"Remember to look up at the stars, not down at your feet. No matter how hard life is, keep a curious mind. You will always find your way and the success that is yours." --Stephen William Hawking
Remember to look up at the stars, not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see Try to make sense of what you see and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious and however difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.
Title: An opportunity for introspection for all middle-aged men and women who are about to enter a period of fading love. I'm sure you'll be as ****ed as I am.
The Theory of Everything is a narrative, emotional documentary in the guise of science. The movie presents a lot of beautiful images, the color tone is fresh and natural, every frame is like a perfect photo, is a film that pays great attention to the aesthetics. Director James Marsh, who graduated from Oxford University like one of the main characters, Stephen Hawking, specializes in narrative style documentaries. It took him three years to convince Jane Wilde, the author of the memoirs, to adapt them into a movie.
Jane Wilde was Hawking's first wife, and the movie is adapted from her memoir, Flight to Infinity: Days with Stephen Hawking, which tells the love story of renowned physicist Stephen Hawking and his first wife, Jane Wilde, and the conflicts in life they faced from youth to middle age. The movie's leading man, Eddie Redmayne, won Best Actor in a Drama category at the 72nd Golden Globe Awards for his superb performance in the movie.
After Hawking himself watched the movie at its premiere, his secretary wiped a line of tears from his cheek. Hawking said on social media, It was as if I saw myself in the past, and the movie gave me a chance to introspect.
Since the movie is based on Jane's memoirs, we can not only see the great contemporary scientist Hawking's inspiring story of overcoming the pain of his illness and tenaciously fighting against destiny, but also learn from Jane's point of view of their different from the ordinary people's love and married life. Rather than an inspirational movie about how Stephen Hawking overcame his illness to achieve his accomplishments, it is more of an inspirational story about how Jane Wilde, as the great woman behind Hawking, overcame her human frailty and went from selflessness to accomplishing the realization of her own self-worth.
18-year-old Jane met Stephen Hawking at a ball, full of wisdom, romance, rich sense of humor, talented, spirited, love at first sight. However, the good times didn't last long, and at just 21 years old, Hawking was diagnosed with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS). Doctors told him he had only 2 years to live.
He locked himself in his house, turned on the despairing yet uplifting music of heroism, refused anyone's meaningless reassurances, and prepared to die. He exposes his sensitive heart completely to grief and fear. Until the stubborn Jane gives him a kiss, awakening his will to live and the courage to live seriously for the rest of his life.
A year later, they were married. His life was filled with the bright and jumping light of the stars, illuminated by Jane's tenacious character. They decided to join hands *** with the face of death, with life and time race. The happy smiles of the two at the wedding are enough to make any desperate person's heart swell and sing with the ethereal sound of a painted lady.
In the 4 years of their greatest love, they had 2 children. During that time, Hawking went from being able to wriggle his way up and down the stairs to being unable to move at all and having to accept wheelchair mobility. In one scene in the movie, Hawking's friends come over to celebrate his PhD graduation. The glasses of wine and the cutlery that his friends were so comfortable with have become unacceptably sad in Hawking's presence.
As Hawking gradually loses his mobility, Jane takes on the responsibility of caring for him and his two children. At the same time, she also took on the role of Hawking's secretary, helping him to complete the organization of information and accompanying him around to participate in meetings and activities. Early in their marriage, she realized that her husband's pursuit of his career was different from that of other people.
Hawking had an amazing talent for accomplishing in just one hour what his classmates were unable to do in a week. His tenacity allowed him to constantly overcome his physical confinement and immerse his mind in the vastness of the universe. He says: "Physics and astronomy hold the promise of a true understanding of our own origins and why we are here. I want to figure out the mysteries of the universe once and for all." Hawking's preoccupation with his career made Jane realize that she had become a physics widow.
Yet her love for Hawking did not hold her back, and she devoted almost all of her time and energy to caring for her family. She gave up her aspirations as a diplomat to fulfill her husband's pursuit of physics. Her husband's achievements would also make her proud. The happy pattern in love is just like them, one is willing to dedicate and the other is brave to fight.
Hawking's initial motivation to work hard was for Jane, to have enough money to spend on their small family. He recorded in My Brief History: If we were going to get married, I had to have a job, I had to finish my doctoral dissertation, and so for the first time in my life I started working hard. To my surprise, I realized that I liked using my work.
Two intertwined souls sing a battle cry together to drive away death. They succeeded, and the two years of life that the doctors had told them had long since been surpassed, and Hawking spent the most difficult 10 years of his life in Jane's selflessness, creating not only a medical miracle, but also a career miracle that belonged only to him.
Jane let go of her dreams, but did not forget the self-realization, that is the call from her subconscious. She says, Even if I have only five minutes to spare, I go to my desk and sit down, consult the information and take notes. Back in the day, after I dropped my kids off at daycare, I would go to the university library for a while, and I had to be very disciplined."
Two youthful, young sons of God, with their courage to raise the spears and shields of life, with their tenacious will to step on the resistance of the way forward. During this period, Hawking gradually became a little-known scientist in the physics world from an obscure graduate student.
After the sweetest time of their marriage, the red light went on as Hawking's condition worsened and his career became more successful. As his condition worsened, Hawking could only express his thoughts in the briefest of words, and immersed in physics, he didn't have the time or inclination to communicate with his wife. Their love gradually wore away in the day-to-day hours.
Jane was left breathless under the weight of her busy schedule of household chores and accompanying Hawking around. Illness took Hawking's body, and career took over Hawking's mental world. Jane plays the role of nanny and mother in her marriage, unable to obtain the comfort of love or the corresponding recognition, leaving only the annoying despair.
