But helpless, single people can always find various angles to explain why they are single.
A few days ago, the stubborn single boarded a hot search in Weibo.
The so-called stubborn single is that some people cry for someone, but never take the initiative to hook up. They don't have anyone they particularly like, and they are too lazy to accept the pursuit of others. They can't say that they would rather have nothing than nothing, but they don't want to be wronged. Their hearts were strangled in the cradle, and the chat ended in goodwill. Sometimes I think it's good to be single, and I often envy others in pairs.
This is dubbed by netizens as: self-destructive singles.
There is a topic in Weibo: What kind of psychology is it that you don't like a person but especially want to fall in love?
Netizens contributed these answers:
Ah, the netizen's answer can be summarized in one sentence: stubborn singles are single by ability and "do" well.
How stubborn is it?
Just like today is April Fool's Day, no one says they like you.
People you like don't appear, and people who do don't like it.
When I say why I am single, there is always a reason. There are too many good-looking people and too few interesting souls.
Although this is an era of looking at faces, you have realized more and more that faces can't represent everything. Being together depends on the harmony of souls. You believe that.
I once fantasized about perfect love, but the reality can't even reach the passing line.
I clearly feel that my requirements are not high, but people around me have problems either here or there.
The most terrible thing is that you have a good relationship with the opposite sex, and you feel that you have a good impression, but it takes a little temptation to know that that person only regards you as a brother.
Countless times, I wonder if I have no opposite sex, if I am not attractive enough, and why it seems that everything in love has nothing to do with me?
Love at first sight has no capital, and long-term love has no conditions.
There are few opportunities to meet new members of the opposite sex. Every day at home and at work at two o'clock and one line, there is no extra social activities and no social software for making friends. The most common public places are the mala Tang stalls downstairs and the 24-hour convenience store.
How can you meet love in a convenience store? I can only meet a square dance aunt who wears pajamas to buy milk.
I have always followed my own love law and don't want to make do with it, but I vaguely doubt whether this is my own insistence. After reading thousands of emotional articles, I found that the plot in the story will never fall on me.
It is difficult for acquaintances to speak, and strangers are afraid to speak.
The person you like hasn't come yet, and you don't like people who have a crush on you. That man can't even come to see you by subway, let alone marry you on a white horse and auspicious clouds.
Sometimes I feel unlucky, good-looking and normal, but I never meet a person I like. Sometimes I complain that others are blind, and sometimes I doubt that I am not good enough.
Finally, I found that everyone who kept true love had left. On the contrary, those who will get married and have children seem to live happily.
You lament, what is this? Is it your fault?
I want to fall in love intermittently, but I don't want to talk to anyone continuously.
You talk about independence every day, and the slogan is "Let me do it, repair home appliances, serve drinking water, and aspire to be a young man in the new era".
Then I found out that it doesn't matter whether we are in love or not. Because you don't need another person to share your life or mood.
There is even a vague psychology, and I don't want to share and bear other people's lives.
You will tease yourself that mobile phones are not fun? Weibo didn't brush enough? Game first? Cats are hard to suck? Dogs are not cute? Have you finished watching the movie? Have you finished watching primary school? Aidou got married? Admitted to graduate school? Did you make all the money? There are so many things to do, why not find someone to add to it?
Occasionally, when you are weak, you will feel depressed and think that if someone is with you when you are sad, you will be very happy, even if you don't have to say anything, as long as you have a shoulder to lean on.
But most of the time, you are practicing the indestructible body, and you firmly believe that getting rid of poverty is more important than getting rid of the bill.
Gradually, you find yourself too lazy to accept the kindness of others, and interpersonal communication is dispensable for you.
Even if someone shows a good impression on you, you will immediately put on a "stay at a respectful distance from others" posture, not because you don't want to know and contact, but because you sincerely feel that falling in love is a bit troublesome.
Why do you have to find someone to intervene and disrupt your already step-by-step life when you are clearly living a good life?
Perhaps, in your heart, you are afraid of being deeply disappointed and pretending to be sorry for others.
Therefore, while thinking about having a lover, it is good, at the same time, it kills all the signs that you could have fallen in love, and makes your heart stop at the moderate appreciation.
After all, you don't think you're ready for a relationship.
Not being ready means that you don't know what will happen if you give your true love. You can control your life, but you can't control the ending of love.
