One Birth Min's Birthday
Birth The local people call a woman's pregnancy a "joyous occasion". When a woman is pregnant, her mother's or mother-in-law's family starts to prepare clothes and bedding for the child. After the birth of the baby, to friends and relatives, friends and relatives to congratulate, most send gifts, there are a few people send baby supplies. After the birth of a baby, the mother does not go out for a month and does not work in the fields. Maternity ward door hanging red cloth to indicate that people do not casually enter and exit, commonly known as "sitting in the moon", during this period of maternal bed rest, but also to eat high-fat, high-protein nutritious food, such as eggs, noodles, millet porridge with brown sugar, chicken soup and so on. The mother's family to buy 5 feet of red cloth, to the baby to do a piece of hem to be burlap red blouse, the local valley called "hair body". On the day of the full moon, the mother's family to take back the mother and baby, commonly known as "hide shame nest", live 3 days to 5 days and then sent back. Back to go, the mother's family to steam 10 white flour hair surface Jiuju 10 brought back, hair surface Jiuju into the shape of a dragon such as fish, meaning good luck. To the 90's, with the customary language has been abandoned, eat "full moon wine" wind rise. In order to celebrate the family to add people imported the big event, full-moon day feast entertained friends and relatives, the baby will be held to the guests to visit, to express appreciation for the will.
Birthday Commonly known as "birthday", "birthday". 70 years ago, birthday, just a few cooked eggs in the morning, noodles, meaning longevity. 80 years later, with the rapid development of the economy, the standard of living of the people continue to improve, most of the elderly, children, young and middle-aged people attach great importance to the birthday. old people, children, young and middle-aged people attach importance to birthdays. When a child has a birthday, parents buy the child a birthday present, which is mostly school supplies, toys, clothes, and so on. Also blow out the candles, sing "Happy Birthday" song, share the birthday cake, some relatives also send birthday gifts.
The Han Chinese focus on the 60th birthday and 66th birthday. 60th birthday to feast on friends and relatives. 66th birthday to 6 two meat, 6 two bread 66 dumplings to the birthday girl to eat, and invite friends and relatives to drink birthday wine, generally in the home or in the restaurant to prepare a sumptuous meal to entertain the guests, during the guests to toast to the birthday girl, singing, sharing birthday cake, singing and laughing, joyful.
The 60th birthday of a Korean old man is called "Huala Daxue". To hire a host, invite the band, set the hotel, video. The birthday table is a Korean custom, in front of the birthday seat on the table, placed on the top of a variety of cakes and fruits, sumptuous and beautiful. On the day of the birthday, friends and relatives with the birthday girl, ride to the park to enjoy the scenery, play photos, pulled to the hotel in order to be seated, and the birthday girl with the back of the first family and seated in the birthday girl left and right. In accordance with the way men and women guests seated, the hotel wall hanging in the main hall of the golden leap of the "birthday" character. Band placed on one side, the host announced the ceremony began, the sound of music, in the birthday song in the music, the son of the birthday boy, daughter-in-law, the girl, the aunt in turn salute, the guest of honor to the birthday speech, the table arrangements for singing and dancing, the atmosphere is cheerful. At the end of the ceremony, the guests stepped into the banquet table, eating and dancing, line into the night.
Two Marriages
Han marriages go through four stages: introduction, falling in love, recognition of kinship, and marriage.
Introduction When young men and women enter the age of marriage, relatives and friends will propose marriage, young men and women looking for objects mainly from the occupation, education, ability, family, character, income, appearance and other aspects of choice. If you think that the other conditions are more satisfactory, you will agree to meet.
Falling in love Young men and women introduced to look at each other, such as agreeing to enter the stage of love. The two sides through frequent contact, deepen understanding of both sides of the character, hobbies, behavior and so on. Most young men and women in cities and towns fall in love freely.
Recognition of marriage is also called betrothal. When young men and women fall in love with each other to the love agreed to together, by the male parents proposed "recognize the marriage" to recognize the marriage on this day, the parents of the two sides, immediate family members to the scene, mutual introductions, but also in the home or hotel banquet, and agreed to choose an auspicious date and time to get married. The man depending on his financial situation to give the woman an appropriate bride price.
