In "Dear Where Are You," Hope, daughter of He Xuelin and Ding Yu, ran away from home while going to a square dance with her grandmother because she heard the news that her parents were preparing to divorce.
In the latest episode, He Xuelin shifted from blaming her mother-in-law for losing her daughter to blaming herself, believing that if she hadn't brought up the divorce, her daughter wouldn't have gotten lost. Even He Xuelin's husband, Ding Yu, thinks so too.
The pop-ups and comments section were also unanimous in their condemnation of He Xuelin, saying that she had no choice but to get a divorce, which led to her daughter leaving the house, and that He Xuelin had "made" all this happen.
But I think the biggest problem with Yuan Yuan's disappearance is Ding Yu! He is the most shameless man in the whole drama!
Everyone just condemns He Xuelin for filing for divorce and thinks she is a pushover. But has anyone thought about why He Xuelin wants a divorce? Both He Xuelin and Ding Yu have said that He Xuelin wasn't initially this strong, so who made her this way?
It was clearly Ding Yu, an incompetent and cold-blooded selfish man!
Ding Yu, as a man, can't earn money to support his family and can't take care of his children. He has to go out on his own to make money from sales in order to prevent his daughter from suffering.
Sales of both work pressure and psychological pressure are huge, the performance is not good to bear the pressure from the boss, performance is good to bear the wind from colleagues.
He Xuelin is willing to pay for the sake of her family without complaint. But as a husband, Ding Yu not only hides behind her, but also condones his own sister to speak ill of his wife.
Every time Ding Yanzi insults He Xuelin, Ding Yu plays dead next to her. Only when Ding Yanzi was almost done cursing did he slowly walk over to stop his sister.
The funniest time was when Ding Yanzi scolded He Xuelin for not caring about her child for a few stinking dollars, thinking that He Xuelin was taking advantage of the world by leaving her child with her in-laws.
Ding Yanzi was like a mad dog ready to bite at any time, Ding Yu did stop her from getting ready to pounce on He Xuelin's body, but did not stop any of her words.
Even after Ding Yanzi said that He Xuelin had taken advantage of her, Ding Yu simply let go of his hand that was stopping Ding Yanzi and covered his mouth, was he afraid that he couldn't help but laugh out loud?
If his sister hadn't said what he wanted to say but was too embarrassed to say in his heart, how could he have reacted this way? He did not stop his sister the whole time, in the knowledge that his wife can not take care of the children because she has to make money to support the family, but also allowed his sister to say that his wife does not care about the children for the sake of a few stinking money, but also allowed his sister to abuse his wife, this kind of man, do not divorce is kept for New Year's Eve?
There is another point, Ding Yu this person is a man for the purpose of unscrupulous men. He Xuelin had filed for divorce with him a long time ago, but he has been using his daughter to blackmail He Xuelin.
He knows that He Xuelin can't bear to let her daughter feel bad, so he always relies on his advantage of spending more time with her to let her participate in his various plans to please He Xuelin, so that her daughter can feel that her father especially loves her mother, while her mother is always ungrateful.
He never bothered about what He Xuelin wanted, he just wanted her to accept what she wanted. In order to achieve his goal, he could disregard his daughter's health and let her, who has asthma, offer flowers for him.
In order to achieve his goal, he broke someone's expensive sports car and didn't apologize at all. In order to achieve his goal, he almost lost He Xuelin's job and felt fine.
In order to achieve his goal, he gave his daughter's teacher a big trouble, and still think it does not matter.
It is for this reason that He Xuelin feels compelled to divorce him, because a husband who can neither earn money to support his family nor protect himself and his children, and who only causes trouble all day long, there is really no need to stay.
And the reason why the child was lost was because she didn't want her mom and dad to get a divorce, but the more important reason was that Ding Yu threw the child to someone else when she was supposed to be watching him.
The loss of the child is of course a big problem for Ding Yu, and almost certainly his responsibility alone.