So no matter what, marriage is not something to be taken for granted. When deciding to get married, you must consider the matter thoroughly and carefully, and assess whether the other person can stay with you for the rest of your life.
If you find the problem, synthesize the actual situation, can not enter the marriage hall, then timely separation is the best choice.
A good friend of mine, Xiaoyun, just got engaged to her boyfriend and regretted it, asking me what to do. Is it will marry, or break up to find the next suitable for their own? Here's a look at what they're going through that led to the regret of getting engaged.
Xiaoyun is a quiet and a little introverted girl, and her boyfriend Bing is introduced through friends to meet, from the status of friends slowly to lovers.
Abing is a boy with a high emotional quotient, and his pursuit of girls has always been a set of rules that no girl can resist. Xiaoyun, precisely because she couldn't resist, was trapped by her. From the beginning, Xiaoyun didn't like Bing that much, and agreed to be in a relationship together because she was softened by his relentless pursuit.
She thought in her heart: shouldn't a girl get married to a man who likes her a little more? In this way, you can be spoiled by the other person for the rest of your life and never have to worry about being cold.
The two have been together for more than a year, Bing usually treats her like a treasure, always warming her up, never slowing her down. As long as he could give, he would do his best to satisfy Xiaoyun. Although she didn't like him that much in her heart, it was enough to have him treat her with such a good attitude.
So she decided to stay with Bing, get married, have children, and live a quiet life.
Just at the end of last year, the two met their respective parents once, directly held an engagement ceremony, and then began to try to live together. It is often said that only when two people really live together can they understand each other's entirety.
At a later date, Xiaoyun stayed at Bing's house every day, living with his parents. They had just lived together for a short time when they realized that there were a lot of problems. For example, A Bing has the bad habit of indulging in games, and when he is off work, he doesn't do any housework, and he only knows how to play games. At the same time, also do not pay attention to personal hygiene, the home is a mess, every time Xiaoyun came home to always see a miserable picture.
On top of that, his parents weren't as enthusiastic about her, and the family atmosphere wasn't very good, so living together every day was worse than death.
After learning about these situations, she began to regret the engagement, and now just want to break up, but can not bear to hurt him, after all, in the past, he was very good to her, just behind the discovery of the problem has touched her bottom line, really do not want to go into marriage with him.
Like Xiaoyun such a situation, in fact, engaged to get married is not much of a matter, because they are only in the two sides of the first step of in-depth understanding. If you find a problem, then just solve it in time.
1, Bing likes to indulge in games, then you can first communicate with him to help him out of the game addiction. If he still doesn't change, then it's not too late to consider breaking up.
2, if it is because of the parents attitude problem, we are unable to change, then can be so solved: after the marriage of two people to buy their own house to move out of the house, provided that you love each other enough each other. This will no longer be a problem, can not hinder your feelings.
Only let yourself seriously to face the facts, and then make the final decision can be, so you can also avoid regret after the separation.
Girls have to remember that everything can be taken for granted, except marriage. I hope Xiaoyun can think about it, if you really can't continue this relationship, then simply, early separation, for everyone's good. After the separation, remember to return all the engagements, and then each blessing.
So the question arises, what kind of relationship is suitable for marriage?
Many people don't know about this, and then get married in confusion. Soon afterward, they regretted getting married so hastily, but unfortunately, there is no more regret to eat, unless the divorce can solve such an unfortunate marriage.
In order to allow more people to avoid the mistake of marriage, the following teach you how to determine whether the feelings of two people are suitable for marriage, you may want to try the right number.
1, in their own hearts to ask a few times "I really love ta?"
Whether you love a person or not, in fact, everyone can perceive it in their heart. The first thing you'll notice is that you'll be able to get a warm and happy feeling from the person you're talking to at all times. Sometimes, even for ta to go through the fire, at all costs. If you ask yourself, with this feeling, then you truly love each other.
2, you can tolerate each other all the shortcomings?
It is said that if you love a person, you will tolerate all the shortcomings of ta. In the process of getting along, if at some point found his shortcomings, your mood is positive, you can do to turn a blind eye, the heart will not feel uncomfortable or resentment, then congratulations on your ability to tolerate each other's shortcomings.
3. Are you ready to face the post-wedding life with TA?
You have to know clearly, once married means to face the complicated life, life can be firewood, rice, salt and oil, can be the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law complex relationship, can be a series of things for children. If both of you can have a brave heart to challenge these, to do the marriage seriously and responsible, then you can get married. If you still don't want to be bound by marriage and still yearn for freedom in your heart, then please be careful because such a marriage will not last.
In short, marriage is sacred, not a child's play, and I hope that every couple of lovers are serious about it, and think twice before getting married.