Every child from the stars is an angel. They all have their own unique world, and they all love you more than you think.
Autism is close to me, not far from us. The incidence rate is about 1%, that is, one in every 100 children is sick on average.
20 15 years, it was the second time that my neighbor's 8-year-old child was lost. But the news that the child was lost, I saw it from the circle of friends of a dessert shop owner.
It was very quiet that day. It turned out that the child was lost and not at home.
Children at home will knock at the door, shout for no reason, and cry. He is eight years old. He doesn't go to school every day. He went to a special school. At that time, I began to prepare for pregnancy, prescribed several Chinese medicines, and moved back to my parents' home.
My mother told me that the child next door is autistic. When parents are pregnant with a second child, they take the older child to their grandparents.
It was April 20 14 15, and I happened to be at home on holiday. I just thought it was quiet that day and I didn't hear the children next door. I think maybe his grandparents sent him to school or took him out for a walk.
As a result, I saw this news in my circle of friends at night. Because the location is our community, it looks very similar, so I ran upstairs and asked the director of the community. By the way, the neighbor's child was lost.
But his family only claimed: "Children can't talk." I know the boss who forwarded the message has been doing well in the dessert shop. I hope she can help spread more accurate information and tell the boss: "Children are autistic and don't communicate well." The boss also confirmed the news with me very well and copied this passage.
The child's relative is the director of a public kindergarten. At that time, I used my relationship to let my children try to attend ordinary kindergartens for a few days, only for half a day at a time, but if the children can't adapt, they will continue to attend special schools.
After the parents are pregnant with the second child, they care less about the boss and come back less.
This child was brought up by grandparents, and I still feel sorry for him. The old man is afraid to take his children out to play, can't keep up with his speed, and is afraid of danger.
It was grandma who was preparing lunch that day. Grandpa opened the door and took out the garbage, but the child slipped out. Every time my house opens, the child will run directly into my house. His grandparents are embarrassed to apologize and drag him home.
Later in the afternoon 1 1, a taxi driver took the child to a police station 6 kilometers away from home. No one can tell how the child got here. Thanks to the technology of Skynet and the speed and breadth of the spread of police WeChat in Weibo, the child was found in time and was safe and sound.
I am afraid that if the child gets lost for the third time, will it be so lucky?
Old grandparents, estranged parents and younger brothers who don't live together, and this child who seems to need more care and strength when growing up, I don't know where the future of the child is. How should children go?
15 years old, went to senior one, held a group worship activity in the class and went to several special education schools. There are some disabled children with autism or deafness.
Those who are 10 years old will be led by the teacher to play games on the rooftop; There is also a 5-year-old girl, beautiful, smart and lovely. Besides her strange pronunciation, she can sing along. The teacher told us that the little girl was found early and diagnosed at the age of 3. Her parents sent us here early, and the rehabilitation training was accompanied. Now, except for her poor pronunciation, she has made great progress.
All of us prefer this beautiful little girl who is smarter than others, and strive to carry her to the rooftop (we go to the rooftop to play games). I won, and I don't know how I had such great strength to carry this 5-year-old child to the fifth floor. Along the way, I looked at her red face, which was obviously frostbitten in winter. I want to bring some jade and beauty to the children next time I come, so that the teacher can apply it. But it won't happen again. I didn't go there again. We didn't go to that school to participate in activities again.
I looked at the photos of the league members' activities and remembered one with a child in her arms. But not long after, I forgot, too.
It's just that after so many years, plus some later experiences, I will think: this girl is what the teacher said and her parents are very concerned, but how long has it been since she came to see the children? I wonder if the child's face was smashed. Parents are still helpless, and the tuition fees of special education schools are naturally more. Parents who can be sent to this school are still struggling to give up their children completely.
On that day of that year, we big brothers and sisters happened to play chicken catching with the children on the rooftop. I saw almost every child laughing happily. Those innocent smiles in the sun have been reappearing in my mind.
Maybe they haven't played so indulgently for too long, and the simple happiness they crave seems more difficult than ordinary people; And what can make them happy is more and simpler than ordinary people.
I can't imagine that my child can't talk when he is 2 years old and 2 months old. There are some behaviors that I have to put on autistic children.
Since my twins were born, I have been reading two picture books every night since 1 year old. At first, I used to put my children to sleep as bedtime stories, but later my children got into the habit of listening. The whole family, old and young, also speak Mandarin to their children, and there are no dialects. Living in a big family, there are many relatives and friends at home, that is, there are always many people talking to their children at home; After the birth of Yuezi, I will go out to play regularly every weekend. On weekdays, I will bask in the sun in the community and play with children of my age. Everyone in my family said: I can recite a lot of Tang poems when I am over 2 years old, not just talking about it.
Language environment, speaking frequency, reading picture books, going out to meet more people, heredity, I can't understand that children can't learn other words except "mom, dad, grandparents". Moreover, when the children 1 year old and 9 months old, I have resigned to accompany them full-time.
I began to think of a special disease-autism. I began to take my children to different hospitals in this city for examination, and the doctor's diagnosis was noncommittal and vague. One of the mothers who gave birth to a baby in the same month cried bitterly: the child was diagnosed with autism, which was originally brought by her mother-in-law in her hometown, and now she is brought to Changsha for rehabilitation. She doesn't know what to do.
I was even more scared and began to take my children to various early education institutions. I hope that professional organizations can find ways to make my children speak, and first rule out the most obvious feature of autistic children: communication barriers. But the early education institutions in this city are mixed, so I gave up. I think no matter what the result is, children need their parents' company more and will definitely give them encouragement.
