There is a very strange phenomenon in life, that is, the better you are to the old man, they always complain about you, mouth head in the heart of the head of the mind is always the youngest or the eldest who is always missing!
01In the end, what is the reason for this? Let's take a look at what these 3 old people have to say!
1, Auntie Zheng, 69 years old
Love square dancing Auntie Zheng is 69 years old this year, her biggest wish is that next year her youngest daughter will be able to attend her 70th birthday. Auntie Zheng has raised four children in her life, the oldest two are sons, the oldest three oldest four are daughters. In addition to the youngest daughter married far away to Hainan, the other children are on their side.
Auntie Zheng said, his four children are very successful, all in the city to buy a house, and he just want to live in the countryside with his partner. For this reason, her eldest and youngest sons more than once persuaded to take turns picking her up to live, for fear that people think they are not filial.
But Auntie Zheng felt that when she went to her son's house, she definitely had to help her daughter-in-law do housework and bring up the children, but she had severe rheumatism and it was hard for her to have a lot of energy to bring up the children, so she simply didn't go, so as not to let their daughter-in-law have any complaints. The third daughter will come a few times a month to see Auntie Zheng and buy her bread and fruits, basically everyone around her thinks she is enjoying a good life.
But the more you see of these three children, the more Auntie Zheng misses her married daughter, after all, the youngest daughter and will be pampered and pretty good-looking, that is, their most favored daughter. Especially if you only see them once a year, the more Auntie Zheng worries and misses her youngest daughter, and the post-menopausal tantrums are often directed at the first 3 children.
2. Uncle Liu, 75 years old
The house where Uncle Liu lives now has been planned as a demolition area, and will be divided into several houses when it is demolished. He has 2 children, the eldest is a daughter and the second is a son.
Life, the daughter always brings things over every now and then, and every time she comes over she also helps with the house cleaning and cooking, this daughter's heart is really filial. The youngest son has not been living with us since he started his own family, and he only comes here on holidays, and every time he brings his grandchildren, he makes me happy.
Compared to the daughter of the most stupid will do something, I do prefer sweet-talking young son, the beginning of the year with the two of them to discuss that the demolition of the house divided into all the son, only 200,000 deposits to the eldest daughter, the daughter of the daughter on the angry away, which makes me particularly angry.
After all, the daughter married out is someone else's family, if I were to share the house to him that is not white to the son-in-law? In addition, the son-in-law also has a house and a car do not need us to subsidize, which makes me have to suspect that my daughter filial piety me is thinking of my house.
3, Uncle Zhang, 72 years old
Already in his 70s, Uncle Zhang is still a good farmer, but his heart is not very good due to years of labor. Uncle Zhang has 3 children, the first 2 daughters are the eldest, the younger son stayed at home for his old age.
The daughters all married well and have good careers, but the youngest son has no good skills and can only work at home. Whenever his daughters came to visit, the youngest son would go out and buy a lot of good food just to entertain his daughters and son-in-laws.
But every time my daughter brought her children here, she bought me some cigarettes and wine, and didn't buy my son in law any gifts, which made me very unhappy. And when they come to the festival, I let them have the condition to help their brother, but they always have a word without discussing the direct refusal.
Daughter said she could take me to the old age, but will never help her brother, I know my daughter is filial piety, but I look at my son in the field crawling and rolling is also very bad taste, so I can only do one more day to help them a day.
02Basically, children who are not treated well by the elderly in real life basically have the following characteristics.
1, will not say good words, do not know how to please the elderly
We have seen the "are quite good" this drama people must know, inside the old couple on the smooth-talking, nothing Su Mingcheng as a treasure, and good behavior, contribute money to Su Mingyu has become the object of their scolding, extremely unpopular. Why is this phenomenon?
The main reason is that Su Mingyu doesn't know how to please his parents, doesn't know how to say nice things, so naturally he is not liked by his parents.
2, do not like to say, only like to do
There are a lot of people's character is more introverted, do not know how to express, especially the oldest family has been accustomed to quietly do things, take care of the younger siblings underneath, to help their parents to share the household chores. And those children who like to be pampered and playful will make their parents' attention more on them, full of how to take care of them.
So, children who don't know how to talk and who only want to do things are destined to be ignored by their parents and won't be able to win their attention and love.
3, do not fight not grab too honest
The old saying is often said that "the child who cries has sugar to eat", if a child from not letting their parents worry about the annoyance, then the parents will not spend more attention on them. And the child who cries when things go wrong, basically pestering the parents to make a fuss twice can have food and drink.
When an honest child makes a little noise, he or she will be scolded by the parents for being an eyewitness, and this is the nature of the bully, even if the parents can't escape the spell.