In love, people have an uncontrollable habit: the more they love a person, the more they like to stick to each other.
When a woman moved after the true love, life will be unconsciously centered on the man, everything beforehand think of the man, always around the man around, the circle of life is also too lazy to take care of the work is also too lazy to take care of the heart only think of the man with the man, take care of the man's life, sympathize with his mood.
We are not ignorant of the truth, but we often just can't control our own little emotions. Just as we all know that it is better to rely on people than to rely on oneself, investing in oneself is always the least regrettable thing. But in front of the people we love, we always have no intention to do other things, just want to be with him, but also called "follow the heart". This is human nature.
It is also based on such human nature, "distance produces beauty" or "love of man is not as good as love of self" also, all the cognitive and rational all be forgotten to the back of the head, a defeat.
From the social level:
Adler, the Austrian psychiatrist and founder of individual psychology, once said that everyone is an individual in a social group, and that everyone's character and habits cannot be separated from the social rendering and shaping.
We first live in the group, and then we are an individual, everyone is not out of nowhere, everyone can not be separated from the group to survive. Some people may argue that whoever lives in the mountains by themselves for decades is still alive and well.
People who have seen the sun will not stay in the night. After seeing the sun still love the night people, the heart must also desire the warmth of the sun, just can not help.
In other words: "isolated" people, most of them have never been out of their own acres and acres of land, do not know how beautiful the outside world, so they will be attached to their own place of survival, like today's society still exists in some of the primitive tribes of the original inhabitants in general, they can not be integrated into today's society, and do not want to join, because they do not realize that "the sun", "the night", and also y love the night. They are not able to integrate into the present society, nor do they want to join it, because they do not realize that there is still a society outside the tribe, a world outside the society, and a universe outside the world, and what awaits these tribal residents is only to die out slowly and then not to appear again, which is referred to as the extinction.
The second type of "isolation" is the people who are disappointed with the society, want to die but do not have the courage, can only hide and live, and this kind of people in the heart, the same desire to join the social group, but forced by their own incompetence, can not join, can not be integrated.
Back to the birth of the original, if the fathers did not integrate into society, there will not be your existence. Everyone doesn't just suddenly appear out of nowhere.
As far as the social level is concerned, a person who is separated from the group cannot be considered a complete person. And it is sad that we have the ability to be "human" but we give up this life!
On a personal level:
As mentioned above, no one can live apart from society.
The development of society is obvious to all, and it is not too much to say that it is changing rapidly. In such changes, a person if three years five years, or even ten years eight years out of society, want to reintegrate, I am afraid that it is unable to do so.
A woman who is at home with her husband and her children is to be commended in our country's traditional concept, but is it really worth advocating?
Everyone has an independent mind, who can guarantee that the man who accompanies you now will always love you, will never complain that you are at home all day without earning money, will always require you to look as beautiful as a flower and he earns money to support the family? There's no guarantee, and you'll never be able to look as good as you do.
When a man betrays and abandons, should a woman sit back and be abandoned by society? No! We still have the right to survive and live, we still have the right and desire to live and live better. However, the ever-changing society, all the industries are "reshuffling" every moment, when the skills can still adapt to the current development? The capital of the year's survival can still allow themselves to be safe in today's city?
The withdrawal of film is due to the birth of digital cameras; the withdrawal of BB and SmarTone is due to the emergence of cell phones; Nokia's Symbian system is gradually unattended because of the squeeze of Android and Apple systems. ...... The demise of any thing is not because it is bad, but because it can't keep up with the times and can't be adapted to the new generation. and can't be adapted to the demands of the new and new people.
It goes without saying that the skills of the day were not bad, they were just replaced by better ones. It's like the crafts of carpenters, blacksmiths, cobblers, bicycle repair stores, and individual barbershops in the streets. We still need construction, we still need shoes, we still need bicycles and haircuts, but all the systems have been mechanized, industrialized, and processed, and some trades have to be retired from the stage of history.
If at the level of society, the person who is detached from the group is a sad person. Then from the individual level, out of the group of people, is a kind of poor people, poor when the birth of the skills, now and in the future can only be reduced to the social abandonment of the skills, and even, their own mouths can not even eat a full meal.
So, do a high IQ woman it, love him also to love themselves, love him more to love themselves.
Don't ever leave your friends and relatives out in the cold, and don't give up your own social circle. It's not true that a person's life is not possible, but the life of two people should become better, not become worse than when you are alone.
Those you live alone, desperately trying to keep a job, desperately trying to protect friends and relatives, do not fall in love and get married after all give up. Don't pin your hopes on just one man, and don't let your future turn into one that is both sad and pathetic!