Lies, lying is cheating, cheating is immoral, immoral things shall not be popular, these are playing small teachers and elders have been assiduously taught. But we ask ourselves, and who has not told lies? Whether it is to their loved ones, friends, or do not know people, there are many kinds of purposes, but when we add a lie to the "good intentions", as if everyone may accept, this is the weakness of human nature is the concentration of the performance.
Mark Twain once said. Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponents and relieve your friends." Therefore, the point of view of psychologists is: do not easily lie, even if it is a good lie?
Being a lie itself is bound to get in the way of integrity. Therefore, I would like to raise my voice here, let us reject the well-intentioned lies, *** together to create a society of integrity.?
Please note that there is a big omission in your defense. We believe that the distinction between things should first start from the definition of elaboration, comprehensive KangXi dictionary interpretation, good faith lies is not factual, say false, false words, exaggerate, cover up, distort the truth. From the well-intentioned lie phrase structure to start the analysis, it is a partial phrase, the center word is lie, so the well-intentioned lie is essentially a lie. Although the motive of the well-intentioned lies for good intentions, but because of the good intentions itself there is a certain degree of uncertainty, and thus repeatedly by some "professional liars" to take advantage of - this is an indisputable fact. The "lie" itself is dark, the good and bad things are not measured by the purpose of things, the good intention of the lie itself is false. Although it faded away the beggar clothes put on the cheongsam, but still can not get rid of the essence of its lies, and lies mean deception, thus impeding the integrity. The starting point of the lie is good, but often this lie once punctured, the other side of the harm will be deeper, as the lie itself, has been contrary to the integrity of the behavior.
In the 20-word moral code put forward in the "Citizen's Moral Construction Implementation Program" announced by the central government of China ****, "integrity"? is a very important norm, integrity is to seek "truth", is the pursuit of justice. The ancients said that "the true", the essence of sincerity. The first thing that you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
As General Secretary Hu Jintao said in his speech, "The harmonious socialist society we are trying to build should be a society characterized by democracy and the rule of law, fairness and justice, honesty and friendship, vitality, stability and order, and harmony between man and nature." ?
Through the above multi-faceted analysis, we believe that regardless of whether a lie is in a good purpose or not, as a lie will inevitably hinder integrity.?
Please note from the other side that as a lie? What is good intention? That is, good intentions! Why should it be a lie?!!!?
The lie, though well-intentioned, as a lie itself, is already an act contrary to good faith, and so, whether or not the lie is in a good purpose, as a lie will necessarily impede good faith.?
With the spirit of the nation to a twilight look back, it turns out that the integrity is actually in the lights. Across thousands of years, can still clearly hear: integrity is the virtue of the Chinese nation, like the Great Wall is the symbol of the Chinese nation. A person if you lose integrity left behind is hypocrisy: a business if you lose integrity will face bankruptcy then machine; and a nation if you lose integrity will be on the fall and death!
Keeping faith with the integrity of the integrity of a clean land, keep faith with the integrity of the letter to stay in the letter of success, keep faith with the integrity of the Chinese nation in order to eternal.
Here I would like to ask the other students, when a person in the loss of integrity, his starting point or good intentions?
The so-called well-intentioned lies may also lead to unforeseen consequences. And give an example: someone is terminally ill, in order to let him live out the rest of his life in peace, family and friends unanimously to hide him from the public, which is by no means malicious or self-interested, but often fails to be as good as it should be, and the deception can not be sustained, but instead the sick person loses the rationality of cooperating with the treatment and the time to deal with their personal affairs. The female philosopher Sisera? Polk warned that such lies can place a person on the verge of a major personality slide. In her book, Lying, Moral Choices in Public **** and Private Life, she writes: ? "? Psychological barriers swing away, the ability to discern truth from falsehood becomes more blurred, and the notion that a lie will not be detected may tend toward paranoia..." Some psychologists who have studied the phenomenon of lying suggest that ? Anyone who wants to tell a friend, loved one, or coworker a "? before telling a well-intentioned lie," it would be wise to give some thought to a question involving the psychological reaction of whether the other person would appreciate your good intentions if they knew the truth, or whether they would feel that their long-standing trust in you had been hurt by you.?
