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There is a passage on the Internet:
He said that he likes boiled water, and you are a bottle of Sprite, so he shook off the carbon dioxide in his body.
Then, it becomes a bottle of sweet water without breath.
You are sweeter than boiled water, and less irritating than soda, but you still can't make his love.
Women should understand that it is better to please others than to please themselves. Love is your social life, not your life; Getting married and having children is your life choice, not your life.
The most comfortable relationship is that if you don't please me, I won't please you, treat each other as equals and cherish each other. If it fits, we'll be together. If you can't be together, it doesn't matter if you are apart.
If a relationship is barely maintained by "please", it will eventually end in tragedy.
Zhang Ailing, a famous talented woman in the Republic of China, lost her first love to dust.
The situation was chaotic, and Hu Lancheng fled everywhere. In order to survive, Zhang Ailing sent her hard-earned manuscript fee to Hu Lancheng.
And Hu Lancheng still does not change, attracting bees and butterflies everywhere, indulging in the gentle villages of other women.
Finally, when Zhang Ailing, who was pampered, traveled all the way to Hu Lancheng's residence, she found that her beloved had already married someone else.
Zhang Ailing wrote about this relationship:
But in the end, the flowers in the dust withered with Zhang Ailing's heart.
Feelings need to be paid, but they need to be paid to those who really know how to cherish you. If you give in to people who don't cherish you and put away your gorgeous and plump wings, such love is doomed to fail and will not usher in the day of flowering and fruition.
Pleasing a person is a humble gesture. Down to the dust, in exchange for others really treat you as dust.
But pleasing yourself is a kind of wisdom. Women insist on going their own way and being masters of their own lives, rather than dispensable supporting roles in other people's lives.
On the day of 520, Shanda Xiu En Ai and Tong Liya issued a divorce statement. In fact, everyone with a discerning eye knows that the end of this marriage is a matter of time.
In this marriage, Tong Liya has always been humble. She has been trying to please her husband, but she has lost herself.
After the divorce, Tong Liya cut off her long hair for ten years. She works hard, lives seriously and spends every day in hot pillow.
She gave up the dreamy and beautiful princess dress and put on smart suit pants. One movie after another kept her honing her acting skills.
When she appeared in the public eye again, she was not the woman who felt inferior and shy at the beginning. She is full of energy and happy, which makes the media feel dazzling.
A woman who flatters others has lost her true colors and feels like a stagnant pool. Women who please themselves are always full of energy and vitality. Life is your own, don't forget.
At that time, the first divorce case that caused a sensation in the Republic of China was Zhang Youyi and Xu Zhimo.
Before marriage, in order to cater to Xu Zhimo's eight-character birthday, Zhang Youyi changed from a mouse to a dog.
In order to please, I changed the zodiac, but my fate has not changed.
At first, Xu Zhimo didn't like the marriage arranged by his parents, and also thought that Zhang Youyi was a "country bumpkin", which didn't match him as an enlightened advanced element.
In order to please her husband and change his inherent image of himself, married Zhang Youyi wore fashionable cheongsam, studied business knowledge and even learned difficult foreign languages. But no matter how Zhang Youyi changed herself, Xu Zhimo never really met her.
Their marriage lasted only four short years.
Zhang Youyi knew that it was not the goal of life to please others and live the life they expected. The person who should really please in life is always himself.
Therefore, she entered Pestalozzi College to study early childhood education and constantly enriched her resume life. After returning to China, she made full use of her business acumen to open a Shang Yun clothing company, which was a great success and became a female entrepreneur who was shocked for a while.
At this time, Xu Zhimo, in order to please the profligate Lu Xiaoman, traveled between Shanghai and Peiping, striving for the living expenses.
Women might as well please themselves first, instead of blindly lowering themselves, pleasing others and losing their manners. Because you love yourself, you can manage your life better.
For a woman, it is sad that you care about others wholeheartedly without looking at them and holding them in your hands.
Life is you. It is better to please yourself than to please others. Making yourself happy is an advanced attitude towards life. Only by loving yourself deeply can you be deeply loved by others.
Starting today, you might as well love yourself, manage your life well and live at your own pace.
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