As the consequences are unpredictable, I'd rather not start at this moment.
I still feel sick just thinking about him.
You may not be mom's child solo, but the ending of the last love is really not beautiful.
Once in love, the man said, I will never leave you unless you leave me.
If you believe it, and it turns out it's all a fucking scam, that person will leave without looking back.
But you have done nothing wrong. You've been giving. You are a super sweet person. You are willing to share interesting things with him every day. You are willing to tell him anything. You have no secrets, no personality, and finally you are so humble that you have no self.
It took you a long time to get out of this shadow and you were exhausted. You feel exhausted and unable to fall in love.
I feel very tired when I think that falling in love again means meeting new people, getting to know someone again and paying again.
You've waited enough. You'd rather be bored and brush Weibo than wait for a reply with your mobile phone.
You've had enough of being cheated. You'd rather watch the love story of an idol drama alone than listen to another person's duplicity.
You've had enough of the taste of parting, and you'd rather live ridiculously alone than bear the ups and downs from love to non-love again.
You really won't cling to what you have lost, but as long as you think of that person, you will still feel queasy, which makes it impossible for you to start a new love mode now.
The body is honest, and people you don't like will send a signal of resistance even if they force themselves to try to contact.
Even a shoulder strap will make you feel like eating flies.
You think, maybe you won't fall in love with anyone else. I didn't expect the last love to have such a big recoil.
However, you know in your heart that you once loved a wolf or a lion.
How can people who have been protected by wolves fall in love with dogs?
Love, love will come or not.
There is a question in Zhihu: Why do young people want to be less and less in love and less and less in marriage?
There are several highly praised answers like this:
There was a hot search in Weibo before: Marriage at a later age is becoming popular. 400 million reading, 70 thousand discussion.
According to statistics, the national marriage rate in 20 18 was only 7.2‰, which was the lowest value in 20 13 years. People are asking, what happened to these young people?
Many young people said in interviews that being single is more free, it is easier to find a job, material conditions do not allow it, and they can live well without looking for a partner.
The data shows that the marriage rate in economically developed areas is not high, with the lowest in Shanghai and Zhejiang and the highest in Qinghai, Tibet. The report pointed out that the higher the education level, the higher the cost of living, the greater the work pressure, and the lower the marriage rate.
Several professors and experts pointed out that this is a trend of thought of modernism, and the independence of economy and personality is the reason why young people are unwilling to enter marriage prematurely.
This just corresponds to another hot search in Weibo last week: the sharp increase of women buying houses in big cities. 400 million reading, 80 thousand discussion.
After analyzing the real estate transaction of a certain platform, it is found that 47.9% of the buyers are women, and 74.2% of the women did not accept the support of their partners when buying a house. Among them, 45.2% people received financial support from their parents, and 29% people were able to buy a house entirely by themselves. Single women who buy a house say they can feel more secure.
Now, more and more people have realized that it is not love and marriage that can make them feel safe, but self-independence is equally important.
Everyone says independence. What are the advantages of independence?
In my opinion, independence will have a great influence on a person's view of love.
After independence, it has the most direct influence on the concept of love: you can skip meals, but you don't want to go hungry.
We may get what we want, but if we are hungry, we will regret it.
There are always people who say that being single is cool and free.
Some people think that the coolest and freest time for a person is when he has nothing to do but live his own life.
I don't think so.
A person's freedom means that no matter what process you go through, no matter what stage you are in life, you are deeply aware of what you are doing and are willing to work hard for it.
Whether you are in love or single, it is not as rude and simple as being cool or free, but "love, love will come or not", which is a bit arrogant, but it is also an attitude.
Love, love will come or not.
This is also my attitude towards love. If you want to explain this sentence, it is eight words: come or not.
Come here, come here. Take it seriously when you come and give it a real feeling. Two people's lives are always more tortuous than one's, so you should be prepared enough.
Don't come if you don't come. If you don't come, live well and wait for love. Might as well make more money. Only when you are independent, you won't expect to make up for the lack of love.
Only when you don't focus on what you can get through love (such as a sense of security, a stable life, planning for the rest of your life, etc.). ) can you be closer to the essence of love.
If you have to say who is freer than who? Only this:
If you don't mind being single, you are free.
No one can control your life, which is cool.
It is free to love as if you have never been hurt.
Love can come later, as long as it is sincere.