Lu Xun said, "But silence is the highest contempt."
Between people, separated by a chasm, not everyone will understand you, understand you, some people face misunderstanding, will not be able to refute, some people face accusations, only silence. But the silence in return is not necessarily understanding and sympathy, but rather is to intensify.
So, silence is not suitable for women, especially one old and one young two women. There are mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law in the place, it is inevitable that there are all kinds of conflicts, there are contradictions, should be resolved in a timely manner, should not be silent, silence in exchange for perhaps a temporary calm, but it hides a larger family storm.
Chun Bi since the marriage of the mother-in-law to live with, originally did not want to live with the elderly, can not help but carry the husband's persuasion.
Husband Xiao Jun is the only son of the family, always said that his parents have worked hard to raise him to adulthood, and now it is not easy to have a good job to earn money, how can you not give your parents to the end of the old age, do not take them around to take care of it.
Chun Bi could not compete with her husband, so she agreed.
A moment of weakness, in exchange for endless sour.
Chun Bi has to work during the day, and work is busy, every day until ninety o'clock to go home. When you get home, don't talk about eating and watching TV, you don't even want to talk. During the day, because of the work, always criticized by their bosses and customers, the program changed again and again, people are driven crazy, the boss's scolding face, hate to slap the past, but also to receive a paycheck, or tolerate it.
The hard work and pressure at work has given Chunbi a headache. When she got home, she had to listen to her mother-in-law's chatter.
Chun Bi did not want to talk, her mother-in-law said she, rude, uneducated, see the elders do not say hello.
Chun Bi did not want to eat, her mother-in-law said she was picky and disliked her cooking was not good.
Chunbi just wanted to be alone, and asked the old man not to play the TV so loudly, but her mother-in-law said she couldn't stand it.
All in all, Chunbi was wrong. The two sides of the coin are the same as the other side of the coin, which is the same as the other side of the coin.
On one occasion, on a Saturday, Chun Bi went to work overtime as usual, according to the usual, to the end of the afternoon to come back, just that day, the company power outage, so they left work early.
When she came home, the scene in front of her completely stunned Chunbi. The mother-in-law led three or five aunts of the same age, standing in rows on the living room, according to the TV dancing square dance. The TV was so loud that it had long been a nuisance. On the coffee table was a messy pile of leftover melon seeds and fruit shells, and on the sofa cushions, there were still stains from the drinks, which were new cushions bought only last week.
Seeing these, Chunbi couldn't help but be furious, rushed over to turn off the TV, and said to the group of mothers, "Auntie, you want to dance to go to the community plaza to dance at home will make noise to the neighbors, and be complained about it is not good."
I didn't expect to say that, those aunts have picked up their own things, went out and put on their shoes and left. Watching each one leave, the mother-in-law was angry and embarrassed.
Yelling at Chunbi, she said, "What are you doing, are you still uneducated, do you treat your elders like this?"
Chun Bi also not polite, back to dislike her: "How I have no education, you look at this pile of garbage, you have education. And next time, don't blame me for being rude, just disconnect the internet and see how you guys still dance."
"You're cruel, you're not filial to the elderly at all, angry with me, I'm going to file a complaint to your mother, question how she teaches her daughter, no big or small."
Mother-in-law said she was going to take the phone to call her in-laws mother.
Chunbi replied indifferently, "Go ahead and call, I'll see if you still have a face."
Chunbi's mother, a retired teacher, taught her daughter from a young age to know right from wrong, to defend her rights and interests, but also not to be humble.
The mother-in-law originally thought that the in-laws mother is also an old man, will be on their side, the daughter treats the old man so unreasonable, how to also have to teach her daughter is not.
I didn't expect the mother-in-law's reply, which made her ashamed: "Mother-in-law, at least you are a mother-in-law, so you don't know right from wrong, I feel ashamed for you. You didn't do a good job yourself, you didn't set a good example for the younger generation, and you even complained first, do you think I will believe you? Besides, I don't know what kind of person my daughter is. I didn't raise my daughter this far to marry into your family to be bullied by you."
Some words disliked the mother-in-law ashamed, indeed, the dragon gives birth to the phoenix, the son of a mouse can make holes. In-laws mother is great, daughter-in-law is great. The mother-in-law from now on, do not dare to continue to Chunbi against, and do not dare to continue to bring the old lady home to party to drink tea and dance.
A good mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is to know your place in the family. The house was bought by the son and daughter-in-law, then, this small family is centered on them, the daughter-in-law is naturally the hostess, the mother-in-law should be retired to the daughter-in-law's back, should not be pointing fingers, take the liberty to make decisions, and constraints on the daughter-in-law's behavior.
Writer Zhang Yanxia said: "Freedom, calmness, calmness, elegance are derived from independence, independence is so that you do not depend on others, do not fear the future. Independence is the bottom line that you will always be used."
Women have their own work, their own income, and have their mother's family as a support, people live in the bottom of the air, do not fear the mother-in-law's unjustified difficulties.
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