I think that even if a lie is well-intentioned, its negative effects abound. Why cite examples. This negative impact on the destruction of integrity is often more insidious, is a chronic poisoning. Ignoring this toxicity is a cover-up. I would like to ask the other side of the debate, you say that the good faith lies and integrity are two categories, please on the good faith lies accurately defined?
Some people in the ninth session of the National People's Congress on the fifth session of the government's work report, pointed out that we must "effectively strengthen the construction of social credit, and gradually in the whole society to form a good reputation for honesty, integrity is important. Sincerity is an important part of China's traditional morality, but also the current and future period to maintain the normal operation of the economy, promote institutional innovation, rectify and standardize the market economic order of the root cause of the action. At present, with the rapid development of economy and society and the transmutation of people's values, the lack of credit in some fields and individuals has increasingly become a social nuisance, which must be taken seriously. As the other side of the first defense said, lies are not good intentions, and lies are impediments to integrity, may I ask the other side of the defense, what is integrity? What is lacking in our society?
We believe that the opposing side in some concepts of understanding and awareness of the existence of fundamental errors, integrity is built on the basis of each other's honesty, any deception even the so-called "good faith" lies can be said to be with the "integrity" of the completely sad road to slack. On the concept of "good faith" lies I think here do not need to argue again, has analyzed very clear ...? Here are two articles you can refer to, a little messy?
[Positive]:?
Howdy, moderator and judges!
It is a great pleasure to be here today to offer my opinion on the argument of whether or not well-intentioned lies are a hindrance to integrity. Here are our views:?
There is no question that a well-intentioned lie is itself a lie. Lies, lying is cheating, cheating is immoral, immoral things shall not be popular, these are playing small teachers and elders have been assiduously taught. But we ask ourselves, and who has not told lies? Whether it is to their loved ones, friends, or do not know people, there are many kinds of purposes, but when we add a lie to the "good intentions", as if everyone may accept, which is the weakness of human nature of the concentration of performance.
Mark Twain once said. Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponents and relieve your friends." Therefore, the point of view of psychologists is: do not easily lie, even if it is a good lie.?
(By Yunhui Wu?09/25/09 09:35)?
[Moderator]:?
Please post the second defense of the positive side? (Author: Zhang Xuan?09/25/09 09:35)?
[Moderator]:?
Please post the second defense of the opposite side;? (Author: Zhang Xuan?09/25/09 09:37)?
[Opposite]:?
When a poor mother leaves her only meal for her children while hiding the fact that she is still hungry, do you still want to accuse the good and noble mother's love of "dishonesty"? In fact, life everywhere we can see the shadow of the good faith lies, from the sick bed before the tears of comfort to politely reject the polite, from the love of the world of the sea to the poet's beautiful exaggeration, but they are not so terrible, so that the other side of the defense to talk about the "lie" and color change. (By Jiang Yan on September 25, 2009 at 09:41)?
[Moderator]:?
Please post the third defense of the positive side;? (Author: Zhang Xuan?09/25/09 09:42)?
[Positive]:?
Hello, moderator and judges!
The second defense of the other side, please note that even if it is a well-intentioned lie, but as a lie itself, has been contrary to the integrity of the behavior, so whether the lie is in a good purpose or not, as a lie itself is bound to impede the integrity. Therefore, here I would like to raise my voice, let us reject the well-intentioned lies, *** together to build a society of integrity.? (Author: Jiang Wenbing?09/25/09 09:43)?
[Moderator]:?
Please post the third defense of the opposite side;? (Author: Zhang Xuan?09/25/09 09:44)?
[Opposite]:?
