How to do not be obnoxious when you are old?

In short, I think the elderly as long as to do the above four points, the basic will not be obnoxious. Of course this is just some ****ty stuff. If the young people do not know how to be grateful, from the bottom of their hearts do not talk about filial piety, the old man how to do he will be obnoxious. This is the old man to pay for their own failed education of young people, no one can do anything about it.

I think about this issue from the perspective of both young people and the elderly, to talk about people old, how to do will not be obnoxious.

First, do not live with your children. Whether you are an in-law or a parent-in-law, don't live with your children, you must have your own home. Even if the children's living conditions are very good, not bad, do not come to the children. If you need to bring up children for your children, get out when you are not needed. It's nice to get together once in a while for a meal and a chat.

Second, don't be a nosy old man, don't be a nosy old man. When the elderly do not talk too much, do not be nosy, and do not always pick young people's faults, this is not right, that is not. Especially do not count the son-in-law or daughter-in-law in front of the children bad, will inspire people's family conflicts. Do a simple old man, do not say an old man, everyone is not tired.

Third, do not participate in the children's family affairs. How people live their lives is their business. Never use their own habits and good and bad requirements of children's family life, such as getting up in the morning to fold the quilt, after eating, brush the dishes, clothes wash, how to educate the children and so on, these are not related to you. Social development is changing rapidly, the past practices and concepts have long been changed, the elderly cognitive has a distance from the modern society, so do not arbitrarily "point the way".

Fourth, if you have the ability, you can give your children's families as much help as you can. Including economic, life. When appropriate, you can reach out to help, to show concern for the young family, is conducive to closer to the children's feelings, but also conducive to the harmony of their spousal feelings. It can be direct financial help or material help. This is quite important!

V. Physical health problems. When life can take care of themselves, but need to be taken care of by others, we should consider going to a nursing home or find a nanny. Even if the children filial piety, willing to receive their own home care, it is best not to go. Because the children's work and life is already very stressful, and then take care of the elderly, the long time will certainly have conflicts. Although the nursing home conditions are certainly not as comfortable as their own home, although the nanny is certainly not as careful as the family care, but also to accept. This is the biggest and most difficult problem facing the elderly.

If I were old, I would follow the above points to do. What about everyone else, what are your thoughts?

1. Save some money for yourself

2. Don't live with your children

3. Don't be too sociable

4. Keep clean and tidy

5. Don't ask too much of anything

6. Don't ask for a full-time babysitter when you are able to move around

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8. Do not be too good relations with neighbors

In-laws more than 70 years old, last year in the Spring Festival, for reasons known to all, the four of us old people separated from the girl's home together for more than two months, and the two grandchildren stayed dozens of days and nights, I found a problem, the eldest grandson of the fifth grade, every time we eat together, as long as it is the grandpa chopsticks clamped the bowl of vegetables, the little thing will no longer be In that plate to clip food, and not much like and old people close.

My own old man is nearly 90 years old, people are old, a variety of functions in the gradual deterioration, in his sixties and seventies did not feel much, but the age of the older and older, when eating more and more problems, coughing, blowing their noses, but also feel that there is a kind of old man who can not be described taste, think of me now only 60 years old, their elders have a little bit of disdain, is it possible that my children or grandchildren would also be Is it possible that my children or grandchildren will also dislike me so much? Therefore, the question of today's topic makes me feel something, "How can I not be obnoxious when I grow old?" I would like to share my views and opinions on this issue with my peers.

Old age, sickness and death is a natural law, who can not escape, young people more or less dislike of the elderly is very normal, we are also coming from this stage, the problem is that people are old, we must know that they are in those areas that may be disliked by people to understand the faults of these people themselves, and then stand in the young people's point of view and then to examine their own, in the benefit of people in their own favor.

I do not know if you have such a feeling, many retired old comrades at work, pay great attention to their own image and etiquette, retired soon dressed in a very casual, and even hair and beard are very little to organize, and not retired before the judgment of the same person, giving a bad old man's image, it seems that all of a sudden on the old age of more than a dozen years, not to mention their own! The children see the heart of the difference, even if the former colleagues and subordinates are not easy on the eyes.

So the retired elderly must not think of themselves as old and useless, wearing and appearance is no longer deliberately to pack their own, we must know that as the elders of the family, not only for their own lives, but also have to take into account the feelings of their children, who want their parents to go out neat and decent ah.

People are old or more or less have a little taste of the old man, the breath of the parties concerned can not be detected, but the young people are very sensitive, perhaps they will not dislike their own old man on the surface, but often inadvertently will be revealed, and this is something that I have experienced when I was young, especially for their grandparents or older than 70 years of age.

People are self-awareness, the elderly to reach a certain age, still have the ability to take care of themselves under the premise, try not to live with their children, to maintain a relatively appropriate distance between the two sides are good, really want to *** in a room life, it is necessary to pay attention to good hygiene habits, daily necessities and children to be strictly separated, eat together with public chopsticks and public spoons, it is best to put their own to eat! The best thing to do is to put the dishes you want to eat on another plate in advance. In order to avoid the unintelligent grandchildren directly said out, then it is too embarrassing.

