What does it mean to cry in marriage
? Crying for marriage? The name is also known as "crying marriage" (哭出嫁).
Crying marriage generally from the bride to get married before half a month, a month to start, and some even three months before the prelude has been unveiled crying singing. However, it is done intermittently at the beginning. You can cry freely. When relatives and neighbors come to give gifts and visit, they cry for whoever comes, as a gesture of thanks. The night before the wedding and the next day when the sedan chair is put on, the crying reaches its climax. During this period of crying and singing must be carried out in accordance with traditional etiquette, can not cry. Anyone who does not know how to cry will be ridiculed and even discriminated against. In general, the contents of the crying and singing are mainly? Crying for parents? The main contents of the crying songs are Crying for brother and sister-in-law? and "Sisters" ("哭姊妹"). Sisters? What's your name? Uncles? What's your name? A guest? What's your name? Matchmaker? What's your name? A hair dresser? What's your name? The ancestors? What's your name? Wailing in a sedan chair? etc. The lyrics are traditional and have been handed down from generation to generation. There are traditional ones that have been handed down from generation to generation, and there are also lyrics from the bride and her companions. The sisters who accompanied the cryers improvised the lyrics. The bride and her sisters improvised the lyrics. The content is mainly to thank parents and elders for their nurturing and brother and sister-in-law siblings of the caring feelings; sob about the sadness of the joyful life of the girl's age is about to pass away and the new life before the confusion and anxiety. There are also those who vent their dissatisfaction with the marriage, and hate the matchmaker's arbitrary decision, etc.
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The reason for crying marriage
1. Hurting parting, remembering the kindness of relatives
The bride through the crying marriage, in order to express gratitude to parents and relatives and friends of the grace of hard to part with the feelings of filial piety, righteousness and ethical values. The first thing that comes to the mind of the bride is to part with her relatives, and the feeling of reluctance to part with her arises. Because of the parting, usually do not give too much attention to the family, this time all the highlights. Looking back, the bride from the sadness of the past, with crying songs to express the door of the life of the girl's reluctance to give up, to the parents of the kindness of remembrance. The hard work of the October pregnancy, maintenance of the hardships, pieces of the past, point by point details are infiltrated with the deep love of parents, do the daughter of the parents of the gratitude from the depths of the overflow.
As the mother of the daughter of the deepest love, so this time the new bride thought most of her mother: ? The stars in the sky are many and the moon is not clear, parents for my painstaking efforts? The first is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing and how you are doing it. The mother's kindness is not enough to say that she taught her daughter to learn how to cook, taught her daughter to learn how to knit hemp, taught her daughter to learn how to carry firewood, taught her daughter to learn how to pick flowers, taught her daughter to learn how to write, and taught her daughter to learn how to write. You've raised your daughter to be a woman. You raised your daughter to be a human being, you carried your daughter for nothing, you carried your daughter for nothing? The story shows the feelings of a mother who has worked so hard to raise her daughter to adulthood, but the daughter cannot repay her, and is sad and ashamed. Tujia girls before getting married, the more hard to cry, the more will cry, it shows that the more filial parents.
At the same time in the crying parents, Tujia girls have to cry friends and relatives, crying sisters, this crying expressed to the friends and relatives of the sister's hard to part with the feelings, crying the more powerful, said friends and relatives between the deeper the sense of sisterhood.
2. Identity change, worry about the future
Marriage is an important transition period in the life of women, its main function is to convert women from daughter to daughter-in-law. Daughter and daughter-in-law are two completely different roles, which show a kind of rupture: on the one hand, the bride has to say goodbye to the role of a daughter, and therefore full of attachment to the old life; on the other hand, the bride has to begin to fulfill the unfamiliar duties of a daughter-in-law, and therefore fearful of a lot of people. Therefore, the bride must somehow break away from her original role and enter a new one. This sudden change of role will inevitably produce great pressure and burden on the female psyche, and they need to eliminate the tension through some means,? The Song of the Weeping Marriage? provides a legitimate and effective way to do so. Women are given the right to speak in the crying marriage ceremony, and they use this right to vent their emotions, remove the emotional pressure and burden of role change, say goodbye to the old role of a daughter, and prepare psychologically for the acceptance of a new role.
