I was watching a TV series recently. Regardless of the actors and the setting of the script, there was a line in it that really touched me: The world is dangerous, but my feelings are beautiful. When I first heard this, I felt like chicken soup, but somehow, when I was sleeping that night, it seemed like I was brainwashed by it.
As we all know, once the water flows deep, it is easy to make no sound.
We are always used to looking around, but cannot clearly see the reality under our feet. Rather than rushing forward, modern people may need to learn to listen to calmness in the noise. If you don't know how to be kind, don't expect God to give you gentle light. If you don't believe that love is a good medicine, you are destined to miss the beauty. Gains and losses cannot be found in the precarious world. If you can have expectations for the better side of human nature, your life will be a lot more interesting.
Therefore, I recorded two small things that I have experienced personally, just to remind myself from time to time:
1: A little gratitude
In the summer of 2012, My best friend and I went to Hunan, and our last stop was Changsha.
I didn’t see the long-awaited fireworks at Juzizhoutou, I didn’t climb Yuelu Mountain at night, and I didn’t eat authentic stinky tofu in Pozi Street. It was so hot in Star City in July. I walked on the asphalt road wearing a pair of orange "jelly sandals" and felt like a little sheep walking on a barbecue grill. My whole body was burnt on the outside and tender on the inside. There was nothing I could do about the big sun above my head. In addition, the air-conditioning of the youth hostel where I stayed was completely overwhelming. Within two days, I, who had always been a tomboy from the Xuzhou grassland, turned into a gorgeous little girl on the bank of the Xiangjiang River.
Until the last day of leaving Changsha, my body had not fully recovered.
My best friend was always meticulous in taking care of me. A few hours before the train left, we decided to watch a movie on Jiefang West Road to relieve the stress of waiting outside without knowing where to go. The battle to hide from the sun." The movie seemed to be a not-so-scary horror movie, and the background music was very soft. I had not slept peacefully for a few days and fell asleep. After waking up, I found that there was still an hour and a half left before driving. Taking a bus there was probably more than enough time.
But no one expected to encounter a traffic jam of the century. 15 minutes, half an hour, and an hour almost passed by. We were still stuck near Wanda Plaza, thousands of miles away from the train station. inside.
"Ah! What should we do? We are going to be late for the bus. Master, please be accommodating and let us go down." Originally, people were not allowed to leave the lane halfway, but the driver finally chose a safe location because of the emergency situation. Put us down. And the real problem has just begun. When we got off the bus and were about to take a taxi, we two confused people touched our pockets and found that all the cash on us was gone. It might have been stolen or it might have been spent. In short, standing on the streets of a foreign land with endless traffic, this It feels really bad.
At this time, it was only 25 minutes before the train left.
There are no banks around, and all the convenient transfer and payment functions on mobile phones are not as popular as they are today. The two girls, who don’t have much social experience, looked at each other and were in a hurry.
Later we had no choice but to ask passers-by for help. Well, it's the kind you've encountered countless times on the street. You stop someone suddenly and say something incoherent. The only purpose you go around and around to finally understand is: Lend me some money.
My best friend is usually a person with strong self-esteem. That day, in order to borrow money, she blushed for the first time and felt like first love. And while I mustered up the courage to strike up a conversation with passers-by, I recalled some of my past behaviors and how I responded when passers-by were caught off guard and asked for help. Most of the time, I will preconceptionally think that it is an out-and-out "scam". Occasionally, if I really look at the other person's pity, I will take the initiative to pour out all my money. But when it comes to well-dressed young people, I rarely feel soft-hearted. "Slackers without self-awareness" or "opportunists who have the strength to quietly take shortcuts" are the most complex labels I have secretly given to them.
It’s not that I’m not kind enough, but that I’m afraid that my kindness will backfire.
That is the psychological wording that I have accumulated over the past ten years due to the education I have received and the normal behavioral norms I have been exposed to. But at that moment, when I faced the indifferent passers-by, the rapidly rotating second hand, and the city shrouded in the gentle sunset in front of me, the protagonist of the story began to change. In their hearts, was I also a liar? Compared with the loss and helplessness, I felt extremely guilty about my one-way self-understanding in the past. Without getting close to any truth, you rashly choose to judge others as undesirable, and use so-called common sense to fuel the situation or act indifferently. This kind of behavior is not called rationality, but just narrow-minded.
Don’t arbitrarily expel facts that should be properly settled because of preconceived views.
After asking the third round, my best friend and I almost gave up.
"Hey, little girl, have you encountered any difficulties?" A middle-aged man standing not far away took the initiative and said.
The two of us were too tired and no longer had the energy to talk about our experiences with joy and enthusiasm. We just expressed the meaning of "lack of money and no money nearby" as simply as possible.
But the man didn’t have any doubts. He calmly took out his wallet and said, "How much do you want?"
Learning to understand beautiful things is the best way to make people happy. shortcut. To this day, I can no longer recall his appearance, but I can always recall the tone of his voice. It was very peaceful, with no emphasis on the tone between the five words, and he was as sure and kind as an elder, with a hint of kindness. Taken for granted. Faced with our request to leave their phone number or bank card number, he did not agree. After telling us to "be more careful when you go out," he turned around and left.
20 yuan, no more, no less, but it really saved our urgent need.
Of course, fortunately, the train was delayed that day.