Marriage On the wedding day, an elder of the groom's family led nine people, with "away from the meat" (tied with a red line of pork to help meat about 6 pounds and 4 peeled onions), the bride in a car, video car to follow. To the bride's home, the groom changed into wedding clothes, the bride and groom to eat "happy noodles", in the noodles in the large even a poached egg, one person to eat one. The bride's family will be "away from the bride's meat" cut off half, the other half re-tied to bring back. The bride to be held by the brother of the bride's family on the car, the mother of the bride's family does not send the girl, do not participate in the wedding. When the bride received the mother-in-law's door, the first firecrackers, meet the marriage team to meet the front, the bride accompanied by the groom, dressed in wedding clothes hand-carried red basin walked to the front of the mother-in-law, the first to the mother-in-law's head with a red flower, after the red basin to the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law to receive the basin, to give the daughter-in-law red envelopes. Subsequently, the people will carry the bride's dowry clothes, home appliances, etc. into the new room. Bride and groom to go to bed "sitting on the blessing" will be an axe under the futon, sitting on it, about 10 minutes after leaving the bridal chamber to go to the hotel. Car to the hotel should also firecrackers. Hotel hall sitting on the left and right sides of the two sides of the elderly unit leaders. The host announced the start of the wedding ceremony, the bride and groom walked into the front of the main hall accompanied by music. First by the boy and girl on the stage for the bride and groom to wear flowers; in the witnesses read the marriage certificate; the two sides of the elderly speech; unit leaders toast; the bride and groom to exchange tokens; husband and wife to worship drink the cup of wine; the bride and groom to the parents, the introducer, the guests salute. After the ceremony, the banquet begins. The banquet usually consists of 16 dishes, and the Four Happiness Meatballs are indispensable. During the banquet, the bride and groom to toast table by table, men and women, the elderly should contribute to the comfort of the cook, the local commonly known as "bounty", the chef should be given to the bride's family table "bounty" two dishes. And to "back to the table", that is, a table of dishes packed up, the bride's family left the table back to go back to bring back. Three days after the wedding, the bride and groom to "return to the door". 1985-1999, the wedding ceremony, the wind of large-scale ceremonies, gifts, the relevant departments of the three orders, advocating the wedding ceremony, but with little effect.
Korean weddings are held at the woman's home. Wedding day, the groom dressed in Western-style clothes accompanied by elders in the car to the female home, after the host to preside over the wedding. Bride dressed in pink (or white) national dress, head with a veil, with the groom into the room. The marriage ceremony is no different from that of the Han Chinese. After the ceremony, the bridegroom and his entourage in the bride's home in different rooms to accept the "reward table", the groom's "reward table" in addition to cakes and fruits, is essential to a head, mouth holding a large red pepper cooked rooster, a symbol of happiness and prosperity. Seats, the bride's family commonly used riddles, line of wine and other ways to examine the groom's intelligence, the answer is not, to ask for money, in order to prepare for the bride to return to the door after 3 days of hospitality. The bridegroom with meals to bowl 2 eggs eat 1, leaving 1 for the bride to eat, after the seat, the bridegroom, the bride in turn to the parents, elders to perform a salute (two knees kneeling, two hands flat on the forehead, from top to bottom, the forehead arrives at the surface of the kang). The bride and her entourage also receive a "big table" when they say goodbye to the groom's family accompanied by the elders, and at the end of the banquet, the bride performs a big salute to the groom's relatives in turn to recognize her family. "Appreciation of the table" the remaining food by the bride's family packaged back to do 3 days "back to the door" of the use. That night, neighbors and friends gathered, drinking and dancing until midnight.
Three Funeral
After the establishment of the district, Badaogang District, urban and rural deaths, are the implementation of cremation, the funeral process is complicated, the 90's the wind of the burial of a long.
Mourning People dying to wear old clothes, after the break, sent to the hospital morgue storage.
Mourning Friends and relatives of the deceased learn of the sad news, they have to go to the condolences, the relatives arm with a black veil, the waist tied with a white belt.
