Now, my daughter will get married next year. She was looking at the real estate recently and chatted with her sisters who danced in the square dance. I didn't expect everyone's reaction to be beyond her expectation.
"Are you crazy? How to prepare a down payment for my daughter to buy a house? The man has a room, and the woman doesn't have to go out! You might as well buy a car and be practical! "
The reader was surprised. Is it wrong to prepare a house for his daughter? Why is it completely contrary to everyone's concept?
In the traditional thinking of the past, people generally preferred sons to daughters. After marriage, the daughter marries someone else's house and the son is her own. The marriage system deprives women of their inheritance rights, and of course they will not consider buying a house or a car for their daughter. This social normality has formed a custom, which has been handed down.
In fact, there is no custom, but when most people do it, it becomes a trend, a big stream. Then, the rest of the people have no choice but to follow the trend, or they are different.
This female reader is different in everyone's eyes.
However, not all customs are good. When more and more people stand up and resist and are willing to become "different", it is the time when the traditional feudal concept is broken, and it is also a proof of the progress of our society step by step.
Who says a woman must only marry her in-laws? Who says the woman doesn't have to buy a house at all, but the man has to buy a house?
Is everyone else like this? Nobody bought a house for their daughter?
What does it matter to me that others do this? I hope my daughter has a better life. What's wrong with that?
In fact, more and more women have begun to have the awareness of self-protection before marriage. Buying a car will depreciate, and buying a house is to preserve value. Once a woman is divorced, even if she loses her love and youth, at least she will not have nothing and will not be homeless.
As long as you are alone, you need a place to live. Not only men need it, but women don't. The house is just needed, both men and women need it! As long as they are children, they should be treated equally.
Now many parents think too well. The property right of the house is only reserved for their son, and they don't need to pay too much for their daughter. However, children have the obligation to support the elderly. Their daughter is still taking care of them when they are old and sick. It's really chilling to treat people differently just because they are different.
And those who buy a house for their daughters are the enlightened parents who can really handle it clearly.
My aunt once told me that no matter how difficult I am, I must give my daughter a suite before marriage. When I questioned her, she told me that because she had a hard life, she didn't want her daughter to experience the life she had experienced.
She told me the following reasons:
My daughter was wronged and ran out in the middle of the night. If she didn't want to cause trouble to her family, she wouldn't wander the streets. If you have a house, you have confidence, not afraid of your husband's family. Don't let the man worry that his daughter is married for money; Don't rely on anyone, cultivate the daughter's sense of independence; Divorced, not afraid that I can't live, single, don't worry about having no place to live; No need for the man to buy a house, the woman went out to decorate and finally divorced. The man's house is still his own, and the decoration will not come back.
Therefore, whether the man has a house or not, the girl must have her own home. Although the house is not equal to happiness, for many girls, the meaning of the house is home and a sense of security.
With this suite, you can have enough courage to meet the storm outside, and you are not afraid of the storm, because you know there is a warm harbor behind you to support yourself.