Love often happens in an instant. When you feel it, you will love it. There are not so many reasons. But not loving someone is accumulated bit by bit.
Just like Wu Ting, Wu Ting and I are both Sichuanese. Standing at 165, it is particularly beautiful and can be regarded as a goddess. People are gentle and generous, virtuous and beautiful, and they are the dream lovers of many people.
More than two years ago, Wu Ting married a pilot named Zhao Yu. He was more than one meter tall and very handsome. I heard that he is a captain. This is the legendary overbearing president-level male god.
Zhao Yu is still a man in the north, with a little male chauvinism, while Wu Ting is a typical southern girl, just like her brother-in-law.
I went when they got married. At that time, I had just graduated from senior three, and their wedding was gorgeous. When Wu Ting in a white wedding dress and Zhao Yu in a suit and tie walked onto the red carpet together, the audience cheered.
People around us cast envious eyes. The guests said that Wu Ting and Zhao Yu were the best couple they had ever seen. They were really as beautiful on the red carpet as the princess and prince in the fairy tale. Their temperament and looks are not lost to the stars at all.
Before exchanging rings at the wedding, Zhao Yu also made a deep confession to Wu Ting. Zhao Yu's magnetic voice with a strong northern accent touched everyone present.
Everyone cried, and I was moved by Zhao Yu's true feelings. Many married people say that Zhao Yu and Wu Ting made them believe in love again, and as an adult, I think this is probably the so-called best love in the world.
02
After marriage, they moved to Shenzhen and bought a house in Shenzhen. Everyone thought they would live happily all their lives, but they didn't.
Six months after their marriage, Zhao Yu's parents moved to live with Wu Ting. During that time, her parents-in-law were in poor health, and the two old people did not adapt to life in Shenzhen and needed someone to take care of them. Zhao Yu asked Wu Ting to resign temporarily, and her cousin agreed.
After resigning, Wu Ting's life is only shopping, cooking, cleaning and washing clothes for the whole family. I often accompany my in-laws to the hospital and go to the park with them after dinner. Occasionally, I have to accompany my mother-in-law to the square to dance square dance.
In China, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a big problem, and Wu Ting is no exception.
At first, Wu Ting got along well with her mother-in-law, but as time went on, her mother-in-law had a view of Wu Ting, thinking that she cooked badly and washed clothes uncleanly.
Emma Wu Ting will be scolded by her mother-in-law for what she wears when she goes out to make up. Her mother-in-law will say that she doesn't go to work again and wants to show it to people who are beautifully dressed.
It seems that no matter what Wu Ting does, her mother-in-law will not be satisfied. Even in front of relatives, her mother-in-law left no room to speak ill of her, saying that she was lazy and had a big temper.
Painting exquisite makeup every day, going to work on time in high heels, having dinner with friends occasionally at night, and going shopping with colleagues on weekends are all far away from Wu Ting.
Wu Ting even misses the life of working overtime with colleagues until the wee hours, even on weekends, because that's what a young man should have.
03
Wu Ting secretly shed many tears, but Zhao Yu didn't know. She tried to bring it up, but every time she got it, it was just a perfunctory thing from Zhao Yu.
Zhao Yu said, the old man is old, let Wu Ting give her more.
Wu Ting has to be patient, but what can he do? Wu Ting still can't satisfy her mother-in-law, and even her mother-in-law becomes worse.
Wu Ting doesn't want to do housework at home at the age when she should be fighting for her career, and she doesn't want to spend her energy on dealing with the relationship between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law. What's more, she doesn't want to go to work when she is old enough to make up, so she can only be a yellow-faced woman at home.
Wu Ting couldn't bear to let Zhao Yu go to work, but Zhao Yu still didn't agree. At this moment, he can't understand how difficult Wu Ting is in this family. She wants to go back to work.
Zhao Yu just said that old people should be more tolerant when they are old, and work can be mentioned later. It's still a long time anyway. Moreover, the two old people in the family really need someone to take care of them, and the cousin needs a nanny when she goes to work, not to mention Wu Ting's salary is not high.
Wu Ting felt desperate. Originally, his value was only the nanny at home, but in Zhao Yu's mind, money was more important than his career and ideal.
Wu Ting's attitude is very firm, and YuZhao had a big fight on the spot. When her parents-in-law hear the noise, she often scolds Wu Ting, saying that she is not sensible. Zhao Yu works hard every day to earn money to support her family. She doesn't know how to be considerate.
When her mother-in-law knew that Wu Ting wanted to continue working, she even said that her cousin was heartless.
04
After the quarrel, Wu Ting and Zhao Yu had a cold war for a long time, and Wu Ting was unhappy every day.
Wu Ting, who should have worked hard in the workplace, turned into a boudoir dissatisfied housewife. She was in her twenties, but she lived to her forties.
Wu Ting later asked Zhao Yu to go to work, but every time it ended in a quarrel. Not surprisingly, every time two people quarrel, my mother-in-law will come to help. Even if Wu Ting pays more for this family, she is just an outsider in the eyes of her mother-in-law, and will never be integrated into that family.
Gradually, there are more and more quarrels between two people, and going to work seems to be a bright spot between them. As long as you touch it, it will explode, leaving only one injury.
On Valentine's Day, Wu Ting suddenly remembered that they didn't seem to have a happy Valentine's Day since they got married. Wu Ting wants to call and ask when Zhao Yu will go home. If she comes home early, they can go out to the movies and spend Valentine's Day.
But before Wu Ting's words were finished, he was yelled at by Zhao Yu. He said that I was very tired at work every day. Can you leave me alone? Then he hung up the phone, leaving only Wu Ting in tears at the other end of the phone.
It was also at this moment that Wu Tingcai knew that apart from quarreling, there really seemed to be no communication between two people, and those things that had been bothering him and made him unhappy every day were just a broken thing in his eyes.
Wu Ting doesn't know how they got here. All she knows is that their sweet and inseparable days are gone forever, leaving only day-to-day quarrels and cold wars.
05
I don't know if Zhao Yu is a man at heart, but he thinks his career is the most important thing, or he concludes that Wu Ting won't leave him. In a word, Zhao Yu can't see Wu Ting's injustice in that family now, and he can't feel the sadness that Wu Ting gave up his future.
In short, Wu Ting is not happy at all.
And is it really happy to live with someone who doesn't even care about his emotions? The answer is definitely no.
Wu Ting used to be full of confidence and energy, but now her cousin is haggard and glassy-eyed.
Wu Ting used to have a low salary, but she did a good job. Now Wu Ting goes out to buy food without make-up, endures the difficulties of her mother-in-law every day, and is occupied by some family chores.
In short, everything about youth has nothing to do with Wu Ting.
Wu Ting finally filed for divorce, and they didn't have any property disputes. She chose to leave a clean home, and her attitude was very firm, no matter how Zhao Yu kept her.
Zhao Yu did give Wu Ting a wedding that he will never forget, and also touched Wu Ting with sincere confession. However, this couple, who are recognized as the most suitable, did not go to the end and divorced in just two years.
Wu Ting's love for Zhao Yu faded little by little when she cried alone every night, consumed little by little when she was condemned by her mother-in-law but couldn't get his help, and disappeared little by little when she told him the idea of going to work.
Just like the experiment of boiling frogs in warm water, Wu Ting's love for Zhao Yu didn't suddenly disappear, but gradually disappeared in all the unhappiness accumulated in the past two years.
Wu Ting may remember Zhao Yu's romance and throbbing all her life, but she will never love him again.
Love may happen in an instant, but it is not accumulated bit by bit.