? Crying marriage song? also reflects the bride's reluctance to leave her parents and family,? The bride's parents and family are not willing to leave the bride's parents and family, and the bride's family is not yet full. The home-loving mentality of the bride. Although as a daughter of the family's status in the family is not as high as men, not as important as brothers, but also always live under the shelter of the mother, compared to the situation of the daughter-in-law to be much superior, so invariably there is a comparison: ? I am in my mother's family is a nobleman, June sun I did not sun, July rain I did not shower; I went to my mother-in-law's home to become a bitch, June sun every day, July rain I have to shower? I'm a bitch in my mother-in-law's house, and the sun shines every day in June, and the rain falls in July. How can I live like this, how can I live like this? and then lamented. This kind of attachment to the mother's home and fear of the mother-in-law's home can be said to be one of the most basic and common feelings of women when they cry for marriage, and it is also one of the most common feelings of women when they cry for marriage, and it is also one of the reasons why they cry for marriage. It is also the main theme of the Song of Crying for Marriage. The main theme throughout.
3. Complaining about the marriage, scolding the matchmaker
So who sent themselves into this fire pit? It is the matchmaker who has been talking a lot. The new bride cannot help but give birth to a curse on the matchmaker and a complaint against her parents. The newest addition to the list is a new one, a new one, a new one. Cursing the matchmaker? part of the song contrasts stylistically with the earlier part of the song, which is bitter and combative. The bride's anger that kills her own happiness and freedom is now transformed into the most spiteful curse on the matchmaker: "The bucket is planted on the opposite slope. To the door on the slope planted bucket, back when the matchmaker died only son; to the door on the hill planted leeks, back when the matchmaker extinct nine generations. Also spicy exposure of the matchmaker rhetoric deception and profit-oriented ugly face, such as? Your male family eat female family go, male family say female long good, female family blow male good and skillful? The woman's family says the woman is good-looking, and the woman's family says the man is good and clever. You cheated me to the in-laws, into other people's cattle and horses, people do it to beat, beat and scolded not hate. In addition, there are also complaints about the parents being motivated by money and not caring about their daughters' happiness: "The words of the matchmakers are like the words of a woman's father. Back when the words of the matchmaker ah, like honey sweet bad your heart, like black cloth blinded your eyes, muddled set the wrong family relatives; iron hearted father ah, iron hearted mother ah, you forced the living to jump into the pit of the dead? I'm sorry, but I'm sorry. The June sun does not die, three sisters and four sisters race dead people, you really cruel ah, hard to the birth of a daughter out of the door.
Brides who are reluctant to leave their parents and worried about their future attribute all their misfortunes to marriage, and they complain about the lack of autonomy in marriage, singing out the voice of resistance and expressing the sadness of the helplessness of the women of the Tujia family. The Song of Weeping Marriage There are not many songs that directly denounce the feudal marriage system, which is a high level of understanding that women could not reach at that time. They were also unwilling to directly blame their own parents, so they poured out their resentment on the direct facilitator of the marriage and the representative of the marriage system, the matchmaker. Matchmaker? The words are sharp and folkloric.
