With the arrival of the knowledge-based economy, the fission effect of science and technology and the competition of the field economy, the speed of knowledge updating has been accelerating, and our family education is facing a huge challenge. The vast majority of parents due to their own professionalism and work and education is not direct, the education of their children is mostly based on feelings, experience, in the education of their children on the issue of inappropriate methods, the children are generally petulant, overbearing, lack of initiative, weak willpower and other phenomena, this situation how to solve it? The author believes that in order for children to grow up healthy and happy, the following methods should be taken:
A, eliminate the fear caused by parents of their children
Middle school stage is the children's "over the can" stage, due to a variety of reasons, the decline in academic performance, the parents mood is more anxious, impatient. Children and parents have antagonistic mood, this time the parents should first calm down, learn to wait patiently for their children's growth. An expert said: "Children's desire to avoid failure is stronger than their desire to succeed. In order to prevent the smallest possible failure, they prefer to lower the level of effort." This is one of the major reasons why parent-induced fear deprives children of the initiative to forge ahead. I hope that parents do not see the results of the poor, to a "trial", or even flogging, so as not to lose the child's confidence, parents should be children's learning from the process to demand, so than from the results to demand more scientific, more ideal results.
Two, for children to build self-confidence
Inventor Thomas Edison, early childhood desire for knowledge is very strong, like to trace the source. He asked his teacher the question "Why is 2+2 equal to 4" and got into big trouble. Three months after entering the school, he was ordered to quit. His mother was furious and determined to educate her son herself, build his self-confidence, teach him literature, physics and chemistry, and cultivate his love of learning and science. Edison's desire for knowledge was further stimulated. The bud of "genius" grows unconsciously and eventually becomes a world-famous inventor. It can be seen that success comes from self-confidence, the establishment of self-confidence, from the common sense of the people around. If a father doesn't appreciate his own child, where does the child's self-confidence come from? Edison's mother did not appreciate their son, there is no inventor Edison today, the current development of the poorer children, parents should use a magnifying glass to find their flash point, to help their children set up to overcome the difficulties of confidence. When the children need help, parents to grasp a degree of help, never more rowdy blisters, to leave room for maneuver. Such as: children ask how to write a certain word, some parents will be reported out of turn, so do the most effort, but very important. When a child asks how to write a certain word, it would be better to encourage the child to "look it up in the dictionary, don't you? Look it up first, and then come back to tell Daddy (Mommy)." (With this kind of guidance, the child will gladly look up the dictionary). This not only saves parents a lot of time, but more importantly, cultivates the child's ability to grab knowledge by his own hands. And this ability is very important in a person's life. Only let the children jump, through their own efforts to succeed, children can experience the joy of success, so as to build up self-confidence.
Three, with the children to grow together, do children's friends
With the progress of society and the rapid development of science and technology, people have to learn more and more new things. As a parent, you should always reflect the spirit of knowledge and give children an example. "Mom and dad are also learning and making progress!" So that children understand that learning new knowledge, continuous progress is accompanied by a person's life. Secondly, we should communicate with our children, try to shorten the distance between our children's hearts and minds, listen to our children's heartfelt words, truly understand our children, and educate our children to grow up healthily.
Do not use insulting language such as "no talent" and "fool" in educating your children, and do not sneer at them with a sarcastic tone of voice, to sneer at them and be indifferent to them, which will erase their self-confidence and cause great psychological pressure on them, hindering their growth and progress. This will kill the children's self-confidence, cause great psychological pressure on the children, and hinder the children's growth and progress.
"Let the children have success" is the eternal need of parents, education of children in a variety of ways, children's individual circumstances, the family environment, the quality of parents and other important factors, family education to effectively cooperate with the school education, to achieve the *** with the purpose of educating the students, so that the children grow up happily and healthily.
In the process of the child's growth, the factor of love is very important. However, when love loses its reason or loses its limits, the love for the child becomes extreme love, which often leads to obstacles in the child's physical and mental development, distortion of the mind, and has a negative impact on the child's future development of life. ...