On the other side's first defense argument, it is pointed out that when a person is faced with two kinds of obligations, when they are contradictory to each other, it is necessary to alleviate the other party's obligations. But the positive side of the first argument does not argue that good lies and honesty are contradictory ah. How can we directly conclude that a good lie must relieve the obligation of honesty?
Please note that the other side of the defense, our first defense has clearly stated that the lie itself should have the function of deception, only malicious lies are out of deception, please the positive side do not narrow the concept of "lie".
(By Chen Yueming?09/25/09 09:47)?
[Moderator]:?
Please post the fourth defense of the positive side;? (Author: Zhang Xuan?09/25/09 09:47)?
[Positive]:?
Please note that there is a big omission in your defense. We believe that the first thing to distinguish between things should start from the definition of the elaboration, comprehensive KangXi dictionary interpretation, good faith lies is not factual, say false, falsehood, exaggerate, cover up, distort the truth. From the well-intentioned lie phrase structure to start the analysis, it is a partial phrase, the center word is lie, so the well-intentioned lie is essentially a lie. Although the motive of the well-intentioned lies for good intentions, but because of the good intentions itself there is a certain degree of uncertainty, and thus repeatedly by some "professional liars" to take advantage of - this is an indisputable fact. The "lie" itself is dark, the good and bad things are not measured by the purpose of things, the good intention of the lie itself is false. Although it faded away the beggar clothes put on the cheongsam, but still can not get rid of the essence of its lies, and lies mean deception, thus impeding the integrity. The starting point of the lie is good, but often this lie once punctured, the other side of the harm will be deeper, as the lie itself, has been contrary to the integrity of the behavior.
In the 20-word moral code put forward in the "Citizen's Moral Construction Implementation Program" announced by the central government of China ****, "integrity"? is a very important norm, integrity is to seek "truth", is the pursuit of justice. The ancients said that "the true", the essence of sincerity. The first thing that you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
As General Secretary Hu Jintao said in his speech, "The harmonious socialist society we are trying to build should be a society characterized by democracy and the rule of law, fairness and justice, honesty and fraternity, vitality, stability and order, and harmony between man and nature." ?
Through the above multi-faceted analysis, we believe that no matter whether the lie is in a good purpose, as a lie will inevitably hinder the integrity.? (By:Jiang Wenhong?09/25/09 09:49) ?
[Moderator]:?
Please post the fourth defense of the opposite side;? (Author: Zhang Xuan?09/25/09 09:50)?
[Opposite]:?
Good lies and honesty are different categories of morality and will not contradict each other, just as a car will not crash into an airplane.?
Integrity: faith, Chinese culture, "faith" and "righteousness" constitute "faith and righteousness", is a humanistic spirit, the code of conduct. "Faith" and "sincerity" connected to the formation of "integrity" as a moral norm, is the Poi Lai Pin, modern Western jurisprudence sages put forward the "contractual society The concept of "contract society", the relationship between people are contractual relationships, in such a society, integrity is the bottom line of social morality, China's establishment of a market economy, to establish a standardized and orderly market, integrity has also become the most important criterion. Therefore, the modern sense of "integrity" is the moral code of the market operation.
Goodwill lies, from the starting point and the result of all kinds of goodwill lies, are to protect each other's feelings, to maintain each other's mental health and pleasure, is a kind of human spirit. Due to the existence of well-intentioned lies, the world has become a better, more cozy, more harmonious, the world will be full of love, full of sunshine, children grow up healthily, the elderly enjoy their old age, the patient is full of hope.
So, these are two different areas of moral code, will not conflict with each other, contradict each other, good lies will not hinder integrity.?
A well-intentioned lie is not a "lie" (malicious lie), just as a whale in the sea is not a fish, and a mouse is not a rat. (By:Zongde Huang?09/25/09 09:54)?
[Moderator]:?
The question period will now begin. First of all, please ask the first defense of the positive side to post a question;? (Author: Zhang Xuan?09/25/09 09:54)?