She even thinks about killing herself to end it all. "For the sake of a fragile, lonely, empty shell, and for the sake of my children, to save me from throwing myself into the river and from sinking into the quagmire of despair, I kept praying for help, for someone to help me out of my desperate suicidal tendencies."
But she knew she was the mother of three children and the wife of the great scientist Stephen Hawking, and she could not fall. She had the dual responsibility of marriage and family on her shoulders, and if she fell, who would save her children and her loved ones?
In her consciousness, she is first and foremost a good wife and mother; but in her subconscious, she should be herself first. She has lived for decades in a self-repressed consciousness, becoming a good wife and mother, but losing only herself.
When one no longer has self-confidence, it is like being stuck in a dark and lonely universe, unable to hear anything and unable to see oneself. The strong conflict between the conscious and subconscious mind makes her two selves dueling all the time. Which one of us is the real me?
Her consciousness comes from her faith, she is a devout Christian, for marriage should be "**** life" as the true meaning. It is her faith that keeps the door to her consciousness open, reminding her that you can't go against your beliefs, it's the devil incarnate.
She went to a psychiatrist, who told her that the problems you face are similar to those of the old man. There is nothing wrong with you, you are just longing to get back to yourself, and your needs are all normal needs as a human being. You need a normal sex life, you need to communicate with people, and you need to be recognized by others.
Finally, when Stephen Hawking kept mocking her faith, thinking that faith is nothing compared to the universe and that there is no God in the world. It's when the subconscious crushes the door to the conscious mind that she resolves to find herself again .
To ease her anxiety, she sings in a choir at her mother's suggestion, where she meets Jonathan, a local church musician and organist. Compared to Hawking, their beliefs and hobbies were strikingly aligned. If her love for Hawking was like a compensatory law of attraction between arts and sciences students, then she and Jonathan were more like two soulmates who shared a similar fate and empathized with each other's experiences. Jonathan's wife died of leukemia a year ago, and he longs for spiritual redemption in helping Jane and Hawking's fragile family.
Jonathan moves into Hawking's home to take on the responsibility of caring for Hawking and the children. It gives Jane relief from the drudgery of housework and soothes her twisted and pulled heart. After all, neither of them is a saint, and in the long run, they find a fondness for each other. Jonathan's selflessness and compassion touches Jane y, and they carry out their platonic love in restraint and repression.
Hawking is hostile to the presence of other men in his family, but blames himself for his physical inability to fulfill his husbandly duty of caring for his wife and children. He is as helpless as he can be with Jonathan's acceptance and kindness. He records it this way in My Jane's History:
When Jane went from selflessness to endless nagging and complaining, there was no more love between her and Hawking. She longed too much to get back the confident, self-loving self she once was, to be respected by herself and others. And Jonathan's presence allows her to see her value again, that she is still a woman worthy of being loved. Her self-confidence is awakened by Jonathan's acceptance.
The last thing a person can do is to be without himself, because it goes nowhere, and no matter what happens, it's still inside you.
Jane, who regained her confidence, learned to respect herself and listen to her inner voice. She no longer makes choices against her heart or promises beyond her ability. She and Jonathan make a pact not to take each other any further until Hawking is gone. Two people of high moral standards and faith are determined to face the storms of this struggling family together.
In 1985, when Hawking was dying of an infected pneumonia, the doctors advised Jane to give up his life, which would be a relief for each other. Jane, who had already emerged from the shadow of anxiety and regained herself, refused. While she is no longer in love with Hawking, she realizes that both consciously and subconsciously Hawking is her family and the father of her children. She saves Hawking's life once again. She said: I can not let him die, I am the agent of his life.
Jane's greatness lies in the fact that she is conscious of her own responsibility, and would rather restrain her inner desire for love than abandon her family's heavy responsibility. Love may be short, beautiful and brilliant, but the responsibility is heavy and long-lasting.
Jane's selflessness is great, but also blind and immature. She overestimated her ability to endure, and lost herself in the endless devotion. From the youth that they can overcome all the difficulties, to the middle age can only be their own and children's fate to others. Too much optimism in youth and too much pessimism in middle age. Sadly, the past did not give this strong woman the chance to grow.
But she was fortunate to meet Jonathan, who had the tolerance and compassion of a man she knew, and to find herself again in middle age.
1 Stephen Hawking's divorce from Jane in 990, at the height of his success, was more like a moral judgment on Jane as jealousy raged. Jealousy of Jonathan mingled with primal desires that overcame reason. Their marriage finally came to an end after 25 years. Jane was left in tears of sadness and helplessness when Hawking filed for divorce, never realizing that it would be Hawking who would give up on their marriage. She said, "I loved you, I did my best." It was her farewell to her love and marriage to each other.
After Jane and Jonathan remarried, Jane earned a doctorate in modern poetry and became a language teacher and fiction writer.11 years later, Hawking and his second wife divorced, and Jane and Jonathan resumed caring for Hawking, and the three of them spent their twilight years together*** and*** enjoying their heavenly life.
Jane once said, "Even after the divorce, we respected each other, had a deep friendship, and recognized each other as important people."
At the end of the film, time is reversed, and Hawking and Jane return to the happy look of the beginning of love, and the movie aspires to convey the main idea: There is no room for perfection in life, and love is often a moment of happiness. Only in the eyes as if the first time, in mutual help in the dance, in tolerance and understanding to cast eternal. Even if there is no love in his day, there should be no regret.
P.S. Stephen Hawking's three pieces of advice to children
1. Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet.
Remember to always look up at the stars and not down at your feet.
2. Never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it.
Never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it.
Never give up work.
3. If you are lucky enough to find love , remember it is rare , and don't throw it away.
If you are lucky enough to find true love , remember it is rare , and don't throw it away. It is very precious, and don't throw it away.
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