I always thought my mother's life was particularly complete.
She is over 50 years old, but she is still slim. As a mother, she has been in love with my father for decades and has a son and a daughter. As a teacher, Li Tao is famous all over the world, and people visit her every year. In the eyes of people I know, my mother is a model of successful women. My mother always said that she had nothing to regret in her life.
But one day, after dinner, she mopped the floor as usual. There is a travel advertisement of a country on TV. She stopped suddenly, read it with interest and said softly, "I really want to go with you." Then I mopped the floor again.
I don't know why, but my heart is suddenly sour. And realized that my mother is actually a woman who loves to play. Everyone sings and dances while cooking, and they always want to invite everyone to try the new restaurant on weekends.
She is also a person who loves traveling very much. She often tells me about her grandparents' experiences of traveling around the country when she was a child, and also tells me that girls must travel more with the people they love.
However, my mother seems to have never left home since we got married. At that moment, I realized that my mother was not without regrets, but no one cared.
No matter how old a woman is and how perfect her life seems, there will always be a little girl who dreams of traveling with her lover.
Haizi said, you came to this world and you want to see the sun. Walking down the street with your lover.
If you love TA, you must take ta to travel.
Traveling before marriage is the best way to test whether two people can go on. Life problems exposed in travel will always test both sides in love. For couples who have never experienced the necessities of life, the choice of getting up early to see the scenery or simply sleeping in will be magnified to "whether your worldview matches mine."
How the other person's personality, good or bad temper, whether he knows how to solve problems, whether he is considerate and whether he will take care of others will all be reflected in the trip. Whether we can get along, or whether we want to get along with this person, depends on each other's patience during the trip.
If you have passed the test of traveling before marriage, you should travel more after marriage.
We often say that whether a woman's marriage is good or not depends only on her face. Every time I watch Gao Yuanyuan and Mark Chao get married, they become more and more temperament and charming, especially in the photos of her trip, when she smiles, she is particularly charming.
She likes to travel. Whenever she sends photos of her travels in Weibo, many people jokingly comment: Where is my uncle?
Someone asked Mark Chao: Why do you seldom run around with the perfect world without filming?
Mark Chao said, "I'll go with her wherever she wants to go."
In the comments at that time, I saw such a sentence: marriage is not terrible, what is terrible is the person who regards marriage as the grave. Since they got married, they have never been anywhere and nailed themselves alive at home.
I have seen many men cheat each other after marriage; I have met many women who only revolve around their children after marriage; I have also seen these married men and women complain about everything at home all day.
They stand on the position of a person who has experienced it, bite by bite "grave", telling us how terrible marriage life is, how dull it is, and how boring it is, saying that this is reality.
I remembered my personnel supervisor the year I graduated. She is 34 years old and looks no different from 27 or 28 years old. She has a bright smile and has been married to her husband for 9 years.
When I first entered the company as an intern, I heard that the head of the personnel department left the company, because the company was facing the key node of financing expansion and did not give her a holiday to travel.
The day I returned to work to give a report was her last day in the company. In the conference room, she asked me, "If one day, work may seriously affect your life, what would you choose?"
I especially flattered the company and said, "You can't live without money. Work is more important than life. " She smiled faintly, and then said, "Well, your report on work has been finished, and someone will inform you of the result later." I have never seen her since.
Later, I heard from my colleagues in the company that she and her husband made an appointment to travel abroad at least once a year. I had just graduated from college at that time, and I couldn't understand why travel was so important to her and her husband.
It was not until I saw that many people around me were married and then naturally lived a tasteless life that I understood why she had to defend her right to travel with her husband.
Even though the two people loved each other fiercely in those years, they always found that living in a certain stage of life would be boring and trivial. Love in the fireworks and greasy, blurred their faces, killing their enthusiasm. Since we are willing to submit to humiliation for the sake of rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, why not take a break for the sake of piano, chess, painting, poetry, wine and tea?