Two: Little Warmth
The second thing happened on Beijing Subway Line 6. One day I was taking the subway on my way to work.
I got on the train from Huangqu Station. When I arrived at Qingnian Road, the passengers in the entire carriage were almost integrated into one body. Any movement of an individual's body seemed to pull off the tight skin around them. Together, the screams of surprise and surprise are more lively than listening to an opera.
Most of the passengers are estimated to be between the ages of 20 and 35. They are radicals in the workplace. Some are talking to customers amidst the friction of the airwaves, while others are whispering to their companions about things in the company. You know all the dark rules and sexy scandals, the classic scenes about the boss and the female assistant. Of course, most people still choose to play with their mobile phones in front of their chests. No one looks at anyone, and no one cares about anyone. The motor running in everyone's brain goes straight to the theme of their own life.
This was a normal situation until someone "collapsed to the ground" and the style of painting suddenly changed.
The middle-aged man who fell to the ground was sitting on the first seat on the north side, but for some reason, he suddenly twitched and fell to the ground, foaming at the mouth. There was probably no girl around him who had ever seen such a situation before. Transform into a little white rabbit and jump two feet away. The originally airtight compartment suddenly spread out in a compass shape, leaving a large open space around the place where the man fell to the ground.
A certain smart young man reacted first and quickly pressed the alarm in the car, and then the car stopped.
The crowd was also overwhelming.
"I have to clock in at nine o'clock. If I am late, I will deduct money!"
"Morning meeting! The last thing we can't miss is the morning meeting on this day every week! "
"Huh? Isn't it an infectious disease?"
"No way..."
"I know I'm sick. It’s so unethical to take public transportation!”
If language were tangible, there would be several series of exclamation marks floating in the air at that moment.
The impetuous tempers that were usually ravaged by high pressure suddenly broke out collectively. Everyone complained and felt sorry for each other. They had almost completely forgotten about the man lying on the ground and rolling in pain.
I pulled away from the chaos and was about to muster up the courage to ask the man, but I was pushed away by a strong force. It was the same young boy who pressed the siren. He hurriedly took out a half-pack of facial tissues from his schoolbag and handed it over: "What's wrong with you? Is it okay? The conductor should be here later. Just hold on..." ..." Xu Shi's sincerity impressed the passengers present. Everyone suddenly woke up from their panic and came over one after another to inquire with concern. Although there are still people standing in the distance with a wait-and-see attitude, they no longer look with disdain.
In the end, life is not a business or a transaction, and there is no such thing as a loss at all, but "being nice to others" can actually make oneself more valuable. Someone took out water, and someone asked for first aid on Baidu. A young, shy girl dressed in pink and student-like squatted down and said that she had just graduated from college and majored in clinical nursing. If possible, She wanted to help the boy up first and take a look around.
The people around immediately rushed to help the man up. The little girl looked a little timid and asked the man to open his mouth.
But no matter what you say, good or bad, the man will not care about life or death.
While the man was silent and confronting everyone's speculations and discussions, the conductor from Chaoyangmen Station finally came up. But when the conductor came up, it was of no avail. No matter you asked or expressed concern, in the face of all the disturbances from the outside world, he just chose to remain silent. Seeing that the entire train had been parked here for nearly 5 minutes, for the sake of public transportation safety and the normal operation of other trains, the conductor suggested: "How about you get off the train with us and we will take you to the hospital?"
The man shook his head, still indifferent.
The surrounding passengers seemed a little anxious, but this time, they were not thinking about themselves, but about the man's secret. Why on earth is he silent? Could it be that he is mute?
"No! I don't want to go to the hospital. I'm too poor. I work alone in Beijing. My family doesn't know that I'm sick! Please, don't send me to the hospital. Send me to the hospital." , I look down on it too..." After a long time, the man finally said, his wrinkled face full of tears. As a middle-aged man who has spent more than half of his life crying in public, this kind of scene can only be seen in the VCR that moved China.
The most cruel existence in the human heart is also the gentlest feeling.
Suddenly, everyone in the carriage fell silent.
Everyone is a Beipiao, whether it is the secretary to the chairman sitting in a luxurious cubicle in the CBD, or the guy who sets up a stall at the subway entrance to put film on his mobile phone, no matter what he is called in the workplace A "scheming bitch" or a struggling person who has to do all kinds of tricks to survive in this city. According to social groups, at this moment, we all belong to the same circle.
"I have 200 here. You can take it to see a doctor." The person who said this was the one who just told the mean man that he might be suffering from an infectious disease.
Immediately afterwards, everyone took out their wallets.
……
However, at the end of the story, the man did not charge a penny from everyone, nor did he follow the conductor to the hospital.
He walked off the subway tremblingly, not wanting to delay the train's journey any longer.
In silence, the car was filled with the midwinter wind, and we continued to drive forward.
Perhaps a few hours later, when facing the workplace, customers, and the rules of the jungle game in this society, we will still choose to respond coldly and act out of self-interest. This is rooted in everyone in this society. There is no way around normality. But I believe that no matter what happens in the world, people's hearts are still beautiful. Those who experienced this little thing that day will definitely expand the warmth in the future. Even if it is not obvious on weekdays, it will shine when necessary.
Even though there is endless depression in this world, it cannot stop the graceful people's hearts.