The extreme manifestations of love for the child are:
1, that as long as unlimited fulfillment of the child's material needs, is love for the child, in fact, this is a kind of ignorant love. The child's need for love is not only material, but more importantly spiritual. In life, some parents only pay attention to give their children a variety of nutrients, but neglected to cultivate the child's good moral behavior habits and social adaptability. Some parents give their children many books or computers, but do not correctly guide their children to read or correctly use the computer, and do not understand the child's spiritual encouragement, praise, affirmation and the necessary psychological support are love, however, this spiritual love is more important to the child's growth.
2. Parents are overprotective of their children and do a lot of things for them that should be done by the children themselves, which invariably deprives them of the opportunity to develop their own abilities and reduces their self-reliance and self-confidence. This kind of love restricts the child's self-development and adversely affects the child's future social life.
3, the child's requirements are too harsh, often criticized, and even physical punishment. Some parents do love their children very much, however, they mistakenly believe that "a child is born under the stick" and "a child is not born without a fight". Whenever the child's performance is different from the parents' imagination, they will solve the problem by scolding the child, which often causes irreparable trauma to the child's physical and mental development. This kind of love brings the child not joy, but pain. This kind of love for the child will often form the opposite emotion or feelings - hate, hate for the parents, for others, for society, and even for themselves. Parents should fully recognize their children's strengths and develop their self-confidence, rather than criticizing, blaming or punishing them when they find problems, in order to achieve a better development of their children.
I remember a foreign scientist said: "Parents are the first school for children". Indeed, parental education accompanies the growth of children, education is appropriate, will directly affect the child's future, so that family education is particularly important, is an essential subject, "hope for a child to be a dragon" is the parents of the *** with the same wish, each parent hopes to train their children to become a future useful to the country and society. The first thing we need to do is to make an effort in this regard.
The question of "how to educate your children? "has always been the majority of parents *** with the topic of discussion, while the community, the school is concerned about, education of children in a variety of ways and means, for each child's educational methods are not uniform, should be different, which has a lot to learn, education of children should be based on his character traits, interests, hobbies, behavioral habits, etc., to take the appropriate approach, so that the good results. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.
The education of children should start from the "moral, intellectual, physical, aesthetic, good" five aspects, that is, quality education, first of all, parents to educate their own children must be a good character from a young age to do a good boy, you can cite a number of examples or through the television, cartoons, etc., to guide the child to tell him to do a good job in life like one of the characters. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that your child has a good character.
Second, parents should usually be more concerned about the children's academic performance, so that he feels that adults care about his learning, do not ignore, so he will feel that learning is not strong, in addition, parents and children *** with the development of a goal, the implementation of a clear distinction between rewards and penalties, when to achieve the goal, parents should comply with the "contract" to give the appropriate rewards, if not reach the goal, the parents should be given the "contract" to the children. Corresponding rewards, if not up to standard, parents should not blame, scolding the child, should be encouraged to help guide him, so as to re-establish his confidence. Parents should teach their children to develop a "not ashamed to ask" good habits, thinking, good at difficult questions and other good reading habits, teach him to learn things should be flexible, do not memorize, "read dead books, dead books" learning method does not work, time to spend a lot of time, the effect is general! For example, some children copying words, write a row, after a while he still can not write, this method is too "dead", parents should teach more good methods of knot children.
Third, "health is wealth", parents should teach their children to participate in physical exercise, get up early and go to bed early, usually play basketball, running, etc. is very good for the body.
Fourth, parents should educate their children from a young age to become a good boy with a good heart, more good deeds, polite to others, teach them how to treat people.
In addition, the parents of the words and behavior of the children have a very big impact, which should cause parents to pay attention to, to speak decently, to do serious work, to the children to set up a good image, to tell them some of the truth, usually at home to give them to set up some of the ability to do their own things, the same day things to do the same day to complete the child to develop a work schedule, so that they develop a good habit of living. The first thing I'd like to do is to make sure that I have a good habit of living in the house.
In short, there are many ways to educate children, which requires us to be parents should usually do a heart, but also careful, attentive, patient. I believe that as long as we parents can do these points, coupled with the school and the community's *** with concern, our children will be able to become a useful talent to the country, to society.
