Difficult mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, difficult mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, in fact, this problem has also risen in recent years, and it can be predicted that such a situation will also be like the square dance in the park, as a generation of people grow old, and become a memory.
In the past, the problem of difficult mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationships was almost non-existent in China, because in those days, filial piety was the most important thing. The most important person in the family, besides the father, is the mother. So whether it is a son or daughter-in-law, the mother's words can do only one thing, that is to obey. Daughter-in-law want to have status? That really have to wait until that old saying, wait, daughter-in-law boiled into a grandmother, the girl became a mother ......And then briefly talk about the future, can be predicted that the future of the marriage, the probability is also a plurality of **** survival of the state, can be imagined, in addition to the legalization of same-sex marriage, and we have been practicing from 1950 onwards of monogamous reservations, there may be contract marriages, plural marriages, and so on. In such a case, whether your mother-in-law is a man or a woman, young or old, sometimes or not, could be unknown, and who has that kind of leisure time to think about such questions.
? The only people who are confused by this question, on the contrary, are the modern people, is sandwiched between tradition and modernity after 80.90, their minds have basically been freed from the shackles of tradition, but it seems to be able to see some of the influence of tradition on them. They seem to welcome new things with open arms, but they are not all carefree.
? And so the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, it seems, has become a common conflict and point of view in modern family dramas. But in fact, many modern people have some misunderstandings about this issue. That is the essence of the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, the essence is not the conflict between the two women, but the son caught in the middle.
? Nowadays, many young people know the Oedipus complex, but may not know that the difficult relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a lot of this complex is the reverse embodiment, to be more accurate, that is, the mother's attachment to the son.
Imagine the feelings of the 60s and 70s, when pure love seemed to exist, but it was not common. Most of the women in the family still maintain the traditional Chinese thinking, marry the chicken follow the chicken marry the dog follow the dog. The couple's relationship is bland but stable. And when children are born, the situation changes and most women become full-time mothers, with the father alone bearing the burden of supporting the family. Thus, the sole purpose of women becomes the son. When the family environment is harmonious, everything is okay. But when the family environment is tense, children become more than just a purpose, they even become a spiritual support. One's work is the child, then the achievement is naturally the child. In this way time passes day by day, and one day the woman suddenly realizes that her son has grown up and he wants to be with another woman. So, especially in a tense family environment, women often find it difficult to cope with, and it becomes a case of two women (mother and wife) grabbing a man.
? So, spot on? What's the sticking point here? Yes, it's the strained family environment that women used to be in. Of course, there's a cure for that, and that cure is to prioritize the couple's relationship.
? Imagine a situation like the one above, when the couple's relationship comes first, such a separation would be less painful. The mother would tell her son:I love you very much, but I love your father more. When the son has to leave the family one day, the son will not worry about his parents, because he knows that these two people love each other. And he, having grown up in such a family environment, his new family atmosphere is, naturally, predictable.
? And these, too, are really the characteristics of this era. The first place in the relationship between husband and wife, not only the former parents' order matchmaker's word is not possible, and later in the open marriage relationship is not possible. Even the traditional concepts of our fathers and mothers, in fact, is a great challenge, if there is no real love, the husband and wife relationship first is not a joke? But now The contemporary of free love and monogamy. But for the theory provides such earth.
So, from this point of view, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship conflicts, and even also and cherish it, haha.
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