4. Inequality, Complaints about Fate
The Song of the Weeping Marriage also gives vent to the inequality between men and women in terms of economic status, and expresses the disappointment, pain, and dissatisfaction of women who have lost their economic status and rights. With the emergence of patriarchy and private ownership, women gradually lost the right to inherit property and the right to pass on the clan's fragrance. This fundamentally determines the inferiority and low status of women, and gradually reduces women to the subordinate of men, and even becomes men? property? The women were ruthlessly excluded from the family and had nothing to do with the interests of the family. A Tujia weak woman, in front of the powerful feudal forces are unable to fight, only to make full use of the legitimate opportunity to cry marriage to emotional catharsis, curses and strong accusations. Therefore, there is the bride's cry: ? If I am a man, all kinds of family have a share in the shrine writing is also famous; now become a daughter, my parents kicked me out of the door, a night into a foreigner. In this feudal ritual system of bondage, women lost the basic rights of an ordinary person, her fate is at the mercy of others, at the mercy of others. For this fate which she is powerless to change, the bride takes advantage of this on the occasion of her crying marriage? legal? time to make a bold revelation about it. Therefore, crying marriage is also a condemnation of the inequality between men and women in feudal society, the superiority of men over women, and the preference for men over women.1.Hurting parting, remembering the kindness of relatives
The bride cries marriage to express her gratitude to her parents for the kindness of their parental upbringing, and to her relatives and friends for their inseparable feelings, which is an ethical value of filial piety and righteousness. The first thing that comes to the mind of the bride is to part with her relatives, and the feeling of reluctance to part with her arises. Because of the parting, usually do not give too much attention to the family, this time all the highlights. Looking back, the bride from the sadness of the past, with crying songs to express the door of the life of the girl's reluctance to give up, to the parents of the kindness of remembrance. The hard work of the October pregnancy, maintenance of the hardships, pieces of the past, point by point details are infiltrated with the deep love of parents, do the daughter of the parents of gratitude from the depths of the heart overflowed.
As the mother of the daughter of the deepest love, so this time the new bride thought most of her mother: ? The stars in the sky are many and the moon is not clear, parents for my painstaking efforts? The first is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing and how you are doing it. The mother's kindness is not enough to say that she taught her daughter to learn how to cook, taught her daughter to learn how to knit hemp, taught her daughter to learn how to carry firewood, taught her daughter to learn how to pick flowers, taught her daughter to learn how to write, and taught her daughter to learn how to write. You've raised your daughter to be a woman. You raised your daughter to be a human being, you carried your daughter for nothing, you carried your daughter for nothing? The story shows the feelings of a mother who has worked so hard to raise her daughter to adulthood, but the daughter cannot repay her, and is sad and ashamed. Tujia girls before getting married, the more hard to cry, the more will cry, it shows that the more filial parents.
At the same time in the crying parents, the Tujia girls also cry friends and relatives, crying sisters, this cry expressed on the friends and relatives of the sisters of the hard to part with the feelings, crying the more powerful, said friends and relatives between the deeper the sense of love.
The Tujia custom of crying marriage
The Tujia girl's wedding day is ushered in with the sound of crying. Brides cry more than half a month before the wedding, some to cry more than a month, at least three or five days. Tujia people also the ability to sing the wedding song, as a measure of the woman's talent and virtue of the mark. Crying marriage song has? Crying parents? The songs of crying parents? Crying for brother and sister-in-law? and? "Uncle"? What's your name? Sisters? What's your name? Matchmaker? What's your name? The hair dresser? What's your name? Wearing a flower? What's your name? Crying for your mom and dad? What's your name? "Weeping for our ancestors"? What's your name? "Crying on the sedan chair"?
The cry for marriage originated from the lack of freedom of marriage for women.
The cry for marriage originated from the lack of freedom of marriage for women, and they used the song of the cry for marriage to accuse the sinful marriage system. Today, marriage is free. The Tujia girls have to cry for marriage when they get married, but after the liberation of the cry for marriage is only a ritual. Accompanying ten sisters is a unique form of Tujia girls crying marriage. The bride was married the first night, parents invited relatives and neighbors in the unmarried girl 9 people, even the bride *** 10 people sitting around the table, singing all night, so called with ten sisters song.
Ten sisters sitting around a table, first by the bride crying? Ten pendulum? A pendulum? , the chef on the table set the same dish, set up, the rest of the nine sisters took turns to cry, and finally by the bride to cry? The bride cries again, and finally the bride cries? The chef will be the same again, the same wine and vegetables into the dishes, dishes collected, accompanied by ten sisters activities came to an end.
