party to think about the problem, is also a good way to resolve conflicts.