Having a second child in middle age is far more considered than having a second child as a young adult.
Written by Pearl
Finalized by Su Zi Hou
After the full liberalization of the two-child policy, the 80s and 90s young parents responded positively, and some of the 70s old couples in their middle age began to want to do so, and they were unable to give birth to a second child due to policy restrictions, but they are now able to fulfill their dream. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the stories of the two moms who are trying to make a living. The first to look at the personal experience of the two baby moms.
CaseMrs. Zhang and Ms. Zhao are old neighbors for many years, just live across the street, usually often come and go, the relationship is very good, the two people's children of similar age, in the same high school, a grade difference.
The two had agreed to wait for their children to go to college and retire together, to travel around the country, but Ms. Zhao was accidentally pregnant, the face of a sudden small life, get her helpless, torn inside: they are almost 45 years old, now want a second child is inevitably a little late, but Ms. Zhang advised her to think clearly, and finally after discussing with her husband, Ms. Zhao decided to stay.
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As a senior pregnant woman, Ms. Zhao has suffered a lot of pain and a lot of crime on the road to pregnancy, and finally gave birth to her youngest son safely to satisfy the wish of both children, due to the arrival of the second baby, Ms. Zhao had to continue to work because the pressure to raise a baby has increased significantly.
Time went by, and by the time her eldest daughter went to college, Ms. Zhao's mind and body were all focused on her second child.
Looking at her neighbor, Ms. Zhang, who quit her job and traveled all over the country, she felt nothing but envy, but she was still tired and happy, and with her little one in tow, her life was full and busy.
After her son went away to college, Ms. Zhang was bored most of the time, except for playing mahjong during the day, catching up on dramas, and square dancing at night, which made her feel even more lonely as she watched Ms. Zhao's home filled with a happy atmosphere every day because of her little baby.
In fact, women in their middle age, whether or not they have a second child's state of life is completely different, at this time the passion of the young has receded, marriage in the destruction of wood, rice, oil and salt also seems tasteless, and at this point in time the emergence of the second child, may be to the tedious life to add some joy, but the pressure of parenting comes, I do not know which kind of life do you want?
Women in middle age, the difference between having and not having a second child
1, the economic pressure is different
After having a second child, it is obvious that there will be too much pressure on money, after all, from the beginning of the pregnancy, it is necessary to bet a lot of money, the child was born after the milk powder money, diaper money, education expenditure, etc., for the original family is not rich, it is undoubtedly a snowball in a snowball! The company's main goal is to provide the best quality products and services to its customers, and to provide the best quality products and services to its customers in the market.
2, spare time activities are different
Once the child is born, the mother will have to revolve around the child all the time, all the time, energy is spent on the child's life, and even had to sacrifice their own careers, the free time greatly discounted; and did not give birth to the second child of the women, people in their middle age, the child is mostly already stepping into the university, the child will not have to worry about the child all the time, and will not have to worry about the child. The woman who has not given birth to a second child is in her middle age, and her child has already entered the university, so she doesn't have to worry about her child all day long.
3, the family atmosphere is different
People in the middle age, there will inevitably be a kind of inexplicable loneliness attacked the heart, especially women, the children are either out of town to go to school, or are passionate about entering the career life, and her husband may be busy with their careers, the family is cold and quiet at this time, and will be very eager to the arrival of a new life and companionship. With a second child, you can continue to enjoy the happiness of having children and grandchildren around your knees, reduce the loneliness of not having a big baby with you, and the relationship between husband and wife will be one step closer because of the arrival of the child.
When you are in your middle age, do you want to have a second child or not?As the saying goes: "It's easy to have a child, it's hard to raise a child", compared to young people, middle-aged people want to have a second child to consider more problems, mainly in the following areas -
1, whether the economic conditions are favorable
Many couples to the middle age feel able to breathe, because the oldest went to college, the economic pressure is obviously small, at this time to have a second child need to first consider the economic conditions, because the arrival of a child means that you need to retrace the previous one or two decades of the same old road.
2, whether the energy is sufficient
Middle-aged people's physical strength is far less than that of young people, can still stay up late at night with children? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products in the world. After the birth of the second child, will there be enough time and energy to educate and discipline the child?
3, whether it will become the burden of the eldest
Parents to middle age, the eldest son or daughter should be at home in college or just out of the community, suddenly added a younger sibling, the name is to stay with a companion, but more is the burden of the oldest, the oldest has become a family, the oldest is not yet a minor, the oldest undoubtedly add a lot of pressure, if not to ensure the quality of life, not enough to ensure that the oldest, the oldest is not a family, the oldest is not a young man. The quality of life of the oldest, there is not enough money to ensure their own health and the quality of life of the second child, it is necessary to be sensible.