[Positive]:?
Please note to the first defense of the other side, both lies? What is goodwill? That is, good intentions! Why lie?
Lies, although for good intentions, but as a lie itself, has been contrary to the integrity of the behavior, so whether the lie is in a good purpose, as a lie will necessarily impede the integrity.?
With the spirit of the nation to a twilight look back, it turns out that the integrity is actually in the lights. Across thousands of years, can still clearly hear: integrity is the virtue of the Chinese nation, like the Great Wall is the symbol of the Chinese nation. A person if you lose integrity left behind is hypocrisy: a business if you lose integrity will face bankruptcy then machine; and a nation if you lose integrity will be on the fall and death!
Keeping faith with the integrity of the integrity of a clean land, keep faith with the integrity of the letter to stay in the letter of success, keep faith with the integrity of the Chinese nation in order to eternal.
Here I would like to ask the other students, when a person in the loss of integrity, his starting point is still good intentions?
(By:Xu Jingyan?09/25/09 09:56)?
[Moderator]:?
Please ask the first defense of the opposite side to answer and ask questions? (Author: Zhang Xuan?09/25/09 09:57)?
[Moderator]:?
Grab the answer? (by Zhang Xuan? September 25, 10:02)?
[Opposite]:?
Please note to the opposing debaters that the topic we are debating today in my defense is whether a well-intentioned lie hinders honesty, rather than discussing whether dishonest people still have good intentions. Please get the cause and effect logic right. The other side of the defense said both lies how to goodwill, whether the existence of goodwill lies expressed doubt, since there is no goodwill lies our discussion today is still meaningful? (Author: Yu Lu?September 25, 10:03)?
[Moderator]:?
Please ask the second defense of the positive side to answer and ask a question? (by Zhang Xuan? September 25, 10:03)?
[Positive]:?
Why are we sitting here debating when there is no need to do so?
The so-called well-intentioned lies can also lead to unforeseen consequences. The example of a person who is terminally ill and who is kept in the dark by family and friends in order to live out the rest of his life in peace, with no malice or self-interest at all, often fails to live up to its expectations, and the deception is not sustained; instead, it deprives the patient of the rationality to cooperate with the treatment and the time to deal with his personal affairs. The female philosopher Sisera? Polk warned that such lies can place a person on the verge of a major personality slide. In her book, Lying, Moral Choices in Public **** and Private Life, she writes: ? "? Psychological barriers swing away, the ability to discern truth from falsehood becomes more blurred, and the notion that a lie will not be detected may tend toward paranoia..." Some psychologists who have studied the phenomenon of lying suggest that ? Anyone who wants to tell a friend, loved one, or coworker a "? before telling a well-intentioned lie," it would be a good idea to give some thought to a question that involves a psychological reaction, namely, whether the other person will thank you for your good intentions if he or she learns the truth, or whether he or she will feel that his or her long-standing trust in you has been hurt by you.? (By Yunhui Wu?September 25, 10:07)?
[Moderator]:?
Please answer the second defense of the opposite side and ask the question? (by Zhang Xuan? September 25, 10:07)?
[Opposite]:?
The opposing defense has already acknowledged the existence of well-intentioned lies. Family and friends don't interfere with treatment, in fact, they are for the better, and stress only affects the condition. A mother divorced her husband when the child didn't know any better, and this mother told the child that your father was a seaman and was now abroad and would be back in a few days. The child was full of expectations of life and never suffered or felt inferior because of the lack of a member of his family - his father. Later, when the mother found a new husband and started a new family, she told the child, "Your father is back from abroad. As a result, there was no gap between the child and his father, and the father treated the child as if he were his own because the child did not see him as a stranger. The father also treated the child as if he were his own. He tutored the child every day, and the child grew up healthily and became a student of a famous university. When one day the child graduates from college, she finally realizes that her father is not her real father, and although she also cries and is distressed that she has been deceived, he will eventually understand that his mother was right to do so, otherwise she would not have had a happy childhood, a healthy mind, good academic achievements, a happy family, a... ...(too much too much).?
