The circle of friends is a big dyestuff, pale soul in, colorful body out. There is a strange phenomenon in the circle of friends: no matter what class of people you are, any time you point to open, you can always see a set of friends wearing colorful make-up, quite a style, shouting from the screen to jump out: look at me! and my wonderful life!
Don't believe me? Turn over your circle of friends, see how many of these things: a sister's beauty selfie, below with a sentence of chicken soup read white? First a sister's potluck photo, then a gym repentance post? Is it often possible to see a few Zen words of travel articles?
The circle of friends has become a "spiritual circle". In the face of these shared information, if you only interpreted as a girl (of course, for any gender is applicable) in the expression of their own little heart that would be wrong, in fact, subconsciously the girls are showing a more advanced state, a more elegant, more inner spiritual life.
Social psychologist Leon Festinger has put forward a social comparison theory, to the effect that the human self-evaluation of the way, is the use of other people as a yardstick for comparison. Later, some scholars developed a comparative social theory, that is, "comparison" is the most common way of social cognition, the nature of human social attributes is comparison. Not only do we recognize others, groups and societies through comparison, but when we make decisions, we also evaluate the results by consciously or unconsciously comparing ourselves with others, which simply means that "comparison" determines behavior.
This theory has been taken to the extreme in today's world of friends. Mobile social networking makes it very convenient for people to share, which not only satisfies the need for individuals to be noticed, but also satisfies the need for society to utilize the information of individuals to compare with each other. However, the convenience of the way information is shared has led to cheap information, in other words, people are expressing their individual needs in a primitive way, the best example of which is the emphasis on materiality - showing off wealth. When watchers used this information to compare themselves, they became extremely repulsed by this naked materialistic desire, which created a wave of strong backlash. And so something even more terrible happened.
Now take a look at the girl's circle of friends at a glance: self-timer put a paragraph of chicken soup read white, subtext is the contempt of the vase, light long beauty is useless, but also pure heart, courage; after a big meal sun a fitness repentance photo, meaning to say that eat more sumptuous just tongue desire, sister has long been advocating the health of the share a few pieces of poetic travel promotion text, subconsciously is in the attack on those who sun air tickets, sun hotels, because the soul of the Palace has been on the road ...... In short all is saying that the spirit can not be bought with money.
The above phenomenon is typical of excessive comparison. They have made the mistake of using the spirit as a tool for comparison, which is contrary to the "spiritual pursuit". I think the reason why spirituality is more advanced than materialism is that spiritual abundance can bring true fulfillment, and this fulfillment refers to the inner peace. Obviously, peace is not something that needs to be compared.
I know a sister, every day shouting to quit, the reason is that our second-tier city concept is too backward, always to the material how much to measure other people, so she has to go to a more pursuit of the place. Disagreement with the human environment is not excusable, just this year's New Year's Day night, the girl called around to go to the bar New Year's Eve, the reason is to talk about life in the meaningful moment to talk about ideals. As a result of the countdown to zero, foreigners are cheering and dancing, the girl took out her cell phone and swept the circle, so the circle of friends was so burst.
Later, the girl herself also admitted that she said that at this time of the year, her friends are all going to travel around the world, and she can't be too far behind, so she has to try to make her life look more exciting. I wanted to tell her, in fact, the girl you do not think about quitting, why not first put their own "comparison" desire to suppress a little. If you hate others to measure you, why don't you have the courage to be measured first? As the saying goes, "external repair in the line, internal repair in the heart", if it should be internal things externalized out as a comparison, then the real inner most very restless. The spirit of the pursuit of the true peace, in today's information society, is a kind of information to maintain the ability of privacy.
Go back to the circle of friends of the girls. Analyzed above, since the motivation for sharing information is to compare, it is bound to be away from the original intention of spiritual abundance of ten thousand eight hundred thousand miles, now let's restore: Chicken soup read white, on the surface of the proclamation of purity and with gas, actually ow to feed, fragile and pathetic; fitness remorse sticker, seems to be a three-in-one, sunshine of the food, the body and sports, in fact, far more than the coarse tea and rice of the square dance ama confused, because the latter's Satisfaction does not need other forms of compensation at all; Zen language pearl travel text,咋读起来有点寄托灵魂的味道, in fact, is a spiritual emptiness, is to escape the reality of the alternative to tell.
"The day into a poem" is just a variation of the desire
If the above example of "comparative information" release is still implicit, then the circle of a variety of literary photos, as well as didactic
If the comparative message is not subtle, then the artistic photographs and the didactic "spiritual quest" are like a pile of poop thrown on the scales.
Many people have complained to me, saying that although the circle of friends is full of black porcelain plate food, exquisite and happy small stores, gorgeous scenery, but it always seems to be a gray piece. I replied Simply because people nowadays understand that affluence is not the same as abundance, but mistakenly equate splendor with magnificence . This is essentially a derivative of over-comparison, and posting a carefully whitewashed picture is exactly the release of information that is intended to be included as reference data when being compared, only.
Therefore, a yoga picture does not represent the calmness of oneself, because calmness is suppression rather than expression; a seascape picture does not represent oneself to appreciate the beauty, because to put oneself in the middle of the beauty is precisely the manifestation of not knowing how to discover the beauty; to watch a public movie excitedly emotionally, which directly betrays one's own tastes, don't believe that on the movie review forums and the cult fan talk about look. It is true that human beings are group animals, and there is nothing wrong with expressing oneself, but if this kind of behavior does not come from the heart of the real, but hard to wrap it in the "spirit" of the skin, it is a bit wrong.
But compared to the other form, those little pictures are a bit trivial. What's more advanced are the essays that promote spirituality, such as the now-popular "The French Have Only Ten Pieces of Clothing" and its myriad derivatives. These articles, which fit into the anti-materialistic trend, can easily take over the moral high ground.
A simple analysis shows that the core of these articles is "comparison": comparing Chinese people with Westerners, or comparing one society with another. I'm not against this form of comparison, but these articles always take a higher profile, equating the richness of life with the splendor of spirituality, emphasizing the process as well as the outcome. Whether or not we can live a life of leisure on a mediocre income like the developed world, and even if we can, isn't that life all about food, drink and pleasure? Doesn't it mean that the desire for pleasure replaces the desire for material things? The first thing that you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
There is also this sentence, "the day into a poem, and the rich and poor have nothing to do, only with the cultivation. "A sense of petit bourgeoisie, literature and art came to the surface, resulting in the "cultivation" has also been blackened into a delicate and rich. Throughout history, poetry has been a tool for expressing compassion and despair, releasing the message of "imperfection", which is the opposite of "colorfulness". I think the person who wrote this sentence is trying to express a kind of peace and calm spiritual pursuit, but still the same sentence, the real meaning of the spiritual pursuit is often pure thinking, is not home to think, is the leisure of the tea, which is the purification, is only cultivation, that is, do not emphasize the process, and even less necessarily have the results.
In summary, the misinterpretation and abuse of the spiritual pursuit of the people, are reflected in the copy of the material world, "the view of possession", to fill the so-called spiritual world. If you can't stop the urge to compare and contrast, and if you can't keep the information private, then you will mistakenly spiritualize everything in order to gain a sense of vanity equal to the desire to possess material things. So there is now a common tone: reading has become a practice, travel has become a soul purification, fitness is the physical and mental salvation, and even a cup of coffee has a strong flavor of chicken soup.
All in all, in the circle of friends sunshine to sunshine things, is only to release a kind of information for comparison, that is, no matter whether I consume the time or not, consume the money or not, in short, I consume - and is consumed in a higher spiritual world, and all of this is in order to let you see .