When my mom and dad get old, I will definitely not send them to a nursing home. Even if they themselves would like to go, I will not send them there, because it is certainly not true.
Since I was a child, it is no exaggeration to say that my mom and dad have always been around me. Everything they have undertaken has been for me to have a good future or for me to be a good enough person. They have spent most of their lives raising a child, so I will not allow them to go to a nursing home when they are old. There must be a room in my future home for my mom and dad.
I know that the term nursing home is popularized from the West, and you watch a lot of American dramas where their parents move to a nursing home on their own when they get old and live separately from their children. But you have to recognize that there is a big difference between Eastern and Western cultures, and Western parents want their children to be independent. A lot of Western kids start earning their own tuition by the time they're 14 or 15, but we're not like that in China, where the word "family" has been very much in the vocabulary since the beginning of time.
We are talking about a happy family, a happy family must have a mom and dad and children, grandparents must have grandchildren. This Chinese value is different from the West. We are so used to this mode of living that many people cannot accept sending their aging parents to a nursing home.
The reason I can't accept this is that apart from the points above, there is also the fact that, speaking from the parents themselves, I am afraid that they will have a feeling of abandonment. We should all know that supporting the elderly is not only caring for their physical, but also their mental health. I don't want my mom and dad to feel lonely and isolated in a nursing home in their old age after living happily for most of their lives. In addition, I don't trust the facilities and services of nursing homes. At this point in time, some people will certainly say that there is a very good nursing home, but I can not guarantee that I will be a rich man, I can afford a very good nursing home. That is why the impression given by the average nursing home is that I am definitely not willing to give up my nursing home. I am definitely not willing to send my parents to that kind of nursing home. If they were to be sent there, I don't think it would be called nursing, it would be suffering. If my mom and dad were unlucky and the nursing home attendants treated them badly, hated their trouble, and yelled at them, then I would simply be heartbroken by the time I got there. All in all, no matter from the consideration of hardware facilities, or from the consideration of my mom and dad's mental health and physical health, I will not send them to the nursing home, I would rather hire a nanny for them at home to take care of both of them, rather than sending them to the nursing home to experience a kind of loneliness and loneliness or abandonment that they have not experienced in half a lifetime.