May I ask the other apologist to ask himself, who in the world would doubt the character and integrity of the other party because of a well-intentioned lie? (By Jiang Yan? September 25, 10:15)?
[Moderator]:?
Please answer the third defense of the positive side and ask the question? (by Zhang Xuan? September 25, 10:16)?
[Positive]:?
"Good intentioned lies are more of an excuse"?!
Anyone who uses an excuse wants to use it to protect themselves or others. To help us save face so we can endure setbacks.?
Gesmer said, "It is quite common to think that you are better than you really are." The excuses people come up with are sometimes unexpected. Why do people delude themselves? The American humorist Laidlaw noted, "Most people live not in reality but in fantasy, especially about themselves." Then again, knowing the truth about yourself and your friends is sometimes so brutal that it's best not to know.?
Yet most excuses are destructive. Using excuses unconsciously can fool others, if not yourself. So I ask the other person to realize that more honesty and less excuses! At the same time I would like to ask the other side, if we all have this view, how can we create a society of integrity and how can we make our country grow more in integrity?
(By:Jiang Wenbing?September 25, 10:24)?
[Moderator]:?
Please answer the third defense on the opposite side, question? (by Zhang Xuan? September 25, 10:25)?
[Opposite side]:?
People always give a derogatory meaning to lies habitually. This is because of the crisis of integrity in today's society, in fact, lies are neutral. Even if today's society puts forward the integrity of morality, there is no requirement to speak the truth in all kinds of circumstances, do not allow the existence of lies, good faith lies are not "lies" (malicious lies), and honesty is not contradictory, there is room for its existence, if we do not like the word "lies," the word "lie," the word "lie" is not like the word "lie," the word "lie" is not like the word "lie. If you don't like the word "lie", we can mind linguists to create another word, such as "false words", "euphemism" to express the meaning of good faith lies.
Good lies leave behind the ugliness and come into the beauty of the world!
The lie of goodwill, abandoned selfishness, and came to the honesty of the world!
Please ask the other side of the defense to give examples of anyone who has been hurt by a well-intentioned lie? Caused a loss of integrity??
(By Chen Yueming?September 25, 10:29)?
[Moderator]:?
Please ask the fourth defense of the positive side to answer and ask questions? (by Zhang Xuan? September 25, 10:29)?
[Positive]:?
You didn't answer positively to the third defense's question. I think that even if a lie is well-intentioned, its negative impacts abound. There is no need to give examples. This negative impact on the integrity of the damage is often more insidious, is a kind of chronic poisoning. Ignoring this toxicity is a cover-up. I would like to ask the other side of the defense, you say that the good faith lies and integrity are two categories, please you on the good faith lies accurately next definition? (Author: Jiang Wenhong?September 25, 10:36)?
[Moderator]:?
Please ask the fourth defense of the opposite side to answer and ask the question? (Author: Zhang Xuan?September 25, 10:39)?
[Opposite]:?
The third defense of the positive side said, "Good lies are more of an excuse"? Does this statement require an argument? Can it be directly quoted without argument? It is a serious logical error for the third defense to argue directly about the harm of "excuses". At the same time, I found that the other side of the defense in a number of logical errors, here, not to mention.
We asked for examples, but the other side said that examples abound, or did not cite a single example.
Good-faith lies are known to everyone and are not a new concept, so why define them?
The third party repeatedly emphasized that the lie of good intentions is a chronic poisoning, hidden, but did not carry out a rigorous argument, and did not give an example, but directly jumped to the conclusion, we can not agree.
Please ask the other side of the defense, how exactly do well-intentioned lies destroy integrity?
(By:Huang Zongde?September 25, 10:46)?
[Moderator]:?
