Being a full-time mom and then being able to return to the workforce is both a happy and scary time for many people. They are happy to have more time and energy to earn money, and can help relieve more financial pressure on their families. But they are afraid of encountering a lot of difficulties. So what exactly are the difficulties?
One, what about the fear of socializing with people?
For those who have a social phobia, and talk to others always have to blush, heart beating fast. Sometimes the words just don't come out. Don't look at me as a blah, blah, blah writer, I can write a bunch.
In actuality, I can't speak more than a couple of words, and I just keep coming back to people with "uh-huh". Having worked full-time with a baby for almost 7 years, I don't have much contact with people, and more often than not, I just type and talk to people on the internet. If I were to go back to the workplace, I'm afraid that I'd be brushed off in an interview if I couldn't speak more than a couple sentences, and I'm also afraid that I wouldn't be able to communicate properly with my coworkers and leaders once I'm officially working. For this, the more I think about it, the more scared I am, but if I really have to go to work, I still have to overcome it, otherwise how hard it is to survive in the workplace. My idea is to be able to talk to a mirror or a cell phone camera, preferably on video, to make myself at least a little less afraid when facing others.
And then, from now on, you can get together with your friends more often, and in addition to chatting with them more and practicing your social skills, you can also find them to learn more about some things in the workplace. If conditions permit, you can interview a few more times, and you won't have to worry about anxiety if you have experience.
2. I don't know what to look for in a job because I don't know what to look for.
As soon as I said I was going to look for a job, I was anxious and didn't know what kind of job to look for, and I felt as if I didn't know anything. I've been on the Internet for a long time, trying to learn some solutions from above, but the more I brush, the more anxious I get, I feel like everyone is doing great whether it's their main job or a side job, and I look at myself as if I'm not as good at any of them. Then I calmed down and started with "what I have" and "what I am interested in" to deal with this situation.
I majored in accounting in college, but I don't have any relevant work experience. Experience is the most important thing in accounting. So it's hard to find a job in accounting unless I go back to the training program to learn the practical skills. So this serves as an alternative. Moreover, I am also interested in financial management, but I don't have a certificate in the financial industry, and I don't have relevant experience, so I don't know much about this industry. If I want to work in this field later, I still need to spend a lot of time to learn. At the moment, I'm just interested in learning more about it.
Lastly, I've been writing all these years, and I have some experience in self media operation, and I'm quite interested in new media operation, but I haven't studied it systematically. So if I plan to go for this kind of job, I will systematically study on my own to improve my skills in new media operation, such as data analysis ability, hotspot tracking ability, copywriting ability and so on. The program of new media operation is currently serving as my main program, and now I'm also reading related books and articles. But how to follow up is still to be decided, it's always right to go and learn first.
Three, do not adapt to the work environment, worried about doing a bad job how to do?
In fact, I think the interviews and resumes are fine, but I'm more worried that I won't be able to do a good job, and that I'll be fired before the internship is over. (Ah shucks, can't have that thought.) After all, being a full-time mom for a long time weakens all kinds of skills. Like computer typing, I'm not very dexterous with my left hand. I can't believe I don't know how to do simple things like printing and copying, and I'm not very familiar with Word and Excel, which I learned in college and gave back to my teachers.
And then, I'm just a little bit stupid, and it takes me a long time to learn what I'm doing, so I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get started. The more I say, the more I'm afraid. 5555. In fact, I say so much but I have no confidence in myself, and the pressure and fear make me afraid to move forward. I've also thought about freelancing, but its not much less stressful. First of all, I have to face the gp's skepticism, and they spend time with each other, the conflicts naturally increase, which in turn does not allow me to go in the work state properly. Furthermore, freelancing income is not stable, every day is also need for income anxiety worry.
Give yourself more confidence and believe that there are always more solutions than difficulties. In fact, many times, it's not the thing itself that's difficult, it's that we're scared off by our own fears. One realization I've had these days is that I've always found it hard to find a job because I've been thinking and thinking in my head and magnifying all the difficulties.
Why don't I write down what are the difficulties and then go through them step by step? Instead of an unattainable goal, I could write down exactly what I'm going to do at each step and turn it into an action list.