Wen/He Ping
New Year's Eve, most of us are with the family to have a good time, right
I am also standardized to spend the time - fireworks, stoned, watching TV, chatting and joking, listening to the sound of firecrackers, singing and dancing, the sound of mahjong, phone calls, laughing and joking about relatives and their past, future and present.
It's also the standard way to spend the day - fireworks, high energy, watching TV, chatting and joking, talking about the past, future and present of relatives and yourself, listening to the sound of firecrackers, songs and dances, mahjongs, phone calls, laughter ...... noise, but even more so, to get a moment of peace of mind.
I've been away from home for more than six years, and it's not far to say that it's a four or five hour drive, and I've been home four or five times a year.
I can't help but be excited before the year, and I can talk to my family again, and I can talk to my friends again about some of the things that I've done before, and I can talk to them again.
The point is
I'm a small flower again, you're a small new, he's a dog - we don't have to wear a mask, a habit of smiling to show people, we can casually go to dislike, randomly rejected, act as you wish, what Gewürztraminer paralyzed Beijing paralyzed, despite the comfort.
? This is the fascinating thing about home, you can not have to cover up .
Until one day, my uncle's words made me think about it until now
The scene that day was like this:
The family wants to play mahjong, three short of one, my husband was strongly urged to go to fill in the corners, my attitude towards mahjong has always been to snub my nose, and at the beginning, both inwardly and in the performance of my strong refusal, because he went to fill in the corners of the teahouse I also have to stay in the teahouse, and can only play with the phone, and the phone. Or ...... daze!
You know, for people like me who are "pursuing self-discipline", this is a big challenge;
You know, nowadays there is a concept of "hourly rate", which in plain English means
Of course, it's obviously ridiculous to talk about such a concept when you're as small as I am, but I've been constantly reinforcing my time sensitivity, rooting myself in the belief that I need to abandon ineffective socialization and utilize the smallest amount of time to add value to my life, and it's as if I'm hearing my own inner voice screaming, "I'm going to be a simple, disciplined, and efficient human being!
However, while I didn't make all of this "squeezed" time worthwhile or productive, I did have a lot of anxiety about the blank time, almost to the point of self-doubt to the point of a nervous breakdown!
Just when I have been refusing to make up the corner, uncle said a word: the world which has so much to do as you wish, the company you still have to accompany ~, at that time there is no way to think too much, in the face of the family's eagerness to expectations, we have compromised, I logically sit next to them to get high on watermelon child watching and playing with a cell phone, the sense of anxiety is also rubbing up, nearly exploded, but how can I explode on my loved ones it, so I chose to go out and look around, and I'm not sure if you can do that.
Then I chose to go out and look around at my changing hometown to ease my displeasure.
Later, when I was in another environment and experienced many similar situations, I also began to think about some of the issues of compromise and fulfillment, that "the world is not so much as you want it to be, you have to be with you ~" has been lingering in the heart.
I don't know if you have such a moment, in the face of other people's requests and their own beliefs conflict, have to make the self or nod to answer the choice, and at this time any choice is not right or wrong - to do their own to make themselves comfortable, not to hurt their own commission to hurt everyone, no matter what you are facing is a loved one, a friend, a colleague. I'm not sure if I'm a good person, but I think I'm a good person.
I think there is a principle that when we choose, there must be a minimum of respect. For example, you lose weight, insisted on a long time not to eat in the afternoon, it so happens that your friend invited you to taste her cooking in the evening, to see her full of joy, how do you do?
Either from the beginning to explain the reason, I hope to be able to change the time to noon or more vegetables, and accompanied by her to enjoy the process of cooking, try to choose not to hurt the response.
Another example, I rarely wash my hair outside, in order to protect my hair, every time I will ask for my own blow-drying, in order not to let the little brother embarrassed, I will say: I'll do it myself, a simple blow-drying on the line, thank you, yo! Then take the heavy hair dryer adjusted to the smallest gear to blow the top of the head to five points dry and go.
Also, when you go home, you no longer eat dinner and then pat your ass and go away, but stay with your parents and enjoy the process of cleaning up the dinner table together.
Perhaps maturity is, when you understand that the world is not so much arbitrary, but also can properly handle the dilemma of choice.
May we all have a simple, regular, productive, and loving life!
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- Author-?
He Ping, lover of words, national counselor, social worker, Sina Weibo:@ffffffarless