Why couples are still better than the original
One: understand each other and trust each other.
The original couple, married for the first time, know each other better. Even after being together for a long time, there is no love or affection. Don't mention divorce easily, because it's not easy for two people to be together. It's true to say they have no affection, it's true to say they can't find anything new, it's true to say they are tired of each other. As long as both parties have not hit a moral line and have reached a point where they must leave, it is advisable for each to take a step back and curb their tempers. If they can't leave, they shouldn't. After leaving, it will be harder to meet someone who knows everything and trusts each other.
Two: Both parents are already family and inseparable.
The first couple is very concerned about their relationship with both parents. Having been married for a long time, both parents have been their parents for a long time. If they were remarried, it would be hard to be so close. Even if the relationship is good, it always feels like it's not family. It's hard to open up and treat you without reservation. Even if you are really divorced, your attitude towards the other parent will still be the same as when you are not divorced. Because in your heart, they have long been their own family, divorce is not a small matter. Even if you don't think about yourself, you have to think about your parents.
Three: There are **** same children, parents are more loving and responsible.
This is especially important. Why is it better for couples to be original? The fundamental reason is to have *** same children. Children are the continuation of our lives. Parents are willing to make any sacrifice for the well-being of their children, and only original couples can do everything for their children, but it's hard for them not to. With remarried families, it's hard to really make friends, especially with the kids. Everyone has their own little agenda, and it's hard to talk about it wholeheartedly. The young lady before me is a living example. Her husband always treated her children differently than he treated hers. How can a mother not be chilled and upset?
Is it always better for a couple to be original
1. We have had a lot of ****ing same experiences and know each other better.
Many couples come to the end, not because they don't love each other, but because they don't know the skills of marriage management. The first time a couple gets married, they often have the most invested. Over the years, we have experienced a lot and have come to understand each other's temperament and habits. This understanding is the result of years of management on both sides. Any marriage requires bonding. If we go into another marriage blindly, we will find that we may not be as happy as we thought. After Xiao Yan's divorce, he once took out a letter he had written to his wife, only to realize that his pursuit of the current set of girls was so consistent with his pursuit of his ex-wife. He wondered if that was the case, if it was hard for him and his current wife to escape divorce in the future. He began to miss the good times with his wife. Many couples have conflicts that are not necessarily irreparable. When we choose early adopters to enter a new family, it also means that we need to manage carefully. If we don't know how to manage, there will still be irreconcilable conflicts in the marriage. The original spouse is worth cherishing because there was someone who was willing to cherish you and walk with you for so many years when you were young. Her feelings are the most sincere, but you remarried, sometimes both the mood and mind, can not be as simple and transparent as before.
2. They have the **** same circle with each other and their interests are fused together.
Secondly, the reason why marriages are good in the first place is that after years of living together, couples tend to have a lot of **** the same circles. This circle makes the couple actually, in a way, not just emotionally bonded, but also financially interested. In a couple's *** same life, financial interests must also grow along with it. Husbands and wives also make the best companions. A family grows from childhood to adulthood without the efforts of both partners. For example, as my former student said, it was basically both spouses*** who were able to go from poverty to stability in this small town. During those years of married life, everyone's interests are tied together, which makes the relationship more complicated than just saying you love it or not.
3. Having children as a bond between each other.
Believe it or not, children must be an important bond between couples. In the process of raising a child in the **** together, there is a commitment and dedication from both husband and wife; the child's genes are bound to be the **** together of a child's mom and a child's dad. We look at the child and we know that the child carries the ****same blood of both husband and wife; it is the fruit of their love for each other. Husband and wife, because of the child, are both **** the same guardian, many things have to consult with each other. Unless one spouse is particularly irresponsible, resulting in dereliction of duty, this irreversible divorce is understandable. But from a certain point of view, what makes the pairing good in the first place is that when committed to each other, both do their best. This is unlikely in a remarried family, and it's hard for anyone to be completely distracted. Even if a new family is formed, the number of members will increase accordingly, bringing more trouble and challenges to the existing life. Couples are still good to each other because they have **** the same circles and habits over the years. It's just that we are so familiar with each other that we overlook each other's goodness. But if we face our wives with gratitude, you'll realize that affirming your wife's past is the greatest affirmation for you and your future.
The font should be sincere.
Wang Hai and Wang Huanhuan divorced, Wang Hai can not stand the loneliness, and soon found a woman cohabitation. 9-year-old son awarded to Wang Hai, Wang Hai said his son is his, not allowed to his children and come and go. For the mother, for the sake of the child. Buy gifts, quietly stroll around the child's school. The news soon reached the Wang family. Wang Hai and his sister defiantly found Wang Huanhuan. "If you keep this up, I'll never see your child again," Wang Hai said, supported by his sister. "Don't come to see your child. --The -shade will cast a shadow over your child, okay?" Wang Huanhuan's anger was aroused: "I think what happened to the child, the shadow is caused by you" The two sides reasoned and quarreled. After this quarrel, Wang Huanhuan was disheartened and single for a long time. Five years later, one day, Wang Huanhuan did not expect his ex-husband will call him: "so long not seen the child, want him. He will grow taller, I'll let the child go to you." After putting down the phone. Wang Huanhuan still go to work. In the evening, the son called Wang Huanhuan, "Mom, we two met.
