Had sex the first time we met

Why don't relationships that meet for the first time and have sex last?　Some people do it purely because of naivety, while others see it as a game from the start.　A girl said that her relationship with her boyfriend seemed to be on the verge of ending before it even started.　They were originally online dating, almost chatted online for close to a month, I think, did not directly determine the relationship, but talk ambiguous, and, she likes each other inside.　The first time they met, they had sex.　Originally, she thought, this thing means the establishment of the relationship between the two people.　Unexpectedly, the boys went back, the pressure does not say this thing, the attitude has become perfunctory, always say they are busy, not like before every day to chat with her.　She is very sad, because she is really more like each other, also want to go on with him. However, the boy's attitude puts an end to the relationship process between the two.　I was not surprised that she ended up like that.　Because I've heard even more unimaginable before, the guy after this happened, go back to the first time to delete the girl.　Maybe it was obviously an ongoing relationship, but it completely changed its nature because of this incident.　Some people ask, those who meet for the first time, have sex in the relationship, why can't it last?　First of all, in terms of personal attitude. The fact that this happened too soon basically means a veto on love.　In fact, I've heard or received a lot of reflections from girls.　In fact, most of them at the beginning, is really good to hold the purpose of treating the relationship, but also real like, so they are willing to compromise for each other.　However, this behavior, standing in the boys point of view, but means that the girl's "not self-love, casual", can not be a long-term relationship object.　Because of the long-term dating object, they are more important is the character, "casual" is the concept of choosing a spouse in the character of the taboo. Even if their behavior is undoubtedly double standard.　I once saw a guy say, he met a girlfriend online, they are the same city, originally with the heart to get along.　As a result, the first time they met, the girl took the initiative to stay in a room with him, and didn't even mention that she had another room.　Then, he will be in the heart of her from the option to do girlfriend crossed out, and the girl is still oblivious.　Relationships in this state definitely don't last.　Of course, I have seen exceptions in my life. But is a minority, the later two people in the get along with each other to find each other's true nature, moved the true heart, continue to be together.　However, as a girl or do not gamble, cleanliness is the key, this is responsible for your own, but also responsible for the feelings of two people.　Secondly, from the nature of feelings. A real long-term love with soul exchange, is bound to need pre-investment.　This kind of input, surely can not just simply chat on the network, but to the actual life, to all aspects of the details.　From the two people's daily personal habits, to the idea of the three views of the fit, as well as each other can do the tolerance and understanding. These are all factors that determine how long you can get along together.　After all, the first heartbeat can be really simple, may be a smile, an unintentional action, or a certain sentence, can make people heartbeat.　However, these are all temporary.　You will also find that in life, you will have more than just a temporary heartbeat for one person. But in the end, there is only one person who can accompany you from green silk to gray hair, and this person, surely, loves you, suits you, and understands your existence the most.　Zhou Guoping said: true love is the soul and soul of the encounter, physical intimacy is only the result of it.　However, how many people, but reversed the priority, the results first to the front, behind the natural easy to mess.　Just like we do math problems, the original result should be strictly in accordance with the step by step reasoning out, meticulous thinking, can not be wrong step, once wrong, the result is also wrong.　However, if the result is known first, then many people will begin to ignore the process.　There are also some people, will not go to this reasoning process, that directly fill in the results on the good.　This kind of love is always perfunctory. No matter how beautiful the surface looks, how enviable, in reality, can not stand the scrutiny and test', a little wind and waves may destroy it.　Even, sometimes do not even need to use the external wind and waves, they first from the internal collapse.　Because it may not have been serious at all in the first place.　So, this kind of feelings, naturally, is not really feelings.　Zhou Guoping said: Perhaps modern people really live too tired, so do not want to add the burden of love, but would rather keep the relationship between the sexes as a relaxed entertainment garden. Maybe modern people really see too much, so they do not want to go through the torture of love in vain, and would rather not understand the feelings of the opposite sex of the face of the world.　Yes, the "superficial" relationship is much easier in the short term than the "superficial" one, where you don't have to be responsible and don't have to envision the future.　Some people do not have the psychological burden, think it is anyway you love me willing to do things, rush together, said the end of the end, delete the contact information, waved his hand without taking away a cloud.　However, this kind of feelings more, and ultimately bring people must be the inner nothingness.　In the materialistic frenzy, who else cares about the return of the soul?　Although, the real serious love may make people pay the price of tearing their hearts and lungs, but it can also bring about the engraved harvest, engraved with the real about the feelings of two people's precious scroll.　Love to the end, is bound to be beautiful, so do not go to desecrate this beautiful.　Some people, because in the feelings of casual more, time and time again play, in the end, they first do not believe in love.　But the heart is still looking forward to be able to have a person, really and their own realization of the soul of the **** through, never give up, together to the happy later.　Only, that kind of person, but already can't meet.　Not does not exist, but at this time the state of mind, as well as the whole person's thoughts and behaviors, has been unworthy of the kind of people expected in the heart.　