Please answer the first defense of the positive side? (Author: Zhang Xuan?September 25, 10:47)?
[Positive]:?
Hello, fellow student Zhang Hui!
Thank you very much for your trust and support! We will definitely live up to the expectations of all teachers and students． (Author: Jiang Wenhong?September 25, 10:52)?
[Moderator]:?
A reply from the first defense? (by Zhang Xuan?Sep 25, 10:53)?
[Positive]:?
When two people are in love, both sides promise never to change their hearts, but later still broke up, this was a well-intentioned lie at that time, and later the victimized party suffered a serious blow. 1+1=2 is not the need for us to continue to argue that this is a very simple question. It is a very simple question. It is as if the idea that a well-intentioned lie is an excuse is the same as the idea that a well-intentioned lie is an excuse. Japan's disregard for historical facts and distortion of history is strongly condemned by most Asian people. When the President of Germany piously made a confession to the victims of World War II, he received not only the Nobel Peace Prize, but also the understanding and tolerance of the people of the world.?
If a country and a nation can always treat and evaluate objective things with a fair heart, it will surely create an atmosphere of honesty and clarity, instead of a vicious circle of deceit.
Premier Zhu?Fji pointed out in his government work report at the fifth meeting of the Ninth National People's Congress that it is necessary to "effectively strengthen the construction of social credit, and gradually form a good culture of honesty and integrity in the whole society". Sincerity is an important part of China's traditional morality, but also the current and future period to maintain the normal operation of the economy, promote institutional innovation, rectify and standardize the market economic order of the root cause of the action. At present, with the rapid development of economy and society and the transmutation of people's values, the lack of credit in some fields and individuals has increasingly become a social nuisance, which must be taken seriously. As the other side of the first defense said, lies are not good intentions, and lies are impediments to integrity, may I ask the other side of the defense, what is integrity? What is lacking in our society? (Author: Xu Jingyan?September 25, 10:54)?
[Moderator]:?
The question period is over, and the free debate will now begin. Will the positive side please post first.? (by Zhang Xuan? September 25, 10:55)?
[Positive]:?
We believe that so-called kind lies are a hindrance to integrity, but of course the lies here are not the shocking hoaxes that people usually say they are, but just lies that pretend to affirm or support (but don't actually agree with) what spouses, relatives, and friends do, say, or think.?
Here's an example of a company manager in Southern California named Tom. Tom goes to his mother-in-law's house every year with his wife and his son for Thanksgiving. He actually dislikes one of his mother-in-law's "specialty" pumpkin pies, but tells her how delicious her pie is so as not to hurt her feelings. "Is that wrong?" Tom asked during his counseling session with his therapist. It's a question that quite a few people ask. This psychologist asked him to look at the lie from his mother-in-law's point of view. Suppose one day Tom's son spilled the beans in front of his grandmother and the mother-in-law found out how Tom really felt, would she tell Tom, "Thank you for your kindness?" Or would she feel emotionally hurt and say, "How could you mislead me like that all these years? What else have you been hiding from me?" And, what kind of questions will Tom's mother-in-law have about herself? Is Tom's son going to imitate his father's lying? What will he think of his father's character? Will he ever believe anything his father says again?
A novelist once wrote: "When we first try to lie, we are caught in the web of disorder we weave." ?
We believe that the opposite side has a fundamental error in the understanding and realization of some concepts. Integrity is based on mutual honesty and sincerity, and any deception, even the so-called "well-intentioned" lies, can be said to be totally incompatible with "integrity". On the concept of "goodwill" lies I think there is no need to argue here, has been analyzed very clearly ...? (Written by Wu Yunhui on September 25th, 10:56)?
[Positive]:?