Young people often put the generation gap on their lips, the so-called generation gap is indeed an indisputable fact, the old man is still in good physical condition under the premise that you can try to help your children to take on some of the household chores or to help them with their children, but don't be a stickler for their own education methods, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren blessed, which is also not wrong, the old man's education methods and young people there are big differences. This is not a problem at all, the elderly and young people's education methods and there are great differences in our generation and children's perception of values are different, according to their mode of thinking with children, at least it is their business, do not try to be able to do. There are also a couple of family affairs, quarrels and quarrels when less interference, the more you manage the more obnoxious.

After the old don't think that they are still the head of the family, in addition to protect their daily expenses and the cost of medical expenses, other things such as real estate, deposits, receivable debt, etc., are handed over to the children to take care of the transfer of power to them to give their children enough to recognize the faith, to avoid the children to avoid the unnecessary trouble after the death of the children, I think that this is very important and important. This is a very important point.

This point of view may be a lot of older friends do not quite agree, in fact, it is this point will cause misunderstanding to the children, so that they have doubts in their hearts, leading to resentment or dislike, imagine, when you really like the walking dead lying in the hospital bed, you can count on who? What's the point of keeping more private money? It is better to hand over the money and power earlier, so that the children's hearts are a little more solid, on this point, we can discuss in the comments section to share their views.

It's a pleasure to respond to your question. First, you have to learn to pretend to be confused There is an old man around who is always pointing fingers at his children's lives, and when they don't want to, he teaches them this lesson: I've traveled a longer bridge than you have traveled, and I've eaten more salt than you have eaten. The old man has more than seventy years old, from the personal life experience, can be said to be quite rich and knowledgeable, but the children are also forty or fifty years old, they have long been not a child, has long been the formation of an independent outlook on life and values, with their own understanding of life and advocacy, for filial reasons, the children with the old man's will is contrary to the children will listen to the old man's advice, but inevitably, there are times when they do not listen to his advocates, and that time!

This is the first time I have seen an old man who is not able to think straight, lose his temper, or even sit and sulk.
These are the first time I've ever seen a person with a disability, and I've never seen a person with a disability who has a disability. The old man, you can put forward some reasonable suggestions on the children's life and work, but as long as it does not involve the essence of the problem, do not point fingers at everything, so not only can not play a role in guiding, on the contrary, it will be everywhere constraints, will interfere with the children's normal life, but also to let their own born a stomach of anger. In fact, the old man's advice may not be all right, the children's views may not be all wrong, people are old, do not interfere with everything, that will please the children, pretend to understand the confusion is not good? Secondly, you have to exercise your body At the age of sixty, our personal food and clothing is less and less, the person is old, the body is no longer the state of the young. At this time, we have to learn to pay attention to the body, exercise the body. Healthy body, we can enjoy life, only to have the opportunity to experience the joy of children and grandchildren around the knee, in order to have the physical strength and energy to enjoy the "sunset infinitely good" beauty. Give yourself a fitness program, every morning and evening to the park to walk, turn a turn, play a tai chi, play a game of goal ball, at the same time, our physical health, our children will not be worried about, their life is more quality, from this point of view, our body is good, but also for the children to reduce the burden, so that they are less worried about. Third, there must be personal hobbies By the age of sixty, we are no longer the company or unit of the backbone of the force, slowly retired or retired from the second line, at this time we, inevitably, some of the loss, at this time, we have to learn to interest in the transfer of their own hobby, to develop a hobby, free time, you can take the camera to the mountains to shoot the red maple leaf, and then the camera to go to the mountains to shoot the red maple leaf, and the camera to go to the mountains to shoot the red maple leaf. The mountains to shoot the red maple leaves, or with a few old friends to the park to play chess, or about the ball friends to play table tennis ...... Hobby is a very good interest in the transfer, it can vent bad emotions, improve our quality of life, so that we live a better life. Doing the above three, we can be happier in our later years, do you think I'm right?

My mother is 72 years old this year, in my opinion she is the obnoxious old man. Not to worry about the child even if it is, love to raise the bar, when anxious to say that I died, how many times I wondered: how can there be a mother like this?

I really envy those sisterly mothers and daughters. To be honest I hate my mother, I can't be pleasant to her, I often yell at her instead of speaking softly, and I regret it when I finish speaking to her, I try my best to control myself, but I find myself so depressed again, sometimes I feel I am really tired.

Last week to help pick up my nephew and niece from school, I saw a seller of fried cake in front of the neighborhood, 5 dollars to buy 7, I asked my nephew to leave two for the grandmother.

Back home at 12:20 pm, the two children will be sent to school at 1:00 pm, I rushed into the kitchen to fry, congee has been boiled in advance.

In fact, I myself have not eaten for a long time fried cake, I think the bear children will not think of leaving me a, afraid of delaying them to go to school, I did not bother to eat.

