Please remember to please yourself for the rest of your life.
Loving yourself is the beginning of a romantic life.
Looking for fun
(expressing anger and indifference) Suit yourself.
Sanmao once received a letter signed "Unfortunate Girl".
In the letter, the girl explained that she was very unhappy, very unhappy, and felt worthless, both materially and spiritually poor. She wants to ask San Mao, where is the purpose of life? How can I be happy when I am alive?
San Mao said in his reply:
Next, San Mao comforted her in her reply. In fact, she is not mediocre. If you want to be happy, everything can start with actual changes.
For example, paint the room bright white, make yourself a beautiful curtain on the window, make a bookshelf in the corner, replace the light bulb with a warm lampshade, spend some money to buy yourself a nice new dress, do a new hairstyle, go to activities and meet new friends. ......
Happiness is actually very simple. Start with small things and you will see changes slowly.
"Don't rely on others to give you happiness. If you decorate the room first and do it yourself, you will find that things are not as difficult as you think. Moreover, the benefits can be sought. Try something east and west. As long as you know what you like in your heart, cultivate it and become a pastime after work. "
Have fun and be happy.
Please learn to please yourself for the rest of your life.
Wang Xiaobo said: "People who wait for others to give happiness are often unhappy."
Only when you know how to love yourself and have the ability to make yourself happy is true happiness.
When you are tired, have a rest. Be quiet when you are bored. Comfort yourself when you are angry. When you are sad, give yourself a hug.
Pursuit of dreams
Live a luxurious life
Comedy superstar Chaplin wrote a poem on his 70th birthday-"When I Learn to Love Myself", one of which impressed me deeply:
Everyone is born unique, doing what he loves, living in the present, not recalling the past and not worrying about the future.
Follow your dreams and live a better life.
My friend Xiaojin's family is ordinary, and his father failed in business and was heavily in debt.
The family all want her to live a stable life and be a teacher or a civil servant.
Everyone said: "The most popular thing for girls is teachers or civil servants, and it is easy to find a partner in the future."
But she has always had an English dream in her heart, unwilling to be stable and far away.
During her college years, she studied English hard, took part in English competitions, and took time off to work as an interpreter for foreigners in the exhibition center.
Slowly, her English level became better and better, and she was recommended by friends, so she stepped onto a bigger stage and translated for many celebrities and big coffees.
Later, she became an English-based self-media blogger. With the money she earned, she traveled to many places, was admitted to a famous foreign school and realized her dream.
She said, "People say they want to live a stable life, but my personality doesn't like that. I follow my heart and do what I like. This is the meaning of life. "
If you are in full bloom, the breeze will come.
Don't chase a horse. If you spend your time chasing horses on planting grass, you can attract a group of good horses to come to you when spring blossoms.
Having an interesting soul and living a meaningful life is not how many years you live, but what you really want, even if you are like a meteor, even if it shines for a moment.
Reject others
Obey oneself
San Mao once said, "Don't be afraid to refuse others. If your reason is justified, when a person makes a request, his heart is ready for the answer. "
Li Xueqin, an online celebrity who graduated from Peking University and exposed herself to depression, also shared her experience of not knowing how to refuse.
In an interview, she said that after she became popular, she received many invitations and private letters, but because she didn't know how to refuse, she was so busy that she finally collapsed.
In another interview, she said, "I can refuse others, but I have learned to apologize and compensate."
Li Xueqin's answer is: "You have been looking for me, and I am hurting you by refusing you."
This sentence also expresses the feelings of many people-fear of rejecting others.
My friend Xiaoxi used to be afraid of rejecting others. When she goes to the store to buy clothes, the shop assistant always recommends clothes to her. She tried a few pieces and found that she didn't like them, but she felt that she took up other people's time and was too embarrassed to refuse, so that she bought clothes without wearing them and wasted a lot of money.
Her friend asked her for help, even if she had her own business, she would agree. Helping her friends often makes her feel exhausted.
Later, she found that even if she helped her friends unconditionally, they didn't pay special attention to her.
So she changed her mind and couldn't always obey others for their likes.
Although she felt uncomfortable at first, gradually she gained the freedom of mind and the friendship of mutual respect.
Now, she dares to speak her mind, dare to refuse others, and will obey her true thoughts.
Bi Shumin said: "Our life does not exist because we like others."
Establish a good boundary between yourself and others. If someone puts forward an idea or request that you don't want to do, just express it directly.
There is a saying in "Silent Confession": We must get rid of the expectations of others and find our true self all our lives.
Don't look at other people's eyes, and don't blindly please others; It is better to care more about yourself than others.
Let life be simple, not complicated, and wait for flowers to bloom and rain to fall.
Eat healthy, wear clean, clean outside, and rarely stir inside.
My parents are healthy, my lover is around, and my life is comfortable.
I wish you the rest of your life, please yourself, pursue what you love, constantly cultivate your heart in peace and loneliness, and bloom bravely like a flower!
About the author: This article starts with Uncle Parr (ID: Dashu 259), a single and beautiful uncle who combines reason and emotion. He is funny and warm-hearted, and focuses on weaving girls' dreams at night. The copyright of this picture belongs to the original author.