As a daughter-in-law how do you deal with the mother-in-law to help you with the children in the problems encountered?

As a daughter-in-law, how do you deal with the problems encountered in the mother-in-law to help you bring up children? In fact, the mother-in-law to help bring up children, there will certainly be a lot of ways of conflict, this time, I think as a daughter-in-law, the first thing to do is to adjust their own mentality, to calm their own mentality, to think, the mother-in-law to help bring up children, is to help you, she did not charge you a penny, and she did those, but also for the purpose of the child's good purpose, only now more and more advocate the scientific method of child rearing and original The old generation of child-rearing methods have too much conflict, so that more and more mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law have more and more parenting conflicts, and the old man and the way of life between us must have different places, so more will have conflicts, but I have always done, is to bring their own, try to bring their own, let the mother-in-law to help, but also just to help me to burn rice, and small children, try to do everything by themselves! This way, there will be a lot less unnecessary conflicts. But there is another problem is that, when the baby is a little bit bigger, I have to go to work, and once I go to work, the baby will have to let the mother-in-law to help bring up, I am no matter how busy I am, I insist on bringing up the baby by myself at night, so that I can go home and play with the baby a little bit, and for the daytime how to bring up the baby in law, I think it's better to turn a blind eye to it, because you are talking about it too much, and giving her too many restrictions, and it's not necessarily the best way to bring up the baby. I think it's better to turn a blind eye to how your mother-in-law takes care of the baby during the day, because if you talk too much and put too many restrictions on her, it doesn't necessarily mean that she'll do everything you tell her to do when you're not around! On the contrary, it is more likely that, although she wants to do but do not do well ah! So, as long as you have a good grasp of the general direction, then there is no problem at all. For example, people in the past very early to the baby to add complementary food, and I am and my mother-in-law said to full six months before adding, this direction control, usually with children and so on, are according to her way, so there is no problem. Only my mother-in-law belongs to the kind of very big hands and feet of rural women, so wash bottles ah wash anything will not wash so clean, at first I have to say, but said it is useless ah, she is not intentionally not clean, but so many years of habits are so, slowly, I slowly from the beginning of the madness turned into acceptance, but I come home from work every night, will be the first to go to all the bottles toys and what to wash it again. All the bottles and toys and so on will be cleaned and sterilized once, and then the kind of cooking stick and so on, also clean, I can't guarantee that every time so clean, but every day so clean and sterilized then, in fact, really can't be dirty to go, so now my mentality changed, I and my mother-in-law with children between, there is no big problem!