Children are afraid of life. Forcing them to take the initiative to say hello may do more harm than good, making them even more evasive.
When a child is born for a while, he may like it as much as he likes, but as the child grows up, he not only becomes naughty, but also wanders around the nest. I feel lawless at home, I can't let go outside, I'm timid and generous, and I flinch when I meet strangers. Why is this?
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Xiao Yang of Ma Bao, since having a baby, has taken care of the baby alone and started to work as a full-time Ma Bao. During the Chinese New Year, she brought her baby back to her hometown, 1 year old. The baby is very likable, not only by grandparents, but also by neighbors. The little guy doesn't cry or make trouble. Grandpa keeps barking every day, which is very likable.
But now that I'm over 2 years old, I'm not only naughty, but also timid when I meet strangers outside. I hid directly behind my mother Xiao Yang, even if I met my grandparents who I didn't see very much. I feel very shy and let my children call them grandparents, but I can't, which makes my mother Xiao Yang very entangled. I don't know how the generous little guy became so timid and generous. I'm afraid that if children go on like this, they will become introverted, not good at making friends with others, and will be born into society in the future. This is not a good thing.
In fact, Ma Bao Xiao Yang's worry is not unreasonable, but Ma Bao Xiao Yang doesn't understand that babies will go through such a stage in their growth. After the baby was born, he was not very familiar with strangers. Anyone who sees anyone can hold him and smile.
However, as the baby grows up, the baby will enter the stage of recognizing strangers, and will have strangeness, fear and resistance to people who are unfamiliar and rarely seen. This is actually the normal performance of the baby's brain development. At first, the baby can't distinguish and accurately judge the people or things around him. So he thinks it's good for everyone and won't resist.
With the growth of the baby, the baby will have the ability to distinguish and remember people or things that often appear around him, but will have resistance to people or things that are not often seen. As a result, even if your grandparents don't see it often, the little guy will still resist when he reaches the stage of recognizing people. This is a normal phenomenon. As the baby grows up, it will slowly ease.
How to correctly treat the baby's recognition stage?
The baby began to know strangers. Actually, this is a good thing. Parents should correctly understand. This is a necessary stage for the baby's growth and development, and it is also a manifestation of the healthy development of the baby's brain. Parents can't think that their children are timid, unkind and rude just because they start to recognize strangers. They often criticize and blame children for this, or force them to greet strangers on their own initiative, which will hurt their young hearts. Moreover, it may make children feel that they are timid, rude and rude children, and they are more resistant to contact with strangers.
Although we hope that children can be generous and master social skills better, the way to realize children's active social interaction is not just to force children to take the initiative to do it. It is best to use some euphemistic ways to alleviate the baby's shyness.
For example, parents can encourage their children more, introduce each other's identities and information to them, let them get the information they are interested in, let them put down their guard and alert, and slowly let them adapt and communicate actively.
In addition, in the face of the situation that children are born with strangers and resist strangers, we can praise children more than blame them and talk more about their advantages. For example, it is said that children are generous and polite on weekdays, but they may be uncomfortable today. Explain to your child that relieving the child's nervousness will make the child relax and take the initiative to say hello to each other.
If you want your child to communicate with others more generously and not be afraid of being born, then parents need to spend more time with their children and communicate with them more; Take children out to play more, get in touch with strangers, and let children play with children more; Or take children to parties and participate in group activities, such as square dancing with children. Or let children express themselves in crowded places, which is also a good way, so that children will naturally let go.
Say something sweet:
Children are themselves. If they can't understand children, then no one can understand them. Especially when children are young, parents are the biggest reliance of children. If parents don't believe in themselves and don't care about themselves, they think the child is timid, timid and rude, and blame him for losing face.
Then this child will become the saddest and saddest person. Therefore, when children need their parents most, parents only care about their own face and ignore their baby's feelings. Therefore, when the baby is shy, please don't force the child to say hello. Instead, we should understand children, encourage them more, encourage them to socialize in a euphemistic way, and find reasons from their own side. On weekdays, have you helped your child get rid of the shy stage? If not, then make a good change instead of criticizing the children blindly.
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