I heard "dangerous 13 years old" when I attended the writing seminar in Zhang Wenzhi on the National Day of 2020. At that seminar, Binbin and I just got together and became roommates. Training activities are very compact, and writing tasks are completed every day, which can be said to be high-intensity learning. But we hit it off very well, and there seems to be endless topics. After studying, I talked for two nights until the early hours of the morning. Talk about study and what you have been doing. I learned the story behind "Danger 13 years old" in the chat. In order to interview these children, Binbin sometimes really risks his life to do things. I am worried about her and admire her more. Binbin said that "danger 13 years old" has been written. She promised to send me a signed copy after the book was officially published.
In March of 20021year, Dangerous Situation 13 years old was officially published, and Binbin also sent me an autograph book as promised.
The book uses 9 typical cases to explain the psychological characteristics of adolescent children for parents and teachers. In addition to stories and interviews, each case is also divided into three sections: gentle observation and analysis, parents' suggestions and psychological construction opinions, which not only analyzes the reasons, but also summarizes the similarities and differences of * * *, so that readers can get inspiration from these cases, draw inferences from others, and then adjust their own educational methods.
This book aims at the keen and diverse psychological processes of 13-year-old children, reminding everyone where to pay attention and what to do to help them succeed in Du Jie. Looking at sad, angry and painful stories, listening to the facts told by children in interviews or the secrets hidden in my heart, I have mixed feelings. Perhaps the child's behavior in the case is a bit extreme, but the psychological process hidden behind the extreme behavior has the characteristics of most children. After hearing such a case, I believe that ordinary parents and teachers can also be inspired to accompany their children or students better after reading Binbin's analysis.
At any time, prevention always takes less time and energy than treatment. For children under 13, parents and teachers are the people who have the most contact with them and have the greatest influence on them. Therefore, in addition to the children themselves, the educational concepts, educational methods and living conditions of these two types of people are closely related to the healthy growth of children.
How to treat children from single-parent families? After observation and analysis, in addition to giving advice to parents, Binbin also gave three suggestions to teachers, one of which is:
"We should actively help children give full play to their advantages, create a suitable environment, help children overcome their inferiority complex with a positive and supportive attitude, and actively advocate students from single-parent families to participate in various activities organized by social organizations in classes. Activities and competitions are held regularly in the class, such as singing, reading, writing, calligraphy and painting, which provide a stage for these children to show themselves and find back their self-esteem. For children with organizational skills, teachers can let them undertake the most important tasks in the activities, thus cultivating and enhancing their sense of responsibility and self-confidence. " (page 77)
Binbin is one of the practitioners of life-oriented education. Her concern for children is more based on their living conditions, which is beneficial to their life growth. This proposal is specially extracted because I think of the "five management" and "double reduction" activities that we are vigorously promoting and implementing now.
The five tubes focus on students' sleep and physique, students' homework and reading, and mobile phone problems that make parents and teachers headache. The focus of double reduction lies in the management of homework and the standardization of extracurricular tutoring. The two activities attach importance to and guide the whole society from the national level to help children become healthy people.
The two activities were not easy, and the managers made great determination. At present, many online discipline counseling institutions have issued announcements to stop teaching activities and are gradually repaying tuition fees. The school has also carried out homework management, trying to reduce the workload and improve the accuracy and quality of homework. After-school tutoring is used to solve problems such as parents' homework, children studying late into the night, affecting sleep, parent-child relationship and so on. In after-school counseling, many schools have also set up many interest groups and group activities. In addition to daily sports activities such as singing, calligraphy, painting, basketball, track and field, various musical instrument classes such as Tao Di and African drums, and various scientific and technological groups such as airplane models and architectural models have also enriched children's after-school life and expanded their ways of success.
Since the implementation of the two activities for some time, it can be said that initial results have been achieved. Many parents are no longer anxious, and there are more smiles on their children's faces.
I just read a tweet-"After the double reduction, it is said that the C position of the square dance will be replaced ...", which shows that children have more spare time because of the reduction of homework and the control of mobile games. A large number of children appeared in the outdoor square and "danced" with their aunts. Children in some communities have formed cycling teams to exercise together. Some children, in pairs, play simple finger games and chase games together ... The activities are different, but the smiles on their faces and the vitality on their bodies make people look happy through the screen.
These two policies have directly reduced parents' anxiety and liberated children's time from the national and social levels. However, due to these two activities, the workload of ordinary teachers has also increased a lot. A teacher who has no leisure, a teacher who tightens his strings all day, a teacher who is full of pressure and an anxious teacher, his happiness is greatly reduced. A teacher without happiness can hardly bring real happiness to children.
The good news is that with the implementation of after-school service, in some places, teachers have implemented flexible commuting. Freedom in time can make teachers feel more free, consciously improve work efficiency and arrange things around them. However, teachers' happiness should be improved from the source. In addition to the increase in wages and salaries, it is also important to reduce or adjust some jobs.
Some departments like to cram some activities into schools and assign them to teachers. Can the relevant departments handle these jobs that have nothing to do with teaching? There are also some unimportant meetings. Can you stop the teacher from traveling by boat, or put down his teaching work and go to the meeting? Some meeting points, some work priorities, send a mass message, and the teacher will only watch it for a few minutes. Don't let the teacher spend one or two classes or one morning on things that can be solved in a few minutes.
Can you tell the teacher's teaching design? The new teacher just came in, carefully designed and wrote a detailed case, which is understandable. Many old teachers are familiar with the main points of the textbook. Can they simply mark them in books without using special lesson plans? Pay attention to their level, as long as they hand in two or three teaching designs for detailed investigation every semester.
How many pieces of teaching summary handed in by the teacher every semester have been carefully read by the leaders? Maybe sometimes you don't even look. Can the summary written by leaders to subordinates and the teaching summary written by teachers to parents and students be changed? When a person feels that what he has done can be seen, it will be more meaningful and valuable. When the people concerned do that, they are also more likely to have a sense of pleasure and accomplishment.
In a row of books, you can quickly find the book "Danger 13 years old" because the book tape is yellow. This is a color that human beings are particularly sensitive to, a color that is alert, and a color that conforms to the theme of this book. This book was included in the recommended list of reading a good book in summer of 20021Fujian Xinhua Bookstore, and it is worth reading by every parent, every teacher and every teenager.
It is effective to eliminate the danger of 13 years old from the source. If we can care more about teachers, it would be better to lighten their burden.