When I was young, I liked to add to everything, and I always thought that the more I had in my hands, the more I would have a sense of achievement.
People at this stage are eager to socialize, and their overall personal style is outgoing, and most of them are happy to embrace the world and society with an open heart.
But as people grow older, their personalities and styles of behavior change drastically, because reality and human nature teach us that what we gain may not be called what we have, and what we have may be what we lose.
Eventually the test of time, still remain in your side and hands, only really belong to you. After 50 years, the most important thing to understand a few things, and they are often the eternal truth of the world.
1. Sincere friends, it is worth contacting
In fact, life in the world, really do not have to be around for the number of friends less and less regret and worry.
Because the law of the world is like this: the tide rises and falls, and people come and go.
No one can stay with you for the rest of your life. Your relatives and loved ones can only stay with you for a certain period of time, not to mention your friends.
Everyone has to understand a plain and simple truth: all the hostility, scheming, interests, and calculations in the world are normal, and others are not obliged to be nice to us.
So under this premise, only the kind of friends who are especially sincere, who have withstood all the tests of time and still stay by their side as before, are worth contacting, and they are the most precious treasure that God has given us.
As for the other friends who left quietly in various ways, it is good that they had a happy and simple time together before, and they have their own considerations and their own specific reasons for leaving.
They are not forced to do so, but they should be treated with respect.
When you are over 50, it is important to keep everything that you have worked so hard to accumulate, and to maintain an optimistic mindset, a healthy body, and a happy family. In addition, if there are two or three sincere friends, life is enough.
2. Lost, is not necessarily bad, learn to be calm
I remember in their own teenage years, I once bought a special in line with their own temperament of the dress, wear up fairy full, especially pure.
I really cherished it at that time, and the opportunity to wear it was also the most. But a year later, due to a washing time, I will be the main body of this white clothes, thrown into a few pieces of dark-colored clothing soaked, the results of it dyed colorful, on the spot scrapped.
That period of time, I was moping around, going out shopping, always trying to find the same style again, but never found it again.
Is that a regret? It should count, at least as far as I can remember. I suppose it should count as a gain.
How many pieces of clothing do we own in our lifetime, and how many can you always remember deep in your heart? Looking back, you will understand: lost, is not necessarily bad, it may become a precious memories, always with you, will never be replaced, which should also be considered a kind of harvest.
The truth of the world is the same, a lot of loss, and ultimately it will stand the test of time. To be able to stay in your heart, is valuable, if gradually faded into oblivion, then you will no longer feel much pity, that's all.
Love or friendship, wealth, status, fame, connections? All of them are so, learn to be a little more relaxed, a little more relaxed, cherish the present a little more, life is much more open and smooth.
Over 50 years old, these people should gradually learn to look down on the broken, there is no need to still be griping, in their own people are not good.
3. Cherish the people who accompany you, and don't worry about the ones who are gone
With the eyes of the people in front of you, it's better to take pity on the ones who are in front of you.
While literally talking about love, it actually applies to all interpersonal relationships.
The people who want to leave you, they naturally have reasons for wanting to leave. There is no need for anger, rage, or accusations other than respect and regret.
Originally, in this world, people just feel that the existence of the other party is very beneficial to their own aspects of the close, or three views, or talent, or connections, or resources, or status, or influence? And then in the dealings of the two to scrutinize whether they are the same kind of person, and then test the friendship whether it meets their own requirements and expectations, to decide whether to continue to get along with each other, or to let go at a certain stage of life.
Since dating is something that happens throughout life, and it is a voluntary thing that concerns both of us, then each of us has the right to stick with it or to give it up.
Over 50, don't be sad or angry that people who don't find it enjoyable to deal with you are leaving - it's normal, and we all have trade-offs from time to time.
What you need to do now is to cherish the people who accompany you, cherish all the present, as for those who go away, don't bother, the mountain is long and the water is wide, everyone has a piece of heaven and earth, we only need to take good care of, live their own life is good.
In the final analysis, all the things related to the word "love" in the world, in addition to family love will be due to the blood as a bond, naturally lasts a lifetime, love or friendship, there may be at any time to leave or lose the risk.
What we can do is just to do our best when we have it, and then wait for it to develop and change.
This is not something that can be controlled by one's own strengths. After all, we all have different ideas and pursuits when it comes to living in the human world. If you've got a friend who's been away for various reasons, you don't have to be too upset and sad, and you don't have to blame them for it.
Other people have the right to choose to be friends with someone, but we do not have the right to force others to pay attention to their own rights, it is so simple, do you think?