When children are young, they are always asked, "Is grandma good for you or is grandma good for you?"
Old people with babies don't necessarily reassure their children. Because of their advanced age, their outlook on life is different from that of adults, and there will be differences in parenting. Therefore, children need to think carefully about whether grandma is taking care of the baby or grandma is taking care of the baby.
Sisi is extremely weak because she just gave birth to a baby, and her mother and mother-in-law are very close to her. However, during the confinement period, her mother-in-law took care of Sisi, and her mother was not at ease. She just came to Sisi's home to take care of Sisi's confinement. Unexpectedly, the first class is three years.
Mother-in-law usually has her own life. She will play cards or dance square dance with her little sisters. Although she also likes her grandson, she seldom helps to take care of him. She is used to an idle life and won't wait on her daughter-in-law and grandson. Sisi's mother sees it in her eyes and hurts in her heart. She can only take care of her daughter.
Babies are the most difficult to take care of in the three years after birth, because the baby's various physical functions are not yet mature and the language system is not fully developed. At this time, it is necessary to start training from sleep habits and breastfeeding habits. Sisi's mother took care of her grandson, working hard day and night, and watched the white hair on her head gradually increase.
After the confinement, Sisi went out to work in order to subsidize her family, leaving her mother to take care of her son at home. Although the husband is very distressed by his mother-in-law, there is nothing to say. After all, his mother failed to fulfill her obligations, and her husband drifted away from her.
Grandma, it seems that I felt all this when I was a child, but at this time, the child is almost four and a half years old. In order to make up for her previous mistakes, she thought that her children would go to kindergarten and take care of them every day. But I didn't expect his proposal to attract Sisi's anger: "The hardest three years, you didn't wait for your child to grow up, but you came and took it away. Do you understand my hard work? "
Sisi couldn't hold her breath, and quarreled with her mother-in-law, and her words gradually became more and more presumptuous. Mother-in-law didn't insist that her grandson live with her, so she had to go home despondently.
In fact, this is not only the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but the different attitudes of old people on the issue of bringing children. Some grandmothers care about each other, don't want their daughters to worry too much, and feel sorry for their daughters, so they help their daughters take care of their babies, but their attitude is different, and they often think that anyone can take care of their babies.
1. Feel sorry for your daughter.
As a grandmother, she has experienced the pain of childbirth when her daughter got married, so she can feel the same. It is very important for my daughter to think about helping her at this time. After all, she has experienced it and knows the hardships of bringing a baby. She will also have some experience. Because of a mother's instinct to love her daughter, she will be willing to help her child bring up a baby. That's understandable.
2. Afraid of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Most of the resentments of Lunar New Year are caused by the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Grandma will also worry that this contradiction will happen to her daughter. After all, the child is still young and doesn't know how to get along with her mother-in-law. If the mother-in-law doesn't take care of her daughter, I don't know where to start. Over time, contradictions will continue to escalate. Grandma is also thinking about her daughter.
Grandma is more careful about her baby.
Experience shows that many grandmothers tend to be more careful when taking care of their babies, because they love my family and my dog, and their daughters will take more care when they have children, and they also know that it is not easy for their daughters, and they will be more careful when taking care of their babies, which can reduce the contradiction between the elderly and the younger generation.
Although the elderly can help their children to relieve stress, when the elderly are enjoying their old age, don't let their children worry when they should be enjoying their old age, which will also reduce the fun of the elderly and violate the true meaning of providing for the elderly.