Many of the lyrics of the wedding cry,? Ten pendulum? There are crying ancestors of virtue, parents of grace, sisterhood, brother and sister-in-law of the wise, the love of the native land, etc., and sometimes also scolded the matchmaker. Sometimes, they also scold the matchmaker. Most of the accompanying cries are lingering words that make it difficult to part with each other. The sound is mostly a jingle with seven words and eight sentences: ? Father and mother's benevolence than heaven and earth, feeding and educating the heart broken, the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, the benevolence is not repaid on the parting. I'm looking forward to my return, but how long will I be able to stay here? The river in front of the door is flowing, and the daughter's tears are long and dripping.
Generally, we have to cry for three to five days, but there are also those who cry for ten days and a half months. Crying marriage lyrics are generally made on the spot, see the mother crying mother, see the aunt crying aunt, crying words vary, of course, there are also fixed crying words. In addition, there is also a melodious tune for crying.
The crying form of crying and singing is generally divided into one person crying and singing and two people crying and singing two kinds of crying and singing a person crying and singing more for the girl crying about their fate, crying parents' parenting grace, crying brother and sister-in-law sisterhood, and crying about the feudal marriage and the matchmaker can be hateful deceptive behavior, and so on. Such as crying father:? The stars in the sky are many and the moon is not clear; my father has taken great pains for me; my father's kindness cannot be said enough, and his words cannot be said enough. I'm afraid that we suffer from hunger, I'm afraid that we will be sick; I'm afraid that I'll be dressed uglier than others, and I'll be wearing stars and moonlight. Fourth, I was afraid that my daughter would be uneducated, so I sent her to school, but now she has become a human being, and she spends a lot of money and money on her. A foot and a half to put the girl plate, just to bring the mouth to the mouth; hard years and days, freezing and starving to spend heart and soul! Daughter is wrong for the life of the dish, parents wasted their efforts; daughter now leaving her parents to go, the heart is sad tears! For women can not filial piety parents, difficult to filial parents to life; water light lamp light is not clear, empty to the world in vain for people!
Two people crying and singing is also known as sister crying, that is, by the married girl first cry, accompanied by the weeping people on the side to console the cry, inserted from the end of the sentence, two people cry and one. Such as sisters cry: sister:? Solo tree on the twelve yards, we have the same root and the same yards; today the sisters to be separated, leaving the embroidery building is so lonely! Sister:? Solo tree on the twelve yards, we have the same father and the same mother; this day sisters to leave, hard to part with the love is difficult to break! Sister:? Solo tree to stage to stage, my sister heart is difficult to forgive; throw your sister in-laws to go, and only come on New Year's Day! I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on this one. The Solo tree to Taiwan to Taiwan, look at sister heart more forgiving, more Cheng sister sister to treat, sister's teachings remember the heart!
Crying marriage is usually carried out in the bride's boudoir, the bride who cried, who must go to accompany the cry, the male will not cry to say a few words of comfort, blessing words to show goodbye. Crying marriage in the bride to marry the night before the most lively, especially before dawn, parents, sisters and the bride to cry, such as sobbing, tears, the kindness between relatives to show the most, onlookers are not moved to tears.
Tujia girl crying marriage is a unique custom of the Tujia people. Tujia women before the wedding to sing the wedding song, that is, half a month before the wedding to January began to cry singing, the form of a person to cry, two people to cry, more than one person to cry together. Most of the content of the crying is: crying parents of the grace of upbringing, brother and sister-in-law, sisters parting feelings, scolding the matchmaker and dissatisfaction with the feudal marriage rites; neighbors to persuade the marriage is mainly, the content of the congratulations on the new marriage, praise the groom, mutual wishes, say good luck mainly. Instead of crying, it is better to say that it is singing, and its cavity is mostly traditional tone, accent, both sentimental and lyrical, full of Tujia ethnic flavor. Crying marriage song of novel style, crying words long and short into sentences, derogatory praise Ming, have been handed down from generation to generation, there are also improvisation, most of them are rich in poetic rhyme and sense of music, its words clever, profound meaning. The content of the old system of attack, there is the matchmaker derision, there is the expression of old feelings, there is the nostalgia for the mountains and rivers, there are women's praise, there are visions of the future, with the progress of society and civilization, the content of the wedding cry is also constantly renovated.