Accept the difference between the reality and the ideal, the last installment said the last point, if you want to get into a distant marriage, you have to do a good job of psychological construction in advance, but before that, many women marrying people may not think so much, rushed back with this man. And then you realize the gap is huge. For example, in any case, if I think this man will guard me, eventually. He didn't guard me that much, and sometimes I could feel as if his parents were more important than me. This kind of feelings can become a thorn in your side when they expand and widen.
If this thorn keeps sticking you, you will constantly think that the relationship will turn sour if you make demands on this man. How do women who are married far away deal with their relationships? Speaking from the heart of a talented man. So our first step, if you go to a man's house and something is different from your ideal, we have to tell ourselves it's normal. I'll accept it and improve it first. How? It's just a matter of communicating the details with your husband. What happens when acceptance is over? You can't say I accept it. I have a hard time every day that second one is also important. If you go to an unfamiliar place, the first step is to build your circle. People are pack animals including our ancient hunting days when it was impossible for one person to chase a wild animal with a pitchfork.
It takes a lot of people to be together, so when you get there, the unfamiliar place seems to have no one but your husband. It seems like what to do. David Asher, you work. You have to have a job, you can't stay home every day with the kids and take care of your in-laws, then your circle is so small that you care about issues like being able to watch a fitness class, being able to watch a yoga class, or having your own hobbies, square dancing, going to the park, etc., you have to get out. Never forget to love yourself well. That is, when you arrive at a home, you can love your children, your husband, your in-laws, but don't forget to always love yourself. How do you love yourself legally? For example, many people feel uneasy when they arrive in an unfamiliar environment and want to please some people.
Perhaps your husband, your in-laws, or even your neighbors, you try to please such people to gain each other's approval. That is devaluing. That's someone who doesn't love themselves, isn't confident or undervalues themselves. If we are in this situation, we need to draw away from the body, establish the bottom line of our principles and love ourselves well. Another point is that we should never forget to grow. That growth remains in your own worth and the ability to get along. You're getting better and better at being different in the relationship. You are getting better and better in this relationship and it's baffling this man more and more.