First, young widows of that era had stories before their husbands died. Old people in their seventies and eighties were born in an era when people needed to build. Some people leave and never come back. They waited with their children all their lives. Their stories have been broadcast on the news, and they also have unknown stories. These stories will disappear in the long river of history with their passing away. To be sure, these women, their families, have done a lot for the country.
Second, the widowed life of rural elderly women is not as idle as that of cities. Most of the widowed middle-aged and elderly women aged around 60 in rural areas have grandchildren and their children are married. Although I feel a little lonely, I am ashamed to talk about remarriage, and I am not nervous financially. Sometimes they are so busy sending their grandchildren to school that they forget loneliness. As they grow older, they gradually dilute the idea of finding a wife and reduce the contradiction with their daughter-in-law.
Moreover, unlike cities, widowed middle-aged and elderly women retired at the age of 60 have nothing to do, so they can't stay at home, go out for fun, take a walk, and sometimes dance square dance. There are many jobs in rural areas, and a 60-year-old woman can support half of the male labor force in rural areas, so it is wise for divorced women around 60 years old in rural areas not to find wives.
Third, in rural areas, marriage is really not enjoyment. I've been a nanny all my life. Haven't I done enough? Do you still have to give the last 20 years or 20 years of your life to others? Live for yourself for decades! The widow had children from two families when she remarried. If you get married, you should take care of the man's children, and if you have relatives, you will not care. If those men's children don't care about you in the future, you have no way out.
In rural areas, not in cities, but in rural areas, there are many rumors. If you remarry when you are young, you will be called dead, not to mention old age. If you are 60 or 70 years old and have a wife, you can't be a man unless you marry in another province and live in several nearby towns and villages. This is a fact in the countryside. Although it is disrespectful to women to say so, your respect does not mean that all people in ten townships and eight miles respect it.