Wang Huanhuan was happy, but he didn't know why her ex-husband was like this. Things seemed to return to normal. The next day, the son went back to school. A few days later, Old Ma, who knew her ex-husband well, came to Wang Huanhuan. Let me tell you something: this Wang Hai is now single and has been separated from that woman for a long time. Wang Hai wants you to go back. The child is yours, and the family will live together. "Oh, you remarried! Originally, I came to talk about it. His ex-husband invited him. Wang Huanhuan thought: if you come out of the fire pit, will you jump back in? No, you won't remarry. So I told Old Ma. From that day on, Wang Huanhuan wanted to see his son again this time. You can keep coming back and forth for a long time in the future, so you keep calling him your son. One day, Wang Huanhuan called our child, her ex-husband answered the phone and said, "You keep calling, affecting the child's study, my son is mine ." Later, he scolded Wang Huanhuan in foul language, and since then, he didn't let mother and daughter see each other again. Now Wang Huanhuan understands that his ex-husband knew he wanted a child and used the child to lure him in order to remarry. After being rejected, here we can see that Wang Hai used his child in order to lure Wang Huanhuan into remarrying. Premeditated for a long time, it's a pity that cleverness is used in the wrong place. Such a man does not really want to remarry his ex-wife. If you really want to remarry, please prove it with your sincerity and actions. We thought it would be hard to remarry if he wasn't sincere, but some men who really want to remarry their ex-wives can't either.
2) Women are willing to remarry.
My former colleague Sun Liping is also divorced. When he talked to me, I urged him to remarry. I said, "He remarried without messing around outside." "Whether he loves or not, I will not" is so determined. I thought: this man doesn't have a second woman besides her. He's willing to spend money on the kids and won't kick her out after the divorce. They both still live in the same household. That's how you convince him. According to Sun Liping, "This means you don't leave the house after the divorce. You are separated before you leave. After you leave, as before, you go your own way." His ex-husband wants to remarry her. Sun Liping says, "Remarriage is impossible, we finally got divorced. I had to leave him. I forced him to leave. Shame, I dare not say, I just could not bear to have a child And, Sun Liping's family did not know she was divorced. But the man's family knows. It's not like they remarried. The man is hopeless. Later, I learned from Sun Liping that the reason is that the three views are not the same. Divorce is an adult thing, not a child's thing. It is not a child's object, it belongs to the owner. A child needs affection. It needs to be caressed and expects both men and women to **** together to maintain and pay for it.
These two kinds of men want to remarry with his ex-wife is very difficult
1. No money
When you have money, you are destined to be everyone's, but when you have no money, you can see who is the most sincere. When he really lost his wife, he realized that it was his wife who really loved him and was willing to give willingly.
2. When you need to take care of the child yourself
Many couples divorce, the child will be awarded to the other side of the support, the other side of the support. If the children are awarded to a man, this man who doesn't take care of the children himself will find it so hard to raise them once he starts taking care of them himself. I am also tired and want someone to share his hard work, and the child can't be without parental care, so I hope to remarry, but sometimes I can't face it, so I can only bury it in my heart.
3. Anxiety about remarriage
According to statistics, the remarriage rate of divorcees is only 18%. The difficulty of remarriage is one of the main reasons for remarriage. The parties involved may see the complexity of remarried families. If not handled well, it can easily lead to a new marital crisis. As an "experienced person", you will naturally be careful about this.
4. I feel the pain of impulsivity.
Couples are used to a regular hot pot meal. It's exciting, but after all, you can't eat it often. When many men get divorced and live with their lovers, they find that the lovers are actually far worse than their original partners. When the novelty wears off, what's left is the bare minutiae of a faggy life. Midway into the partner, may look at your financial strength, but the final result is not as good as it should be. Impulsive punishment, men want to remarry to take back the once safe haven! Is the shore, but often when you want to turn back, suddenly found that the opposite shore is not waiting. Overtime back, give you ready to snack on the other side of the person is no longer on the other side, give you a massage waist is no longer on the other side of the person, smiley face can not be found!
5. For the sake of the children
Children long to live in a happy family, and the divorce of parents will cause some harm to the children. That's why some divorced men and women choose to remarry for the sake of their children. Both sides should keep in touch with their children, so that the children can enjoy the affection from both parents, *** with the responsibility of raising the children, so that the children can bravely face the family changes.