The education of preschool children to focus on the problem:
After three years of development after the birth of the child, into the preschool period, which is a very important period in a person's life, many of the basic capabilities of the person at this age, such as verbal language, basic movements and certain habits, etc., sexuality is also initially formed in the period, so we can not ignore this period of education and psychological care. Early education includes four aspects: physical, intellectual, moral and aesthetic.
Physical education: it is the first task in early education. Cultivate children's good habits of life and hygiene and ability to live, develop children's basic movements, such as walking, running, jumping, climbing, climbing and so on. To accomplish these tasks, only health care, care and nutrition is not enough, but also must carry out certain sports activities to master certain skills, so that children's bones, muscles and various organs to exercise, improve adaptability and various functions.
Intellectual education: Early intellectual education is important not to teach esoteric scientific knowledge, but to focus on the child's intellect as the focus of the development of children's attention, observation, memory, thinking and imagination, as well as the ability to express themselves orally. Intellectual education in the preschool period is to lay the foundation for future education, and if one misses this period, it will be very difficult, if not impossible, to compensate for later learning, as is the case with spoken language. If a person does not have the opportunity to practice speaking in the preschool period, he or she will not be able to reach the speaking level of a normal person even if he or she spends a great deal of energy in adulthood. We have to prepare our children in terms of developing their intelligence, study habits and interest in learning, rather than taking the number of words they know and the number of books they have learned in arithmetic as a criterion for the level of their intelligence.
Moral education: refers to the education of children's character. The formation of human character up with three factors, namely, the awareness of character, emotion and behavior. Preschool children have a relatively low level of knowledge of things, many abstract truths can not be understood, only to understand the more direct, simple standards of right and wrong, and can cultivate some of the initial behavioral habits of dealing with people, such as politeness, kindness, honesty and so on. Children's imitativeness is strong, many things in society will unconsciously affect them, such as not taking the initiative to educate, children will naturally learn many bad habits. Therefore, character education depends on adults to meticulously penetrate the content of education into the whole life of children, and never rely only on preaching, reasoning can work.
Aesthetic education: refers to the aesthetic education of children. There are many natural and social phenomena in life will make people feel beautiful, some forms of art is the content of these beautiful to be refined, sublimation of the results. To educate children in aesthetics is to train them to consciously experience the beauty of life, and to teach them the preliminary skills and techniques to express their own feelings of beauty, and even to create something. Art forms have the characteristics of image and vividness, and most of them are depicted by sounds, colors or gestures, which is in line with the psychological characteristics of preschool children. Therefore, art forms can attract children's attention and interest, easy to make it by the art of infection and inculcation, such as song, music, dance, poetry, art work, literature, etc. are on the children's knowledge and experience, understanding and appreciation of the level of low, physiological immaturity so can only choose those easy to understand works.
Our surroundings, as well as human behavior, language have a profound impact on the cultivation of children's sense of beauty, so the beautification of kindergartens and home environments, adult demeanor, behavior, and dress are very important.
Preschool children, in psychological care should pay attention to psychological characteristics. At this time, the children's abstract thinking has arisen, can have knowledge of the abstract concept of number; creative imagination has also appeared, individual children can also draw a very innovative picture, make up a funny little story. Therefore, the family life environment and social life environment should create a good atmosphere for children, to let children from the daily life, feel the cultivation, through the influence, cultivate children's good qualities, so that their psychological development in a healthy, upward, friendly environment. In psychological care, we should pay close attention to the method, the children should not use rough and simple reprimand, which is easy to make the children have an inferiority complex; can not be used to accommodate, condone the method, which will make the children do not distinguish between right and wrong, self-righteousness of the mind, the use of positive guidance, the method of good guidance, such as labor to cultivate the children's diligence, the virtue of helping others, so that the children in the psychology of the labor after the pleasant and the joy of helping others. Let the children feel the pleasure after labor and the happiness after helping others. In the psychological care of children, attention should also be paid to let nature take its course, and should be closely integrated with children's education and health care. Proper care, can make children's education to achieve twice the result with half the effort.