In this movie, many people saw the beauty of Yunnan and the fashion of Gu Ting, while what I saw was Gu Ting's "unwillingness to pay".
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0 1 I would rather be wronged than take the initiative to forgive for my feelings.
In the film, Gu Ting's mother abandoned her and her father for her love when she was 8 years old. She chased her mother again and again, hoping that her mother could stay for her and make up with her father, but her firm belief filled her with hatred. If it weren't for her father's dying entrustment, she would never take care of her mother when she disappeared. She said that all she did was to realize her father's wish.
Her mother tried to communicate with her several times and begged her forgiveness, but she ignored her coldly. Then, my stepfather died, and my mother swallowed medicine and died. When she learned that her mother died because she refused to accompany her, she cried bitterly, but it was too late!
As the saying goes, "a child wants to support but doesn't want to be close." When we realize it, if we don't choose to forgive, we will eventually lose the word "relatives".
At the end of the TV series "Anjia", netizens gave themselves various endings because they couldn't stand Pan Guiyu's bad behavior. A touching ending is that in order to force Grandpa to come out to help her, Pan Guiyu treated Fang Rujin eccentrically, because Pan Guiyu knew that he could not afford it.
In the two films, it is not difficult for us to draw a conclusion that family ties are feelings that people can't choose and give up all their lives. When we choose to give up our affection, in fact, our hearts are painful, struggling and uneasy.
But in order to "revenge" the harm they caused us, we chose to lick the wound and tell them that I won't cry and I won't forgive you. If I choose to forgive, it is a betrayal of my previous experience. If I continue to pay for you, I will feel uneasy, even uncomfortable.
As everyone knows, in this world, it is sad not to take the initiative to pay, not to forgive, and not to reconcile with yourself. If Gu Ting forgave her mother and settled down, if she could look down on her mother, maybe the result would be different. One seems to resist retaliatory harm, but actually hurts himself. Compared with the dead, the living will be more sad.
For love, we only talk about taking and immediate satisfaction, and refuse to pay time and energy.
In the love between Su Dong and Gu Ting, it is obvious that Su Dong gave everything to him. In several details in the film, when Gu Ting was about to hit an animal while driving, Su Dong would rather be thrown out of the car and try his best to step on the brakes; When Gu Ting had no place to live, Su Dong gave up his house in order to reassure her. Gu Ting's girlfriend was scolded for being a mistress, and Su Dong took the blame and was beaten; When Gu Ting's mother died, Su Dong was busy outside; When Gu Ting was unhappy and threw away his stewardess's name tag, Su Dong moved out of the box with all his strength, regardless of his waist injury, and found out the precious name tag in his eyes.
Obviously, Su Dong has been paying for her, trying to understand her joys and sorrows, trying to understand her dreams and plans, and helping her prepare materials for studying abroad.
But she never knew how serious Su Dong's waist injury was and how much Su Dong loved her. When Su Dong decided to go to Alhan, Gu Ting aborted Su Dong's child.
There is a saying circulating on the internet that it is made in a hundred years, in a thousand years, in a million years, and in a hundred million years. Chef Huang is Huang Lei. Under the screen, we all hope to find a man who can go to the kitchen under the hall like Huang Lei. When we saw Sun Li's surprise appearance in the program "Sex and Life", we found that their love was actually quite powerful, and no one forgot to pursue a better self.
Huang Lei and Sun Li: Life I yearn for.
Two seemingly asymmetrical people are actually thinking about how to work harder, change and pay for each other's better life. In their mouths, they don't hear any complaints about life, but more love for life and gratitude to each other.
Zhang Xiaoxian said that love is the balance between greed and fear. The more you want it, the easier it is to lose it. Love is the balance between trying to possess and trying to avoid losing.
In any relationship, if we want to maintain the development and harmony of the relationship, it is very important to maintain balance. If one party asks blindly and doesn't pay, the paying party will eventually be too tired and may give up this relationship.
A good way to maintain feelings: keep balance.
Cao Qitai said that work and ability are balanced, and so are looks and brains.
Later in the film, Gu Ting learned from Su Dong's friends that Su Dong once loved him deeply, and even replaced his commonly used drugs. She came to the house where they lived with regret, only to find how great Su Dong's love was.
If Gu Ting had realized Su Dong's love earlier, if she hadn't aborted the child without authorization, if she had given a few minutes to slow down, listen to her mother's nagging and spend more time with her mother, or she could have a good talk with Su Dong. Maybe none of them will die.
The Book of Songs says, "Give me papaya, and I will reward Joan. It is always good to repay bandits. The respect you pay to others will be meticulously felt by others and returned to you!
Obviously, Gu Ting didn't know. She kept asking, but she didn't hand it in in time. Did not maintain a good emotional balance, and then lost the person who loved her.
Therefore, in the face of affection and love, we should keep a balance in time and pay in time, instead of selfish consideration of our feelings. The "no pay" of all of us may become that no one can make you pay in the later stage.
Life is like driving a car, sometimes you need to take a sharp turn, sometimes you need to slow down a few turns, sometimes you need to feel the grinding sound of tires patiently, and sometimes you need to rely on the co-pilot. If, each of us can pay in time and stop loss appropriately. We will all be the one with no regrets.
Conclusion:
In this world, no one will be good and no one will be bad for no reason.
When we enter the time when we can feel love and be loved, we should take it in time, keep the balance between demand and pay, and pursue the further sublimation and development of the relationship in balance.
The movie is over, but all we have left is to think about what you would do if you were Gu Ting. If you were Su Dong, do you have a better way to love Gu Ting? If there was no such impulse and work at that time, as long as you were willing to pay a little sincerity, would it be another ending to listen to your mother or his voice and talk about those misunderstandings for a little time?
The movie is just a movie, but it makes us think about life. It is about love and family, but no matter what kind of emotion, all we have to pay is a heart willing to accompany him and time willing to stay for him.
May you and I meet a good family and a satisfactory love on the road.