Later, as a Chinese doctor said, "Can they understand if they don't talk? Don't worry if you understand, you may be smarter than others when you open your mouth. " Sure enough, it didn't take long for my brother to speak for a week when he was over 2 years old, and he began to use related words like because, so, so to say sentences directly. I understand that this is the language ability of children over 3 years old. My brother has been at home until now, and his mouth will keep chattering except sleeping.
Fortunately, I escaped, but I got to know this special group more and more deeply-children from the stars and their families.
My mother is from Sichuan, and her husband met, fell in love, worked and settled in Shandong. Usually there are only two of them at home, and my daughter won't say overlapping words until she is two and a half years old. My daughter just sits and plays the revolving track, and she can watch it all day, and no one cares. Always avoid eye contact. She doesn't respond to anything, unless she takes something from her hand, she will cry desperately. Mother felt abnormal and began to take her to the hospital for examination.
The doctor took out an evaluation form for adults to fill in, and took out several toys to test the child's reaction. The result is all one: "suspected autism", a bolt from the blue.
Dad wants to take the child to Beijing for treatment, and mom makes a hullabaloo about: "No, you are labeling her as a perverted child!" " "Mother decided to take her children back to their hometown in Sichuan. She thinks Sunshine Town can save herself and her children.
Mother said to father, "Give me two months. If the child doesn't get better in two months, we will go to Beijing. "
2 months, grandparents took their children to buy food, walk around and buy snacks; Relatives and children of the same age "force" to play together every day, even if their daughters don't talk, they will talk to her; Mother takes her children to the river to catch fish, climb mountains, watch square dances and read picture books every day.
Two months later, dad saw his daughter again, squatting on the ground giggling, but with tears in his eyes. The daughter said to her father, "dad, a small kettle, which grandma bought;" My sister gave me a necklace. "My daughter is much more cheerful.
1 month later, the doctor felt incredible and the child was fine!
In the past two months, the mother found that the child was not as happy as when she first came back. For the healthy growth of her children, she made another decision: to move her family back to her hometown in Sichuan.
Today, a 7-year-old daughter is exactly the same as a normal child: she will play with children and have her own friends; Strong concentration, love reading, love writing and love playing chess.
This is the best example I have ever seen. It can be said that this daughter may have been misdiagnosed from the beginning. After all, after a short observation time, several forms may have to be filled out, and the result of "suspected autism" is unacceptable to all families.
The mother's practice in this story is not suitable for every family to follow, but with the company of parents and relatives, the child will be better than yesterday, even if it is only a little.
Before the causes and development principles of autism have been scientifically deciphered, it is parents who suffer the most. And what are these special children thinking? A Japanese child with severe autism, aged 13, slowly pieced together his ideas with an alphabet keyboard and wrote a book "I want to fly to heaven", which revealed their real world for us.
When Naoki Toda was 5 years old, he was diagnosed with severe autism, and it was difficult for him to say a complete sentence. His mother invented the letter lattice, so that he could finally express himself. /kloc-at the age of 0/3, he told people in detail the inner world of autistic children in the form of questions and answers.
"I ask you, those who are with us all day, don't feel pressure because of us. When you are under pressure, we will feel that you are denying us. " Autistic children are not without feelings. On the contrary, their feelings are very strong. When parents begin to feel sad and angry, children will be hit harder and may be out of control or out of control for a longer time. "I know I'm different from others, even strange, but I just can't control it."
The chapter "Why did you run away from home" made me understand the reasons why the children in the neighborhood ran away from home again and again.
"I go out for a stroll not because I have a specific goal, such as breathing fresh air, but because-in fact, it's hard to express in words-my body is attracted by something outside and I go out unconsciously.
Even if I am farther and farther away from home, I won't feel afraid and anxious. In the final analysis, it is because: if I don't go out, I will feel that I am slowly disappearing. Why do you say that? I don't understand either, but I have to keep going. I can't stop. I can't go back, because the road will never end. Lu will chat with us autistic people and invite us to travel together. I know it's not logical. We don't know what we have done until someone takes us home, and we will be as shocked by our actions as others. "
This is the author's self-reported answer. He talked about knowing that he was almost knocked down by a car once. The fear at that time left a deep memory on him. When did he stop wandering around?
Even if extreme things happen, autistic children can still control this habit of running around. But at the same time, I hope you can pay attention to autistic children.
Later, my family moved and so did my neighbors. I wonder if the child is lost again.
In the movie Rain Man, the hero is an autistic genius with a strong memory but a low life.
At the end of the story, he relied on his brother. He wanted to cheat his brother out of his inheritance, but he was moved and warm by this true feeling.
What autistic children lack is just a way to express themselves. They're just not like us. What they especially want to see is the acceptance, understanding and companionship of their parents and friends.
Autistic people, their world is very quiet and special, and outsiders are not allowed to disturb them too much. We need more patience and tolerance. The meaning of tolerance and acceptance is not only unilateral understanding and acceptance, but mutual understanding and respect.
Maybe in the future, when people see autistic children around them, they may turn around, or repeat small moves, or mumble, what can we do? You can keep your voice down and don't scare them. They may be extremely sensitive to some sensory stimuli. Don't stare at them all the time and don't ask questions. Pretend nothing happened. Your indifference can make autistic families less nervous.
If you see a minor child alone on the roadside and have difficulty communicating, please call the police or send the child to the nearest police station. His parents and family may be looking for him anxiously. A phone call from you will help these "children from the stars".
I hope every child can be treated well!