When I finished frying, the rice to the table, sitting next to the mother to give me a bag, I thought there is a fried cake inside, the heart of a hot, there are people think of me.

But I took this bag is very light, there is no one inside, the mother handed me is to let me throw it into the trash can.

At this time, the heart of the indescribable disappointment, I asked my mother: you did not leave me ah!

Mother said: I thought you ate it?

I asked her again: how many did you eat?

Mother said: I don't know, I ate several!

I've been thinking about this while eating, and my mother is really old, and when I was young, I thought about my children less, not to mention older.

On the way to send the children to school, I asked my nephew how many fried cakes he had eaten, and my nephew said he had eaten three, and my niece had not eaten a single one, which means that my mother had eaten four by herself.

She usually likes to eat this stuff, I often buy it for her, just two, because I do not want her to eat so much sweets.

To be honest, I have a sour heart, I have a sister and a brother, everyone's eyes favored me, in fact, not so.

After sending them to school, on the way back I remembered an incident from my childhood.

Elementary school to participate in school competitions, to go to the town of middle school exams, at noon, the teacher gave to buy small dumplings to eat, I think that is since I grew up to so big eaten the most delicious buns, no exaggeration.

I forgot to give out a few buns, but I purposely kept 2 to bring home for my parents to try. My father had told my mother that I was the most thoughtful child.

I always hoped that as the youngest child in the family, I would be loved more, but it was the opposite of what I expected.

After junior high school, every day when it is cold will see a lot of parents to the students to send mattress quilt, and I I am on their own with me, I go to school for many years, no matter how windy or rainy, my parents have never picked up and dropped me off, not even once.

Last November, my mother suffered a cerebral infarction, leaving some after-effects after discharge from the hospital, she was still helping others work to earn pocket money before she fell ill, but after this illness, she was a lot older.

I took her to the neighborhood fitness facilities that activity, others said this is your grandmother? There were also a few times when I rode in the elevator and was asked if my mother was over 80 years old. I'm not sure if I've ever been in the same situation, but I'm sure I've been in the same place.

At first, I helped her turn off the fan after blowing the cooler, and then I let her turn it off by herself. I didn't realize that it was a very simple switch, but she couldn't turn it off after half a day's trial.

My mother is a very good at worrying about people, and I've been very independent since I was a kid. I washed my own clothes when I was about 10 years old, and I learned how to cook, so I wouldn't let her help me with anything I could do on my own.

The other day I boiled peanuts, and I thought about turning up the heat a little, and when it opened, turning it down to a low heat to cook slowly. I then went back to the bedroom to write and lost track of time.

When I finished writing, I walked to the living room, smelled the smell of paste, only to remember that I boiled peanuts, I rushed to the kitchen to open a look I added half a pot of water, all boiled dry. The master bedroom is a little far from the kitchen, I did not smell the smell at all, this time my mother saw me panicked, asked me what happened?

I said boiled peanuts paste pot, the mother said: I said how have paste pot flavor it? I questioned her: you smelled how you did not call me? I was not able to see it until it was on fire.

To be honest, I was particularly angry, a little bit of small things can not count on her. I put on my clothes and went out for a run, but not a little mood, walked along the neighborhood, I cried all the way, the more I think the more aggrieved , this kind of thing in the process of my growing up do not know how many times it happened.

Just this morning, I reminded her not to focus on watching TV, and to drink the medicine in time after brewing it, not to wait for it to cool before thinking about it. With that said I helped her turn on the TV.

Mother said: I also did not watch TV ah? When did I forget to watch TV?

I: you two days ago I reminded you how many times you have forgotten, what is the use of lifting the bar?

I was talking to her with such an attitude, and I regretted it when I thought about it, but I just couldn't help it. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this. I don't know what to say, sometimes I dislike people, say I speak hard to hear, in fact, to a certain extent is also affected by her.

Thinking about this time with my mother, it should be the longest time I have stayed since I was in the fourth grade of elementary school. I went to school in the next village in the fourth grade, lived in junior high school, lived in high school, and then went to work during the holidays, left home in college, and started to work after graduation, and I'm used to being on my own, and even now I'm a little bit uncomfortable with living with her.

In order to save water, many times to urinate before flushing the toilet, brushing teeth and gargling in the sink are food is crumbs, eating, eating and dropping, and do not change shoes, do not change on not change, she wore her own shoes comfortable on the line.

Some things I said a few times, she did not think. I have rhinitis, sneeze, she asked me if I have a cold, I simply can not accept her this concern, because when I was a child as long as I was sick and uncomfortable, she would only say that you go to the drugstore to see, but never personally brought me.

But now I see her sitting on the couch alone, and I feel why I can't let go of the past?

This is my mother, although I have always had a grudge against her, but gave birth to me and raised me, I will still take good care of her.

In short, I think people are old, can do the above points, it is not obnoxious, raising children to prevent old age, and children to get along with also pay attention to a certain degree of proportion.

If I'm old and still have the ability to take care of myself, I won't be with my kids, and I won't be involved in their little family life.