So answer others in the jitterbug called me to forget my ex-husband
So answer others in the jitterbug called me to forget my ex-husband, jitterbug is a common social tool in our daily life, jitterbug is also different social definitions at different levels, the following introduction so answer others in the jitterbug called me to forget my ex-husband.
So answer others in the jitterbug called me to forget the ex-husband 1
1, jitterbug, ex-girlfriend
Yesterday, the hand bitch turned over the boyfriend jitterbug concern, found that his first concern is the ex-girlfriend, they are separated because of the female urge to marry and the boyfriend's parents oppose so he proposed to break up. I and my boyfriend is his breakup in March to recognize, boyfriend proposed twice has set the date of the collocation, although my boyfriend began to play jitterbugs before I met and last month took the initiative to uninstalled, but I am still very upset:
First, he and I together did not cancel the attention of her dynamic. Secondly, the former jittery now often send beautiful photos, looks very happy, although my hardware are better than the ex-girlfriend but see her lovely look suddenly also a little less confident. I feel that my ex-girlfriend and I from the appearance of temperament to character experience is completely different from the two types of people, the past few days is always thinking about boyfriend and I together is not because I am suitable for marriage?
But my boyfriend is really good to me to pay a lot, may I ask Lezi how to see this matter? I'm sure my boyfriend hasn't contacted his ex-girlfriend again, and WeChat has pulled the plug, should I let him delete and pull the plug? (Ex-girlfriend belongs to a very active girl, boyfriend economic strength and relatively strong I worry that in the future she will still look for boyfriend help), please ask Lezi how to restore the good heart?
The girl, if you do not "hand cheap" turned to his ex-girlfriend's jitterbug, then now immersed in the sweet waiting for the license. In fact, nothing happened, but you suddenly found an imaginary enemy, so inferiority, uneasiness, anxiety.
Jitterbug has been on the market for a few years, and it's not unusual for us to apply for a new account, and most of us will be the first to pay attention to our then-boyfriends and girlfriends. If there is a new social software now, he will also be the first to follow you. As for the shutdown, not every couple breaks up with each other's social accounts all black once, put there is just a past acquaintance.
If he really loves his ex-girlfriend so much, how will he leave her? I can only say that the ex-girlfriend is not the ideal wife in his mind, maybe very realistic, but the marriage itself is very realistic. He will choose you because you have what he needs.
Now we all have their own lives, and are enjoying the moment, as long as your boyfriend is clear-headed, mature character, it will not be easy to go back to eat grass. The ex-girlfriend is not a fool, it is not easy to have happiness, why to go back to find a man who once abandoned them?
This relationship for both of them has been the past tense, instead of worrying about fear, why not be confident. The sky will rain, the mother will marry, really want to cheat that you can not stop. Not to mention what's the point of deleting Jitterbug? Can't you search for an account? Can't you apply for a new number? So instead of thinking nonsense, why don't you live a good life, believe in yourself, you are also very good, lose you, his loss is also very big.
2, boyfriend 520 cool
boyfriend a month ago promised me 520 to be together, the results of ten days ago told me that he was in the field of the new restaurant is scheduled to open in 520 so can not come over to stay with me, I was expressed the understanding, but the ten days of the long-distance, he almost did not how to contact me, I sent a circle of friends do not like. This sudden coldness makes me very insecure, and then think of his opening day to invite some beautiful models to help cheer also some anxiety, so the day before yesterday he temporarily to my side of the business, suddenly sent a message to stop by to see me, I do not want him to feel that I'm very idle at any time waiting for him to look for me to find a reasonable excuse to excuse the meeting, and then the past two days he did not have a bit of news again ... ... ...May I ask Lezi how to deal with this coldness of him, if he continues not to contact me in 520 this day need to take the initiative to contact him, or when he is busy after the need to mention some small request to make up for his 520 cool date?
His new restaurant in the field is about to open, then he must be busy now, a mind pounced on the above, ignoring your feelings. As a girlfriend, even if you doubt him, you should show your support for him. Because there aren't many windows inside a relationship where you can impress the other person, this is a good opportunity for you to show that you are understanding. You can put your own aggravation aside for a while and fulfill his emotional needs in turn. Encourage him to "work hard, XX always too hard", praise him a few times.
Maybe in a month or two he will continue to ignore you, because the new store opened up. You put your own life arrangements, the food, the drink, the play, do not rely too much on feelings. Under normal circumstances, if your relationship is fine, he will appreciate your support and understanding when he's done with his busy schedule. At that time he will come to you, you then be a listener, let him talk about the opening, give him a few compliments, it is easy to go deep into his heart.
As for the female models to cheer, this is nothing to care about, the man in the business at the juncture, which have the mind to see female models? The most concerned is certainly turnover, management issues, a whole lot of things. To really have this mind, that you can not stop ...... so if he is busy after this bout, or on your cold words (unless his business failure), then you have to consider whether to continue. In fact, running to get married to the object, do not be too pretentious, marriage is more reality, which is also the test of the relationship.