People who really believe in love will always be reunited with love.　Remember this sentence: love does not flow, because the flow is nothing, but love is priceless.　The first time we met, we did 2 How to chat for the first time to meet to find the topic 1, the first meeting to find out *** with the topic of interest: In addition to the pleasantries of the greetings finished, but also in the two people talking to find *** with the topic of interest. For example: square dancing, interest classes, travel, hot TV programs and so on.　 2, pay attention to read each other's psychology: mastered each other's psychology, in order to talk skillfully with each other.　A, the exchange process less say these words "I, myself, my", but more say "we, everyone"; B, and the other party in the process of communication, talk more about the other party's advantages, guide the other party to talk more, they try to say less.　 3, to find the entry point of the conversation: in fact, other people like to talk about more or their own or their own related things, to find this key point, I believe that who like you to talk.　 4, the conversation is simple and clear, with the true feelings to impress others: others like sincere, kind, real talk with emotion, rather than empty boring "lectures", the more simple, sincere emotions, the more others appreciate and sought after.　The first time we met, we did 3 The first time we met, we need to pay attention to what etiquette 1, the best greeting by name. Step into the door of the parlor, your first words may be: "Hello, it's good to see you." But it's not as good as saying, "Hello, Manager Lee, it's good to see you." The latter is much more enthusiastic than the former.　2, if the other party did not ask you to sit down, you better stand. After sitting down should not pull out a cigarette, such as the other party to ask you to smoke, you should say: "Thank you." It is very unseemly to get cigarette ashes and match heads on the floor.　3. Don't be in a hurry to show the information, letters or gifts you have with you. The best time to present them is only when you have mentioned them and have aroused the other person's interest. When the other party asks you to carry the information in the relevant issues, you should give a detailed explanation or description.　4, take the initiative to start the conversation, cherish the meeting time. Although the other party has learned some of your situation and the purpose of the visit, you still need to take the initiative to open the mouth. You may emphasize and explain certain issues again. It is also a need for politeness and reflects a person's spirit.　5, maintain the corresponding enthusiasm. In the conversation, if you do not pour enough enthusiasm on a certain issue, the other party will immediately lose interest in talking about this issue.　6, when anger is difficult to suppress, anger will make you lose the objective measure of understanding others and control yourself. It not only does not help solve the problem, but will make things worse, should end the meeting early.　7, learn the art of listening. Listen to two requirements, first of all, to give each other time to speak, and secondly, to listen to "listen to the voice". If the other side first speech, you can not interrupt each other. Should be prepared to use the right time to give each other to respond to encourage each other to speak on.　Not be able to listen carefully to other people's conversations, you will not be able to "listen to listen to the voice", not to mention alert, skillful answers to each other's questions. Remember: whether it is a social occasion, or at work, good at listening is a person should have the quality.　8, avoid bad actions and gestures. Playing with the hands of small things, with the hands from time to time geographic hair, stirring the tongue, clear teeth, pulling out the ears, staring at the nails, the ceiling or behind the other side of the calligraphy and paintings, etc., these actions are unseemly.　9, to be honest, frank, and temperate. If in a small thing on the false, is likely to make your whole effort in vain. Once the other side suspected you of dishonesty, you have a variety of unusual as will be eclipsed. No one is perfect, so it is okay for you to talk openly about or admit your faults or shortcomings. In commenting on a third party should not lose the temperament of others.　10, to be good at the "mess", learn to express clearly. Good expression makes a person life-long benefit. Speech will not generalize the person, often cause people to resent: narrative without focus, thinking about the confusion of the person, often forcing people to avoid him as much as possible. Generally speaking, if you have never worried about others will be offended by your words, it means that you have caused others to be offended.　11, make a tone and intonation of self-check. Record yourself speaking for 5 minutes, listen to whether it is clear, throaty, nasal voice is too heavy? What is the speed of speech? The tone of voice is old and bland? If you are not satisfied, improve and then record another clip to listen to. Full of vigor tone will make you look young. This work is important to pay attention to the usual practice.　12, pay attention to clothing and hair. The first time you meet people a kind of untidy impression, often to your self-expression cast a shadow. Usually do not trim entrepreneurs, in the meeting before you should ask people who know how to let him according to your age, shape, occupation and seasonal factors such as the design of your clothes and hair.　13, if the other side of the seniority than you are shallow, relatively low learning, you should pay extra attention to the self-exposure of superiority. When you introduce their own enviable degree title and other circumstances, the other side also have to talk about his corresponding situation. In order to avoid the other party being ashamed of himself, you should be more cautious when introducing yourself. It is okay to express admiration for the other person. Excessive concern and preaching should be avoided, to show sincerity and cooperation.　14, at the end of the meeting, do not forget to take away your hat, gloves, briefcase and other things. Farewell language should be appropriately concise, restrain yourself not to lead to a new topic on the way out the door, because there is no reason to think that the farewell is the meeting of the high.