In order to make their children better, many families let their children attend all kinds of training courses from a young age. Dance, art, Lego, the list goes on and on...? I'm sure you'll be surrounded by many of these parents as well.?
But that's not what all parents want.
Wang Shuo said a very dominating quote.
Speaking of his expectations of his daughter, he said, "What do I wish for her? I don't want her to do anything. I want her to live a happy life, I don't want her to succeed. I hate this word. I don't want her to have to go to the hospital, but I do want her to have to go to the hospital.
Why did Wang Shuo say such awesome things?
First of all, Wang Shuo is already successful.
As a well-known writer, he earned money, resources at hand, connections enough, even if the daughter is not successful so what, there is a father, the daughter just do what you like on the good. Because lose.
So, as a parent, can you change the requirements for your child slightly to your own requirements. If you are a solid support for your child, as long as your child does not learn to be bad, even if you are not so good and can not earn so much money, what is the harm?
And many parents in line with the requirements of the child's good, so that the child does not follow the interest, according to the needs of parents to choose specialties (please, the parents of the childhood has passed, want to learn their own enrollment, good), the results will inevitably be met with the child's resistance.
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Let the child grow faster and better, teaching by example is the best education. If you want your child to love books, put down your cell phone and read with your child from now on. If you want your child to love to draw, you and your child together, you a I a sketched out a fun painting that we all like, rather than give your child to sketch graffiti, not only boring but also destroy the imagination.
I have a lot of parents around me are very hard, is to let the child continue to try, more trial and error, to find their own interests, and grow up not to live for the sake of life. When faced with a job they don't like, they resign decisively and don't hesitate because they can't pay the rent next month. In the face of a good opportunity, will not be because of no money and lost with it. The most painful thing in life is not that you don't dare to try, but that you don't have the money to try.
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Some people say, I don't want to be successful, I just want to live a dull little life how to do?
This is also perfectly fine, provided that you do, what you do not want to do to others. You can't see other people's children doing well, you can't point your finger at your own children, you can't see other people's children's paintings and pianos, you can't see your own children's children doing this or that.
To put it simply, if you are not successful, don't overly hold the fantasy of "hoping for a child to be successful", you don't dare to chase your dreams, you are muddle-headed, broken, and put all your hopes on your children. I have a feeling that I don't want to fly, but I want to give birth to an egg, so that the egg can fly.
If a family has to be successful, why can't it be the parents? Parents are the best role models for their children, and if they do a good job, in a good family atmosphere, the children will not be bad, and in their limited childhood, try their best to make them happy and learn according to their own interests.