Wake before the cremation of the deceased, relatives take turns to wait for the deceased, wake for three days.
Funeral Early in the morning on the day of the funeral, relatives and friends kneeling in front of the hearse, the deceased will be moved into the coffin box carried to the car, the eldest son on the hearse, and hand dear to the deceased statue of standing. Before the cremation, friends and relatives look at the remains of the deceased, for the body to say goodbye. Cremated 3 days later, the children should be to the bone Jie depository worship, the local commonly known as "round grave". After every 7 days for a festival day, *** five seven. Anniversary to pay tribute, the local people burn 3 anniversary of the sacrifice is very important. Children do filial piety for the dead, 3 months do not do wedding, not wearing colorful clothes.
The Hui generally practiced burial. To this day, the Hui deaths are buried according to Islamic customs. The general family funeral period of only three days, to reflect the "dead people for the earth" meaning. To ask the imam to preside over the funeral, the dead body purification, with white cloth wrapped in earth burial, with the transfer of the body box transported into the Hui communal graveyard. Seven days, forty days, a hundred days, weeks, months and days of sacrifice.
Four etiquette and taboos
Han etiquette, road acquaintances, to shake hands and greet each other. Guests from the outside, the whole family hospitality, for the guests to smoke, make tea. When friends and neighbors are happy, they should go to celebrate. In case of illness or disaster, we should go to visit and comfort them. Taboos: when working, avoid shaking hands with others. Visiting friends, avoid visiting during meals and lunch breaks. Avoid shaving the head in the first month. Hospitality dishes are not singular. Funeral banquet dishes for the singular, avoid double.
Manchu filial piety and respect for elders, pay attention to etiquette. Road encounter elders, to sideways bow, hanging hands in salute, and so elders walk through again. The younger generation should give the elders to greet. The younger generation should give the elders loaded with cigarettes. Friends and relatives meet, shaking hands and greetings, some line hold waist to face ceremony. Manchu to the west for the upper, room west bed shall not sit on people and pile up sundry things. Taboos: dog fighting, killing dogs, eating dog meat, wearing a dog skin hat, laying a dog skin mattress, taboo to wear a dog skin hat or dog skin sleeve guests. Diluted in recent years, with the Han people not much difference.
The Korean people pay attention to etiquette, filial piety and respect for parents and elders is the traditional virtues of the whole nation. The younger generation to elders to speak with honorifics; between the first time to meet with honorifics, in order to show elegance, politeness. Eating should be given to the old man first, and set a single table for him, and so on the old man lifted on the spoon meal, the whole family can eat, eat, the spoon should be placed in the bowl of soup, if placed on the table, that is to say that it has finished eating. The younger generation is not allowed to drink or smoke in front of the elders; in family banquets, when the young people are seated with the elders and can't avoid them, the young people need to raise their cups and drink with their backs to show their respect for the elders; when smoking, the young people are not allowed to borrow a fire from the elders, let alone catch the fire, or else it will be regarded as a kind of great disrespectful behavior; when walking with the elders, the young people have to walk behind them, and in case there is any urgency and it is not possible to overtake them, the young people have to explain the reason to the elders respectfully; when encountering elders on the way, the young ones have to walk behind them. If there is an urgent need to overtake an elder, they must respectfully explain to the elder the reason; when an elder comes to meet them on the way, young people should respectfully stand by the side of the road, say hello and make way. During weddings, funerals and festivals, dogs are not killed or eaten.
The Hui people pay attention to hygiene, before and after meals to wash their hands and wipe clean. General family are clear windows, spotless. Particular attention to water hygiene, where people drink wells, springs, livestock are not allowed to drink water, and no one is allowed to wash their faces, laundry or bathing in the vicinity; taboo on others in their own homes, smoking, drinking; in the eating buns, pancakes naan, avoid eating in one lump, be sure to break into two halves or more small pieces to eat; prohibited food jokes; can not be prohibited to eat something as a metaphor, such as describing the "pepper The color of the pepper is as red as blood" and so on. It is forbidden to bare your arms in front of people; it is taboo to slander and talk about the shortcomings of others behind your back.