The pursuit of honesty has been revered in ancient times. History back to 359 BC, the Qin Dynasty, Shang Yang legislation in order to honesty rich country and strong soldiers. The story of the "South Gate" was played out. Ten years after the implementation of Shang Yang's law, "the people of Qin were very happy, no one would pick up the road, no thieves in the mountains, and the family had enough to feed the people". Now that China has joined the WT0 and the market economy is growing, if we let the counterfeiting and loss of credibility, it will cause great harm to the economic life and bring disastrous consequences to the social life, and the loss of trust will surely erode the trust between people like a plague, hindering the pace of the socialist market economy. Looking back at the pain of the skin, and effectively advocate honesty, punishment of breach of trust, and improve the credit code of ethics and credit legal system, has been urgent, time is running out?
Please ask the positive side of the friend, lies from the good will, both lies have hindered the integrity, please ask the other side of the defense, integrity is what? What does our society need? (Author: Xu Jingyan?September 25, 10:59)?
[Moderator]:?
The other side reply to the post ah? (by Zhang Xuan? September 25, 10:59)?
[Opponent]:?
The example cited by the other side of the defense, lovers in love promise each other never to change their hearts, but then break up, this is not a good intentioned lie, but a malicious lie. It is a deception of the other party's emotions, and cannot be corroborated that a malicious lie is deceptive.? (Author: Yu Lu?September 25, 11:00)?
[Positive]:?
We should reject lies and insist on honesty. How can we avoid the embarrassment that the opposite side encounters in their work life? Our side thought:?
Reject it at the beginning and the embarrassing situation later will not occur. We are now living in times when candor is unpopular.?
"Don't you dare say that the lady next door is wearing an ugly hat, do you hear me?" ?
"You're going to tell your new homeroom teacher 'I'm so glad you're our homeroom teacher'!" ?
We don't say similar things that we think from the bottom of our hearts, but we pick nice things to say to each other that don't make people sad. This is because we believe that you can't live without good lies.?
Let's look at this from the opposite perspective, shall we? Someone is wearing a very ugly hat, and we can truthfully tell people that it really isn't very nice. This is because always telling good lies can also get you into trouble. Therefore, it is important to learn when to tell the truth and when to tell a well-intentioned lie, or it will lead to the result of not being able to tell the truth from the lie.?
As an example, suppose you receive a birthday invitation from a not-so-close friend on the weekend, and you don't really want to go, but refuse and fear that the other person will be angry, and promise to be ambiguous. Time passes quickly, and it's almost time for your friend's birthday, you still don't want to go, and now you've found a reason to tell the other person that you can't go. Think about it, how will the other side look at you? The other party can definitely see that you are reluctant to go, and will be very angry.
You didn't say no in the first place, but you still made your friend angry. What if you had made it clear when you were invited?
"I'm very happy to be invited, but I can't go because I'm in town that day." ?
If you had refused at the beginning, there would have been no embarrassment later.?
(By:Jiang Wenbing?September 25, 11:01) ?
[Opposite]:?
Deception is definitely a lie, and a lie is not necessarily deception.?
There are two kinds of lies: malicious and well-intentioned. Lying is a human instinct, and the key to honesty is with which kind of lie. Then malicious lies can certainly be said to be deception, malicious lies are for the benefit of the liar, with a strong desire for profit, weak rationality, others as a target, at the expense of harming others behavior, is a kind of detrimental behavior performance. The wrong-minded people, no matter how to disguise, how rhetoric, how to rack their brains for their own malicious lies crowned with good intentions of the high hat, the lies they say are with malicious purposes. But the lie of good faith is not, it is out of good motives, to safeguard the interests of others for the purpose and starting point. Kindness of the nature of the lie itself determines that it is not malicious, but in the heart of the sincerity of the good, based on the goodness of the people themselves in a certain state of "forced" to say the lie is kind, this lie is a kind of friendly to the subject, a kind of concern. This lie is also a way of life, is a reflection of the quality of thinking for others obviously, the good faith lies do not hinder the integrity. The world without lies is like the earth without dust, it does not exist, the key is how we go to utilize it. Goodwill lies do not hinder integrity.