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3, my husband makes me cold
Married for 3 years without children, my husband chased me, the last 1 year or so gradually feel that he has become selfish, do not care about considerate me. Want to prepare for pregnancy and he talked about having children, I said "pregnancy and childbirth for women is a painful process", he said "if you think it is painful, then do not give birth to, or later you will put the pain in my body", I said". I said, "The pain of having a child is a sure thing, not my imagination", he said, "then everyone is not so over. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new one, but I'm sure you'll be able to get a good deal on a new one.
And married colleagues who have a child, they said that their husbands are almost like this, can not count on. I'm not sure if it's true that most men who have been married for a long time are like that. The current state makes me very uncomfortable, and he talked about my emotional needs but nothing, recently found that he had downloaded a few strangers and other chatting software, I re-downloaded the login to find that there is no set profile and chat records, I do not know whether he is curious or want to chat, how to deal with it? Divorce in time to stop the loss? Or change a husband probability or so?
When you have doubts about the relationship, do not easily get pregnant, or when you have a child and the other side does not care, you will be very painful. You can set a period for yourself, secretly observe and think clearly, such as six months, or a year. During this time, don't reveal your suspicions, secretly investigate the other person, and see where the relationship goes. In the meantime, give the relationship one last chance and try to fix it.
Chatting software can erase personal data and chat records, in fact, many times you found a trace, do not go through, secretly observe, always observe something. And if you reach that deadline, you do not observe the signs, the two people's feelings have changed, in the direction of good, then it is not too late to consider preparing for pregnancy. Conversely, if the relationship is getting worse, then stop in time.
4, "Do not marry someone you love"
How can you not go in love? I remember Lezi once said, "It's best not to marry someone you love, because then you'll have a hard time managing him." So if I want to take the initiative in a relationship or marriage, or if I don't want to be too emotionally invested so as not to bring about harm, is there a specific way I can control the intensity of my feelings for the other person?
Hi, I may not have described it well. I mean don't marry someone you love unilaterally and y, so that you will have excessive emotional needs for him, that is, you need him far more than he needs you. Then you can easily lose your psychological edge, especially in a marriage where your need for him doubles when you're pregnant, when you're in labor, when you're breastfeeding.
And there's a great need for balance in a marriage, where one partner develops an excessive emotional need for the other, which means that you need him to fulfill yourself every now and then and have no way to do so. The result is a growing imbalance where one is full of resentment and the other wants to run away.
I never said don't go for the heart, on the contrary, the heart of the relationship is strong. But this walk heart is not dependence and need, but to appreciate each other from the bottom of the heart, can see each other's merits. At the same time, you have to do not overly dependent on him, not overly need him, so that you can be well balanced a relationship. How to do it? That is: love yourself, rely on yourself, mental independence.
Even if you love a person, you will not lose yourself because of him, and you will not have excessive emotional needs for him. You have your own spiritual world from which you can draw nourishment, and you can also give him nourishment. Love is mutual, you love him and he loves you, you depend on him and he depends on you, you can fulfill him and he can fulfill you. Such a balance is a virtuous cycle.
Don't marry someone you love y unilaterally, but if he loves you y too, and you depend on each other, that's wonderful.
5, because divorced and inferiority complex
Lezi hello, after the divorce around the right boy quite a lot . The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure I'm the right person for the job, but I'm not sure I'm the right person for the job, and I'm not sure I'm the right person for the job, and I'm not sure I'm the right person for the job. But now this society, so hard to find a firm choice of people, skeptical life.
Hello, divorce is one of your inferiority points, you take this as your own defect. It's like how some people have low self-esteem because they are single parents, and some people have low self-esteem because they are flat-chested. Even if the other person says they don't mind, it's hard for you to believe it because the person who really minds is you.
No one is perfect, your date is not perfect, maybe a little worse education, maybe a little shorter height, maybe a little lower income, and then the best people may have a short board. Only you amplify their own short board, to cover it off their own advantages, which makes you produce a very low evaluation of themselves, thus losing the courage to love.
But the truth is that choosing a spouse is a holistic measure, and everyone's priorities are different.
Some people mind single-parent families, others do not. Some people don't mind being flat-chested, some don't. Some people don't mind being divorced, some don't. The fact is that the most important thing is that you have to be able to get the best out of your life, and you have to be able to do that. The people who do mind, you can just PASS them off. Who can guarantee that they will be loved by everyone? Even if the majority of people mind, then there is always not mind.
Similarly, some people value appearance, some value character, some value material. If you focus on your low self-esteem, then you'll mistakenly think that everyone can't see you, because you're completely ignoring your own merits.
If the other side is not tall but very smart and rich, then you may think that height is not a big problem. It's all about synthesis, and side effects aside, the pros cover the cons. He is not tall but he has a high emotional intelligence, his hair is bald but he has a lot of gold, mature and stable, he is divorced but he has a good character ...... choosing a spouse will not always focus on the shortcomings, exclude those who really minded, other people will go to look at your strengths.
So you need to amplify your strengths and cultivate more of them as a way to build self-confidence instead of staring at your inferiority points. Don't be afraid of being measured, you're measuring others too. Choosing a spouse is supposed to be a two-way street, and it's normal to love someone more y than you do to measure them.