With the gradual improvement of people's quality of life, even the elderly are not willing to be sloppy, no matter how old they are, they will still be living their own life, and will try to pursue a happy life in their old age.
Especially the widowed elderly, in their old age, unexpectedly lost their partner, will feel particularly uncomfortable. When your partner is alive, the two of you live together, and the happiness index is higher. But after the death of the partner, a person will feel more lonely.
So the vast majority of widowed seniors have a need to remarry, and many of them have found their match and are living together. The question of whether or not to get a marriage license is handled differently by each person.
So, should older people remarry with a marriage license? Is the license more good than bad, or more bad than good? Listen to what the two parties say.
Grandma Huang:
I am seventy-two years old this year, remarried partner two years older than me, seventy-four years old this year. We were both licensed to be married when we were in our fifties. We were both widowed in middle age and were introduced to each other. I like that he is down-to-earth and willing to work, and knows how to care for me. I like the fact that I am beautiful and young, and that I have a simple mind.
The two of us *** with the life of nearly twenty years, this twenty years of time, we have been very amicable, never red face, fight. Every time I have a different opinion with him, he is always generous to let me, never and I have a positive conflict, let me and he together feel particularly happy.
Neither of us is selfish, and both of our incomes are put together and managed by me. I am grateful for his trust in me, and would never privately cut off my property, I would spend carefully and then put the extra money in a public **** account.
Both my daughter and his son have started their own families and do not live with us. Over the years, we have both enjoyed an undisturbed two-person world and lived a high happiness index.
This year, he suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage, and although he was rescued, he lost his life, but he lost his ability to take care of himself forever. Since he was paralyzed, my life has become particularly difficult, making me feel very pessimistic.
I'm already in my old age, and I've been pampered by him for so many years, and I've never had to make a big effort. Now suddenly let me take care of a hundred and seventy pounds of paralyzed old man, with my physical strength, simply can not keep up.
I forced myself to take care of him for a month, until I was too tired to stand up straight. I'm not sure what I'm talking about, but I'm not sure what I'm talking about, and I'm not sure what I'm talking about. But my stepson said he was too busy to take care of his old father.
He said that as his father's lawful wife, his father is now seriously ill, so I have to serve him well. He said that it was my duty as a wife, and he left me behind and never spoke to me again.
My stepson left me alone, so I had to continue to take care of my old man. I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to do, but I'm going to be able to do a lot more than that. I am an old woman and I don't have the strength to move his bulky body.
I had to ask my son-in-law to help me out.
I had to ask my son-in-law to help me. Every time I gave my remarried partner a bath, my son-in-law and I were so tired and sweaty that it took us a couple of days to get over it. The first time I saw this, I was so tired that my bones ached, and sometimes I wanted to fall on the bed, never wanting to get up again.
My partner's health will never be good enough in this life, and I don't know how I will spend the long years to come. I always have a bad feeling: if I continue to serve him for a long time, I will be exhausted one day.
Now I especially even envy those unlicensed elderly people, because they can come and go freely, do not have to be like me, is bound by a marriage license, even if it has been no affordability, but still have to be kidnapped by the morality of the unfortunate marriage struggling until the end of life.
Grandma Zhao:
I'm sixty-six years old, and I've been living with my remarried partner for just over a year, when he gave me the order to leave. Although he is in his seventies, he has a new love. Ever since that widowed woman had a square dance with him, he was obliviously enamored of her and began to pursue him frantically.
The widowed woman is aware of my existence, yet she still maintains a relationship with him. I had head-to-head confrontations with her, but she looked at me with disdain every time, saying that my remarried old partner and I didn't have a license and were not protected by the law at all.
She even said that I was a cheap woman and that all a man had to do was hook his finger and I was living with a man. She said she wouldn't be as stupid as me, not wanting a penny of dowry from a man, she sent herself off to him.
She scorned me so much that I was really furious, and I knew: they just wanted to gang up on me to get rid of me, so as to make room for them and make it easier for them to be together. I'm not going to leave, I want to see, as long as I do not take the initiative to move out, can they still drag me out of this house?
If it wasn't for the widowed woman, I'd be doing quite well. I don't have pension insurance, and I used to work as a live-in nanny, but now that I'm getting older and can't do nannying anymore, my old clients introduced me to this man and I'm living with him.
The old remarriage partner has a pension, although his retirement pay never gave me, but with him, as long as I can let me eat and wear warm, I'm very content.
I feel that as an old woman with no income, as long as the man is willing to provide me with shelter and food and clothing, it is already very good, and there should not be more than that.
So, when my remarried partner asked me not to get a marriage license, I didn't even think about it. I think for me, to get a marriage license or not, does not make a difference. After all, I do not want to covet his property, as long as we can live together, on what is important.
However, now such a passive situation, let me especially regret the hasty. If I and remarried old partner received a marriage license, as a legal wife, I can teach that widowed woman a good lesson.
Since I did not get a marriage license with him, I simply do not have the position to condemn the widowed woman's meddling, so I have to bear with myself and look forward to the day when my remarried partner awakens.
The remarried old man finally failed to live up to my expectations, and he even ruthlessly threw my belongings out of the house. I'm not willing to go, pulling him to argue that this year I served him, even if there is no credit, but also have hard work.
If he must ruthlessly sweep me out of the door, then he has to compensate me financially. However, he just spat at me viciously, saying that I am a worthless bitch, and actually want to ask him for money?
He said I was daydreaming, and closed the door hard, let me cry outside the door, but also not willing to open the door to see me again. I can't see the door in front of my eyes anymore, I can't cry.
If we have a marriage license, we can still fight with him, let the law give me justice. Now I can't do anything about him, I can only pack up my things and leave silently.
If I were to choose again, I would insist on getting a marriage license with him. Because only with a marriage license, I will be protected by the law, and I will be able to hold my head up in front of everyone as a human being.
Conclusion:Should I get a license for remarriage? Everyone deals with things from different perspectives and in different ways. Although remarriage without a license can be easy and spontaneous, free to come and go, but there are also great disadvantages.
A marriage without a license is far less cohesive than a marriage with a license, and once the marriage meets the wind and rain, it is likely to be separated. The remarried couple with a marriage license, even if there is a small contradiction, will be because the marriage license in hand, will have some scruples, not willing to easily choose to divorce.
Especially when remarrying later in life, the weaker party is better off getting a marriage license. Because this is not only a guarantee, but also to give themselves the weight of increased security.