She definitely wants the child to be brought up by whoever gave birth to her. Our own hard to retire, sure to have their own life, will not help to bring up the child, bring up your husband, the task has been accomplished, now to start enjoying their own life. Older people who think this way are actually very enlightened, and although they don't help you bring up your children, they won't interfere in your lives, and there won't be any conflict in childcare. You definitely have to take on the responsibility of bringing up children when you become a parent yourself.
One, the mother-in-law does not help bring up the child, help family harmony.
There are families where the elderly help to bring up the children, but some of the habits of the elderly are very bad, and the children are also brought to the wrong side. Some old people will teach their children not to want their mothers, but to be especially close to the old man, and the children you have with you are not close to you, you heart is not good, right? And the intergenerational pro, the old man is also very easy to spoil the child, endless to meet all the requirements of the child, to that time you can not see past the useless, so have the conditions or their own children is better.
Two, Mother-in-law to go to the square dance, the body exercise, will not drag you down.
The health of the elderly is the best reward for children. No sickness, no pain, good health, and not bother you guys, I really think it's the perfect life. If your mother-in-law is often in poor health, a trip to the hospital costs a lot of money, and indirectly saves you money.
Three,Bringing up your own children can cultivate good habits in your children, and the parent-child relationship is better.
Before the age of three, it is best not to leave your child in the hands of others. Before the age of three, if the parents can give enough love, the child will be very secure, and will be able to independently and confidently socialize with others. So the parents' companionship is far higher than the old man's companionship, the temporary husband and wife have a person does not work, may be the economic pressure will be bigger, but look at the child's child really smile face, will feel especially worth, since the child is born, surely they have to carry the responsibility.
Every parent should think clearly before giving birth to a child, whether they really love the child, and whether they are willing to take care of and raise the child. Don't get confused and give birth just because someone else is urging you to do so. Don't expect the elderly to help you with your child, it's a favor to bring, it's a job not to bring, there's nothing to complain about.