How to look at loneliness and loneliness, each person's understanding of different, different attitudes, can have different feelings. Some people feel empty in a lonely environment, some people turn loneliness into a source of improving themselves, from which they get pleasure.
Elderly people should be the master of their emotions, adjust their own understanding, let themselves adapt to everything, do not have the desire to adjust everything to suit themselves. The objective environment does not determine whether we are happy or sad, but our awareness and attitude towards the environment can determine our mood, and a poem by Prof. Huang Shuzhe can illustrate this point. "If you are in a happy mood, health should always be there. If you are in a cheerful frame of mind, there will be brightness before you. If you are constantly content, you shall be happy. If you don't care about fame and fortune, you will feel everything is as it should be. If you are single-mindedly concerned about national affairs, you will not dwell on the smallest problems around you."
If you carefully observe and analyze, the **** same characteristic of happy people is that they are able to accept and adapt to those unavoidable predicaments, able to be relieved of them and good at seeking happiness from suffering, the old people have to get rid of the loneliness. It is necessary to adjust their understanding and be able to adapt to loneliness.
Turn loneliness into a source of improving themselves, some old people do not feel lonely even if they live alone, because they know that loneliness is inevitable. They design their own life and work, there are endless books and things to do, they are in a silent environment to learn, think, conceptualize, create, in this case, loneliness becomes a source of improving themselves, writers in the loneliness of lifting the pen to write down the glory of life, painters will also be in the silence to create some of the colors of life, they are not afraid of loneliness, and do not feel lonely.
Good at facing loneliness, in the loneliness of the heart, not let the loneliness of entangled heart, looking for their own spiritual support. 10 years of turmoil, there is an old cadre has been the family of the flower of the family, but was repatriated to the original home - a remote mountain village, loneliness resides in the past 10 years, he has his own unique experience and learning to write the Exploration of Sun Tzu's Art of War", which was published and distributed in 1986 and caused a strong reaction in the field of military science. He said: "Exploration of Sun Tzu's Art of War" is the spawn of adversity and loneliness, the lonely soul is rich in creativity, which requires a strong will, optimism, and unique wisdom to do.
2, change the lonely closed mental state have those ways?
Participation in society
The so-called participation in society refers to the elderly after retirement, according to the needs of the community and their own ability, through different ways, choose appropriate and meaningful work to contribute to society.
In social activities, they come into contact with a wide range of people and establish new and good interpersonal relationships. In order to improve the efficiency of the work, but also must understand the content of the work, the nature of the work and all aspects involved, not only can increase knowledge, strengthen interpersonal communication, make new friends, but also to eliminate loneliness and isolation, adding the joy of life.
According to the psychological point of view, true happiness is in engaging in constructive, meaningful activities, is in the achievement, enhance confidence in self-satisfaction, but also to get the recognition of others, acceptance, affirmation of the time, the award of the scientific invention, in addition to its own social value, but also for the success of the person to bring true happiness.
People also have a sense of joy in jokes and in entertainment. Holiday parties, gatherings of friends or family reunions can provide people with enjoyment of life, can make people relax after tension, can spice up their lives, and are good for physical and mental health, but none of these pleasures can replace the real pleasure of being a socialized human being.