The square dance has become a nuisance to the public, the children of the women can spend some effort to calm down to persuade back? To this proposal, a friend of mine microblogging said: "Children persuade not to go back. What is the point of letting a generation of people who don't study go home? They can only watch parental short dating mediation programs on TV, and will not be alone at all. Go home to the old couple wide-eyed for two days, they have to come out again."
Chinese society is aging, what should people do when they get old? According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, the big mom dancing, in addition to physical exercise, but also in the fulfillment of some other needs, such as a sense of belonging. Unlike most of the office workers who dance around today, the older generation are mostly "unit people" who instinctively feel they need to belong to a group, be noticed, be needed and be cared for.
Because I live in two "countries", I can't help but make some comparisons as a reference. It is important to note that both the US and China have elderly issues, and some of my statements are just broad generalizations from the convenience of the narrative.
In the United States, the elderly and their children do not live together, the land is sparse, it should be more lonely, but why do not we have these problems? The saying that the US is "a paradise for children and a hell for the elderly" has been circulating among the Chinese for a long time, because many of them have problems with the transportation and language barriers. The local elderly seem to be mostly happy with themselves, and even say they are "young at heart". There are also communities and condominiums (commonly known as senior citizen apartments) that are exclusively for the elderly, and they say that you have to be 65 years old or older to live there.
I have found that older Americans retire later in life, which goes a long way toward alleviating the problem of loneliness. Many older Americans work until they can't. There are no "units" in the United States. There is no concept of "unit" in the United States. After retiring from one place, they continue to work in another, including doing chores at Wal-Mart. These post-retirement jobs may not pay well, but they always give them something to do. Retirement in this country is too early, some in their early 50s. If you live to be 80, you still have 30 years left to live at home. If you have the opportunity, you should find something else to do. It's not just a question of money. It's a good feeling to be alive and to be able to give to others, and it makes you feel fulfilled. If you don't have a job opportunity, it's good to do volunteer work.
Nowadays, a lot of old people think about how to keep fit all the time. If a person lives around himself, he will wrap himself up in a smaller and smaller package and become more and more depressed.
Let the community life colorful, should be the way of the aging society. Community life in the United States is very well developed. Many middle-aged and elderly people go to church, Bible study on Wednesdays, worship on Sundays, and maybe other small group study opportunities, which fulfills a deep need for community belonging. In addition to religious institutions, there are many other kinds of community programs, such as clubs that I have visited, such as "women's clubs", "poetry clubs", and so on. If China also organizes such community centers (even if they are for-profit and require people to pay fees), or if the existing community centers are really put to good use, it can also solve the problem of the middle-aged and the elderly not being able to find a "third place" after leaving their workplaces and families.
Writing this, perhaps there are elderly friends questioned: you will not be old someday ah? I think, people get sick and weak in old age is naturally bad, I do not look forward to, but I like to write and translate, no one to disturb me, I can not wait, I guess the old do not have to worry about boredom. In fact, we should develop some hobbies in our old age, after all, we have to spend a lot of time alone in our later years. This is a good time to pick up the past ideals to pick up, such as the Irish-born writer McCourt, is retired and found that they have time, began to create, in his later years wrote a number of influential books, such as "Angela's Ashes", "Teachers" and so on.
Not everyone has this talent, but there are quite a few actionable things to do. For example, I have an old coworker who spends a lot of time organizing family videos. She organizes family photos and dubs them into a variety of stories. She played these films at family gatherings and they were very popular with the extended family. They were then burned onto DVDs and distributed to families. She even traveled a long way to take photos of her ancestors' tombstones for these films, and she was very busy with them all day long.
I also know an old gentleman who started learning to be a carpenter in his old age and made a lot of furniture for his children, grandchildren and relatives. And then he started buying machines and learning how to make fountain pens, and the last time we were there, he gave us several. After all the gifts were due, he started learning how to grow vegetables at home. In short fighting aging by learning.
There are also some older people who go to learn things to cultivate their emotions. I've seen some older people start to learn voice and piano. According to conventional thinking, people think that children learn to be useful, so let the children in the cognitive load of the heaviest time to force them to learn the piano and painting, learning them to complain. When it comes to the original intention, most parents do not want their children to become famous and successful, but just to let them cultivate their emotions. When they reach middle age, they don't have any sentiments, so why don't they try to cultivate them? The middle and old age can learn a lot of things, of course, do not go to the study of medicine indiscriminately.
Good family relationships should solve the problem of loneliness and boredom in old age. The retired square dancers are probably already empty nesters who feel they are no longer needed by their children and are so lost that they need to find a way to prove their existence. Chinese-style marriage we may also know, ignore each other quarrel in the minority, the spirit of the family can not find much comfort to go to the square dancing is not bad, some become helicopter parents, hovering over their children, interference in their lives, forcing their children to talk about marriage, eager to hold the grandchildren, or hand directly to the small family to manipulate, fight a proxy war, which is not much to do the performance! . If old partners please each other and appreciate each other, who wants to run outside all day long? Running away all the time, going dancing, may not solve family problems but also create problems? I used to know an old couple in China, the husband fell in love with dancing, always go to the dance partner, the old lady angry home sick and died.
On the middle and old age, if the idea of broadening some, but a new life is a start, why a swarm of all to open the loud speaker to go to the public dance, disturbing the four neighbors uneasy?