And Mr. met in Shenzhen, a year after the marriage back to his hometown of Changsha development, and now the child is one and a half years old, husband and wife love, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is harmonious, the baby is healthy! I also only did three things:
For how important it is to become an economically independent woman, I think we should all know, I do not need to say more. Economic independence before marriage is relatively easy to a lot, basically graduated from college have to work on their own to support themselves. After marriage, female friends to achieve economic independence, usually have to pay more efforts than men.
If you want to achieve a balance between family and career, both are not delayed, you must get the other half of the understanding and support, both sides have to have a "balance between family and career" awareness and behavior. Although both husband and wife have careers, but the two should communicate more, get each other's understanding and support, co-ordination, the family and the two people's work plan to coordinate. Two people are not always busy at the same time at work, can be in their own work is not busy time, more to help each other take some. This will enable you to get more support from the other person when you are busy with your own work. Women should actively seek the help of the other half, to take the approach of communication and negotiation, rather than beyond their ability to take on household chores, and then to half of the complaints to vent. Only when both sides *** with the same efforts, it is possible to do a good job of balancing family and career.
Take my own family case to share with you:
Our family is the mother-in-law with us to live with the baby, father-in-law in the old home. My son is more than a year old and very naughty, the grandmother with him simply can not cook, but we work will inevitably appear to work a meeting, training, or traffic jams late home! This way the family dinner will be very late to eat, the mother-in-law can not go to the square dance, this time the atmosphere of the family is embarrassing, we both came back to see the good face, the mother-in-law will say: the baby is so naughty too difficult to bring up can not be controlled, will also say that the whole day overtime also did not see the increase in wages ...... and so on.
Then I discussed with Mr., we are divided into Monday, Wednesday, Friday and two, four, six duty, every day must be punctual off, a second can not be delayed, to go home to help the old lady cooking, or with the child to play!
Honestly, this is a really good idea, and the benefits are:
If you don't want to be a full-time wife, you need to have a good relationship with your in-laws! Need them to help you share the burden of taking care of the kids during the day.
Husbands love their daughters-in-law as a matter of course, and mothers-in-law love their own sons that is an ironclad fact. The balance of the relationship between mother-in-law, husband and daughter-in-law depends on the daughter-in-law .
Imagine if "mother-in-law - pain - son - pain - - daughter-in-law - pain - - daughter-in-law - pain - - daughter-in-law - pain Imagine if "mother-in-law - love - son - love - husband" then this mother-in-law will be no one to love, the mother-in-law will have "son married daughter-in-law forget mother, daughter-in-law snatched away his son! " There is no reward for one's own efforts.
Only "mother-in-law - love - son - love - daughter-in-law - filial piety - mother-in-law" can maintain the balance of a family very well!
Ordinary families, especially those like my husband's family background (his parents preferred sons over daughters, and there were two sisters above him), have been protecting their sons since childhood, fearing that they would suffer and tire him out! Think if the daughter-in-law does not work, the whole family rely on his son to support, they are not heartbroken dead.
Usually can not be too lazy, go home and take a bath, mopping the floor, more with children and so on. Even if you are really financially independent, you have to be more diligent when you have money!
When your mother-in-law's birthday, you must buy a gift for your mother-in-law, and she will say that she doesn't need it, she doesn't need anything, and she will be happy to buy it.