I used to work in the laundry room of a factory, cleaning the work clothes changed by workers every day. I have worked in this position for decades. Although the work is hard, I want stability and good welfare. Having a retirement salary after retirement can guarantee a sense of security for the elderly.
Before I retired, I imagined how I would spend my old age. This work is too difficult. I want to be kind to myself, enjoy my retirement and do what I like. I like square dancing and plan to go dancing with my sisters after retirement. Besides, I also like traveling very much. With time and retirement salary, I can go out and see the outside world. I planned my retirement life too beautifully, but the reality slapped me.
When he retired in a few months, his son suddenly came back and told us that his girlfriend was pregnant and planned to get married. Although everything didn't go according to the procedure, it was a happy event after all, and my wife and I were very happy. After that, my son took his girlfriend to live at home, and then chose a good day to get the certificate. I was promoted to mother-in-law in a short time.
I am very kind to my daughter-in-law, especially when she is pregnant again. Try to cook good food for her every day, buy her fruit and milk, want her to eat nutritious food and raise the fetus well. I wonder if it's because I'm pregnant. My daughter-in-law can't eat anything and often wastes my kindness. She is always lazy. She either sleeps or plays with her mobile phone every day. She doesn't like chatting with me very much and never helps with housework. Because she is pregnant, and I don't care.
When I first retired, life was still very comfortable. There is nothing wrong with going to the supermarket to buy and cook three meals a day. Every day is playing cards and dancing in the square dance, and sometimes I go out with my sisters to get together, and my life is quite leisurely. Since my daughter-in-law gave birth to a granddaughter, my happiness in my later years has been completely ruined.
Granddaughter loves to cry and make trouble, which is especially difficult to bring. Hugging all night, crying as soon as I put it down. Holding her all day, I am so tired that my hands are not my own. I'm tired enough taking care of my granddaughter. I have to take care of my daughter-in-law, and I also do three meals a day and housework at home. My pressure suddenly increased, and no one helped me share it. Let alone playing cards and dancing in the square dance. I even want to have a good rest and sleep.
I thought that my daughter-in-law was out of the month and mainly took care of the children, so I could breathe a sigh of relief. As everyone knows, this is all my wishful thinking. Although the daughter-in-law also helps to look after the children, she is only responsible for breastfeeding most of the time, and I will take care of the rest. Daughter-in-law doesn't like doing housework. Since she got married, she seldom took the initiative to help clean and cook. Even so, the daughter-in-law will often shout tired and say that she doesn't sleep enough at night. Then I have no reason to complain about her, for fear of making the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law bad.
From the beginning, I felt that I couldn't get along with my daughter-in-law. We usually get along on the surface. In fact, this feeling is not very good, but fortunately there is no contradiction. However, since the birth of our granddaughter, we have had a great conflict in the concept of parenting, and we are often unhappy about it. Fortunately, we all controlled it well and never really quarreled. I think I will work hard for another two years to help my son and daughter-in-law take their children to kindergarten and then enjoy retirement.
But the plan can't keep up with the change. When the granddaughter was just 1 year old, the daughter-in-law was pregnant again. Not long after the daughter-in-law gave birth to her grandson, she went out to look for a new job as soon as she recovered. She made money and didn't have to take care of the children all day. I can take care of a child, but I have too much life with my naughty granddaughter, my newborn grandson and my family. But so what? No one can appreciate my efforts, and everyone thinks that these are what I should do.
My life now revolves around two children, or I stay in the kitchen. I forget how long it's been since I went out to square dance, let alone travel with my sisters. Now life really makes me feel very tired, but there is nowhere to tell the pain, so I can only bear it silently. When I am exhausted in bed, I expect my grandchildren to grow up quickly, so that I can have time and freedom to live the life I want.
Women are selfless and great. It can be said that they have devoted their lives to their families and children. I have worked hard for most of my life and brought up my children. After retirement, I really should enjoy the happiness of my old age. If a woman wants to live the life she wants after retirement, she must be determined to do the following three things:
First, don't do all the housework. In a family, both husband and wife have obligations for this family, including a clear division of housework, otherwise the pressure on women will be great. When you have a daughter-in-law, you can also discuss with your daughter-in-law to share housework.
Second, don't take all the responsibility of taking care of children. Old people can help take care of children, but it's not your obligation. You should let your children take on the responsibilities as parents.
Third, leave room for your future life. Even if you have to take care of children and do housework, you can't spend all your time on it. Leave some space for yourself, do what you want to do and relax, so you won't feel so tired.
The quality of life of the elderly is not only influenced by some external conditions and factors, but also related to themselves. Only by doing these three things well can the old age be guaranteed. If you just compromise blindly and don't know how to communicate with your family and daughter-in-law and establish a good family division of labor order, it will only make you suffer and be wronged. Therefore, if you want to spend your old age safely, you must do these three things well.