Don't talk about diapers, don't scold the boss, and don't pay the bill. You can relax and recall the good old days, dreams and long-lost sweetness will come back to your heart.
Perhaps, in the heavy and trivial, we have already understood the truth of life, but we still have to choose to believe in love; We have known each other's weaknesses for a long time, but we will not give up the person who will accompany me all my life.
Maybe this is why marriage is so bad that people still want to die.
If you love children, take ta on a trip.
My friend Xie wrote a story. When she traveled to Europe that year, she met a pair of China and his son. My father took his children all the way to European cities because of business trip. The father of the child seems to be a doctor who has returned to China. You can feel the peace and calmness in him and see the world.
Her father said something that impressed her deeply. He said, "I always feel that our generation has poor genes, no good material conditions, and no experience of the world. Such genes are limited by themselves and the previous generation.
Therefore, until adulthood, there will be a sense of insecurity in life, hoping to make money hard, hoping to get ahead, and trying to decorate themselves with materials. And I hope that the next generation will not do this. "
Therefore, he asked the children to see the outside world more and know as many people as possible. His children are ten years old, dressed simply, can take a long-distance bus to Paris, and can talk fluently in English, keeping a low profile and being restrained.
A long time ago, I read a sentence by Hemingway.
"If you are lucky enough to have lived in Paris when you were young, Paris will always follow you wherever you go."
Every city has its own temperament, which will affect you, change you and tell you that there are so many ways to live in life.
There is a question in Zhihu. What is it like to have been to 100 countries? One answer received the highest praise.
"I understand that there is no natural correctness and absolute political correctness in this world, and I can accept that others have different three views and their derived ways of thinking." In this age full of prejudice, incomprehension and even at first glance, it is very important to accept that others have different views and different lifestyles.
When the child really grows up, she will understand that it is not necessary to get married at the age of 30, and men do not have to be rich and powerful to succeed. If you love your children, you must take TA on a trip.
Let TA see how good the world is, and let TA deeply engrave the children's good memories of each city in their minds at the purest and purest time. He grew up, even if something happened, how could he give up his life?
If you love life, travel.
There is a joke on Weibo that has been forwarded a million times-when you stare at the computer, Alaska cod is jumping out of the water; In a daze, the golden monkey in Meili Snow Mountain just climbed to the top of the tree; When the subway is crowded, the cloud eagle in Tibet goes straight into the sky;
When you quarrel with your boss, Nepalese backpackers have raised their glasses and gathered around the fire. In this world, there are some roads you can't walk in high heels, some air you can't smell with perfume, and some people you will never meet in an office building. ...
Many people blame everything on life and reality, so they died alive at home when they were young.
Marriage and family life are really realistic, and each of us will face all kinds of pressures when we live in this world.
You look like those happily married families. Maybe the husband and wife haven't talked much for a whole year. You see, those who become founders and CEOs at a young age may toss and turn for the next financing every night.
I have seen local bosses drive luxury cars and live in villas. Who knew that he owed tens of millions to the bank and wanted to commit suicide secretly? I saw a sentence on the internet. Who doesn't love life when he wants to die?
I dare not say that marriage is a grave, but I know that life is a process from birth to death.
Life really can't escape, just like I promised to hold hands with my old marriage. It will accompany two people to their old age. We can't think about divorce every trivial quarrel, we can't think about parting ways when facing a partner who is no longer passionate, and we can't tie two people alive at home and can't move.
Just like everyone who lives in this world, we are all under different pressures, and we can give 10,000 reasons why we can't leave, but we can't stop forever, we can't be confined by life in a narrow space, and we can't be bound by reality at a young age.
Even if we all know that traveling is only a temporary escape, even if we know that after coming back, we still have to face the triviality and pressure of life. However, whether it is downstream or upstream, in the end, we must reach a settlement with water. I understand the suffering in life, but I still love it deeply. This is the meaning of life.
I have studied English for many years.
You can't talk when you meet foreigners?
It's all because your vocabulary is not enough.
The pronunciation is not standard, and there is no English chat thinking!